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Author:  Reflex B [ Sat Sep 29, 2012 6:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Journal of a freaking gPUA
Get to know me:

I'm a high-school gPUA, currently living in an apartment a roommate, enjoying my senior year to the max, no rules besides the law :P (which I occasionally break, but c'mon, who doesn't :wink:) I'm very interested in the arts, I took in cumulative about 10 years of art classes (granted they were all public school stuff, I did a lot of independent work and I do very well know my way around the pen and pad) I do a lot of dancing (popping, hip-hop dancing, and a little bit of breaking), and I'm just now getting into producing music (I was trying to learn how to play violin, but one of the strings broke when I was tuning it -_-). I've been learning about PUA for a couple years now, and I started incorporating it into my day-to-day socializing, which sorta became noticeable as whenever I started about 3 people I was interested in quickly became interested in me, while I was still an AFC in many respects, I guess I got by. Junior year I didn't really invest into being a PUA, but I was dealing with so much shit, who could really blame ya boy?

What I'm looking for in the game?

A lot of people look to get into the game with the desire to be THAT guy in all social situations (the guy who all the girls want to be with, and the guys want to be), which I personally believe isn't a good ambition just because it sets yourself up with the mentality that allows you to be susceptible to other people's views of you, rather than how you see yourself, as for me though, I'm already awesome,
1) I just want to have a good time.
2) Get to the point where I can look back at everything I say and think to myself "okay, this is what's going to land me in the friend zone.", "right here, I'm escalating kinosthetically, and setting her in a very aroused state.", etc... etc...
3)I want to expand on how spontaneous I am (Life's as much of an adventure as you let it be L=), I already have the "Fuck it, Imma do what I want to mentality in a lot of situations", but I want to start acting on it all of the time nowadays.
4) Last thing, I want to expand my social circle, like a LOT, I've got a pretty good number of friends, and I naturally have a very strong frame.

Plans

I'll be real, I'm not very good at plans, I'm more of a freestyle person, if I want to hang out with a person, I'll call them up, tell them, meet me here, and when we get where ever "here is" then I start to think, okay, now what? So, I guess the first step would be to approach more often.

I'm about to head out to work now, so when I get back tonight, I'll post up a Field Report from last Saturday, I think? Until next time Friends! :wink:
Author:  Reflex B [ Sun Sep 30, 2012 11:09 am ]
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Just got back from work, had a lot of car problems, mentally and physically exhausted, I'll try and post up the FR after I get some rest. sorry guys :(
Author:  Reflex B [ Mon Oct 01, 2012 5:05 am ]
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Alright, let's get to the first FR Finally! :wink:

It was the usual Saturday, my crew and I hit up the town square and I decided to play "Go" with my friends, I was the only one actually approaching, but whatevs, I was there for me 8)

First set
I turned the corner and there was an HB7 turning the corner fairly quickly. I walked up to her, and tried to open with a simple "Hey can I get a moment of your time..." and she cut me off and told me she was in a rush, etc., etc.

Lessons
1) Being blown out isn't that bad
2) When giving a FTC don't ask for a moment, tell her you're taking a moment.
3) Sarging with more than 1 wing-man can screw you over when opening 1 sets.

Second Set
Walking up the street with my crew, we were back to hanging out and scoping for the next set for me to open, while trying our best to avoid a huge group of white fanboys (stuff happens when we get hyped :roll:) a car pulls up, and drops a girl off (HB8) I knew, I had to open this set. I told my crew what was up, started feeling the Approach Excitement, and walked a bit faster to open the set from the side, I looked around and made sure my crew had dipped out of sight, and closed in.

I gently tapped the girl on her shoulder, and maneuvered around so I was standing by her side and went direct.
RB: "Hey."
HB8: "Hey?"
RB: "I just noticed you and thought to myself 'that girl's pretty cute', and I had
to come meet you.
HB8: "Oh :)" (she started playing with her hair here)
RB: "What're you here for?"
HB8: "Oh, My mom wanted to go to Nordstrom, but I didn't so I told her to just drop me off here."
RB: "Really?"
HB8: "Yeah, what about you?"
RB: "Well, I was here with my friends, but they ditched me just now, so I thought, might as well meet someone new."

As we were walking, we came across a group of girls, I took the chance to Kino and show physical dominance (or something like that) and grabbed her elbow, and ushered her out of the way of the group. (didn't really matter though, because one of them broke out of the group and walked right between us, I just looked at her with an amused & confused look, and tried to just move around her, but she blocked me again) after we walked past them, the girl looked at me and asked if I knew them :P.

After about 15 minutes, I figured it was about time for an instant date :wink:.

RB: "dang, we've been walking for a while, I'm getting kinda thirsty."
HB8: "(Half-laughing) why didn't you stop somewhere to get a drink?"
RB: "Let's go to the Starbucks inside Barnes and Nobles so I can grab a drink."

arrived at Starbucks ordered our coffee, and while we're waiting in line, she was teasing me and I decide to do a little role reversal.

RB: "(in a playful tone) Aww... you're flirting with me :wink: "
HB8: "(also in a playful tone) What am I not allowed to flirt with you, is it weird? :D "
RB: "No, no, I mean, it'd be unfair to tell you not to tease me, after all how could anyone help it? :wink:"
HB8: "Oh my gosh :roll:"
HB8 gets her phone out, plays around with it for a little
HB8: "How do you spell your name?"
RB: "Spells it out"
she gives her phone to me, does a shoulder shrug, looks down, and then turns her head ever so slightly to give me that flirting look from the corner of her eye
HB8: "Put in your number."
RB: "Haha, shouldn't I be the one to be asking for your number? :)"
HB8: "Geez, you're ridiculous :roll:"
punched my number in, gave her phone back and found a table

Sat down and talked, after a while, we moved outside of Barnes and Nobles where her mom picked her up, and I went and rejoined with the group, after all of that, an hour and a half had passed, and my friends were dying to get home, I called it a night, and headed home to reflect on my experience.

Lessons:

1) C&F is TOO good :twisted:
2) Kino Escalate more, one of my main sticking points
3) Sarging is really fun :)
4) Focus on learning one thing at a time and focus more on being in the moment, after all, why would I be doing this if it weren't fun?
5) Kino Escalate more
6) Control silences to peak sexual tension
7) Kino Escalate more

Open to critiquing, also I'm looking to add Fractionation to my skill set, it's good to have some of the NLP skill set. I don't really have the time to just go out and sarge all the time, so I'm going to focus more on opening whenever I see a pretty girl while I'm out.
Author:  Reflex B [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 3:19 am ]
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Small update:

As I can't really sarge b/c I don't get Fridays or Sundays off, I've been forced to opening random girls here and there, so in total, I opened a 2 set today with an opener of my own invention (can't afford to use other people's stuff, screws up congruency, as well as runs a higher risk of you being called out). So first let me get to the court mess :P. Also keep in mind that my car broke down Saturday night/Sunday morning.

Court
Recently I've been serving jury duty in court in order to clear a speeding ticket off of my record, I usually walk into the court room with a very positive frame, and have managed to befriend every official (to the point that whenever I walk in they greet me by name, usually with a good smile on their faces :P), as well as made myself the center of attention most every time I enter the courtroom. Last week, my attention was caught by an HB7 and I had used my positive frame, and social proof to get her to agree to going out with me this week to hang out. Today was that day :wink:. I showed up in court, scouted the room and found another HB8, introduced myself, and quickly became the center of attention in the room. (I was messing around with my tie, and she called me out on it, soon enough I had the entire room busting in laughter, as I teased everyone on teasing me, and made a good few jokes about tying ties. Before I knew it, I was standing up, entertaining the entire room, I've got a pretty good amount of social calibration now :lol:)

IOIs:
-Whenever I made a statement about something I like HB7 would usually agree
-Whenever HB8 figured I knew HB7, after some talking HB8 backed off me a little (prior to this she was having a pretty good time with me)
-HB8 was preening a good amount and showing some submissive BL

The weird thing is, was that she had a boyfriend, (she sorta slipped this into our conversation as we were talking about languages, while sitting at this table in Starbucks alone. :roll:) I had gotten extremely bored of hanging out with her, so I, in my absolute consideration for her :wink: told her that she should hurry and go home because my friend would show up in a moment, and she needed to do her homework. right as I was saying this my friend pulled up in his car, and I excused myself for the night. That was, until Walmart. :wink:

I asked my friend to take me to Walmart really quickly so I could pick up some groceries, as we were walking around ran into a 2-set and used my newly invented opener, rather naturally if I do say so myself :)

RB:Hey! can I get your opinion on something really quickly? :)
HB7: :) Sure!
RB: Do you think it's right to Friend zone a girl?
HB7: haha! no, that's pretty messed up :P (I was honestly surprised by this answer :P)
RB: So you're telling me that if you're friend, who you weren't attracted wanted to date you, you wouldn't keep him in the friend zone?
HB7: No, that's mean :P
RB: Well that's new :o

Continue with the conversation for a little, but not too long since I needed to finish my grocery shopping. Ran around picked up some more things, and I ran into her again, she waved rather exuberantly and we exchanged names.

Lessons Learned

1) When you're about to go on a speed date, or even go hang out with women, don't listen to relaxing rap music, it'll get you into more of a chill mentality and not a gaming mentality. (Dangit Kanye :P)

2) The moment I lose interest in a girl, is the same moment I stop caring.

3) KINO. KINO. KINO.

4) Need to set up a more attraction centered frame, not a friendly frame when I don't open directly.

5) I'm not completely certain how well the "friend zone" opener works so I want to try it out more with a more attractive frame.

6) Open sets with the specific intention of building either a sexual, friendly, or romantic centered frame depending on your desire for the outcome.
Author:  Reflex B [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 6:43 am ]
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Today was a rather busy day so I didn't get much time to actually go out into public but I'll just post some Inner-game stuff, and things I'll be working on.

Sticking Points
1. Kino escalation
2. Approaching more consistently, I've noticed that I'll use excuses, no matter how reasonable it is, an excuse is an excuse. Idc, if I only have 6 minutes, I'll at least open the set.
3. Need to bring in more sexual tension, and make a MORE attractive frame, opening directly invites her to be interested in you, but when I open indirectly I should be able to get into attraction fairly naturally.

Solutions
1. Make touching others naturally by making a point to make physical contact whenever I talk to people.
2. I have 5(?) 6 minute passing periods in between bells, therefore, I should make at least 5 approaches a day, when I have school. (I want to be careful with this as this could develop the habit of bailing out on a set very early.)
3. Be direct and comfortable about talking about what I want whenever I'm in a set, work on Kino escalating, and get absolutely comfortable complimenting people *it's not THAT big a deal, but sometimes, I won't give them the compliment, for whatever reason. :?

Positive Framing:
I'm noticing that I've gotten remarkably better at framing everything positively, I only say that because when my car broke down and I had to walk 6 miles-ish in the rain at 2AM-4AM I managed to laugh at all the irony, and chalk it down as an adventure and a learning experience.

Goals for the game:
1. I sort of want to try the FWB thing, but not too much after seeing what happened with Tony King...
2. I want to expand my social circle
3. I do eventually want a LTR, and I know that strikes a few people as strange here, but I can't help it, I'm not striving to be an absolute player.
4. I want to try going to a teen club (I'm 17)
5. Be comfortable meeting a new person nearly everyday in the streets.
Author:  Reflex B [ Sun Oct 07, 2012 8:28 am ]
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1st Real Sarge: (All just learning :wink:)

Primary Goals
1) Approach (2.5/3)
2) Instant date (0/1)
3) #-close (0/1)
4) Kino

I don't really get the chance to sarge much, since I work every Friday & Saturday night, but I decided that I'd just go to the Town Center because it's about 5 minutes away from my work place it's the perfect place to sarge before work, Not completely sure how populous the selection of good-looking girls my age was. After walking around for about an hour, and meeting a couple of freshmen, I realized, the answer suffered a serious case of Santa-Clause syndrome. It didn't exist. After walking around for about an hour, I swung by my car, picked up my headphones and dipped into Barnes and Nobles to read a little before jumping back into the field in an attempt to possibly "refresh" my selection, best plan if there ever was one.

After about 15 or so minutes of listening to music + reading, I headed back to the center to see what was cooking, I noticed a solo set, and my instant reaction was (Shit, that's the first cute girl I've seen today) I knew instantly I had to open the set, but I played around like a little bitch for a moment too long. I began fast-walking to close in on the girl (HB8) we'll call her "Scarf" for obvious reasons (I was wearing a scarf.) As I'm eagle diving into the appropriate proximity she turns inside a store (Crap. Didn't account for this) I turned the corner really quickly and after a bit of internal dialogue, convinced myself to go inside the store (it was a Vans store) I walked to the back wall grabbed two pair of different vans, making sure they both complimented my outfit to some degree, walked over to Scarf and engaged.

RB: Hey (light kino on the arm) can you help me out here really quickly?
Scarf: OMG
RB: ...? you okay?
Scarf: Geez, you startled me don't scare me like that :)
RB: Sorry, didn't mean to scare you there, I just wanted to grab your opinion on something, which shoe do you think would go better with this outfit?
Scarf: hmm... the gray one!
RB: Really, I kinda like the red one more?
Scarf: well...

and then a random employee had come up and tried to help me, ended up stealing the set (apparently she used to work there? what're the odds...) they caught up for a while, and he left to grab the shoes, tried to re-open but the set didn't hook, the employee came in right before I initially hooked :?

Newbie mission'd another solo set which proceeded very awkwardly...

Also talked to a few random locals along the way.

Lessons Learned

1) If opening indirectly you need to quickly move away from the opener to hooking the set so that they aren't bored, or stolen.
2) SOI's are very important to building an attractive frame
3) Approaching ain't a thing :wink:
4) Try to get in the social zone before approaching, low energy will kill a set without hesitation.

Next Steps to improve

1) Maintaining a high-energy, Alpha male frame of mind at all times, to accomplish this, I'm going to meditate every morning, as well as digging into some self-hypnotism stuff (This really helped REALLY kill some AA when I was in the field, when I was going after the first set there, was absolutely no anxiety, only excitement :D), and trying to deepen the conversations I have when I talk to other people *I'm an extrovert.
2) Write down at least 20 SOIs by next Sunday, and practice incorporating them in my conversations
3) Approach more, also begin approaching groups, I've only been going for solo-sets, but I know I need to move into groups and entertain, may need a better opener, or one that can transit into an entertaining hook much quicker.
4) Anchor a High energy state to clapping my hands, and rubbing them together.
5) Write down and practice 10 more openers by next Sunday
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