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Author:  TazzUno [ Sun Sep 23, 2012 3:22 pm ]
Post subject:  At least I didn't cry
I'm curious how many people on this site discuss their true disasters in the field, I give myself at least a little credit for sharing this...

One of the worst experiences of my life Friday night. Three women gave me a thirty minute rhetorical beatdown after a simple approach. Backstory: I had hit on one of these girls three months ago. I thought I was successful that night creating attraction and establishing value but I totally failed to build rapport and things went badly as my slipshod cocky-funny persona and ill-conceived negs (unfortunately I had just read The Game a few days earlier) lead the thing to go off the rails and her unattractive friend chased me away from the set.

Pathetically, this woman has been gnawing away at me as I simply could't forgive myself for blowing my chance with her and my oneitis has caused me to go scouring the local bars 4 or 5 nights a week hoping to see her again. Twice I had indeed seen her and neither time did I approach as each time she was with a male dominated group of at least 8 people and I just didn't have the courage or skill to deal with that. I had even been obsessively working on a speech in my head which I had been editing and polishing for weeks that was pretty much going to be sincere regrets on my part followed by some heartfelt stuff. So, when I saw her in a restaurant two nights ago sitting with two girlfriends I approached desperate for love and insanely convinced I knew what I was doing. Then...

It got ugly quick. "Are you really going to try to hit on her again?" were honestly the first words I heard after I said hello, spoken by the HB10s best friend, a 2 bursting with the most pristine spite I have ever personally witnessed. I said I just wanted to speak with "Jo" and express my sincere desire to get to know her. I sat down, unsolicited of course, and listened to a barrage of insults as I meekly tried to explain that I thought Jo was attracted to me that night and we were hitting it off (vehemently denied by Jo) when I became ungentlemanly. I guess I get a little credit for taking the abuse and maintaining some poise. The war pig just got angrier and angrier as I failed to react strongly. I suppose I stayed in set just out of pride; I just couldn't run away and took the whole thing as a challenge to see how well I could remain stoic. The problem was that many of the things the war pig and the other two were saying were demonstrably true and by the end I was genuinely shaken. Several of their observations:

'where's your bracelets tonight? we know you read The Game loser' (yup, truly)
'don't you think it is sad that you don't have any friends?'
'Can't you find another guy with a pink shirt to wing you?'
'how do you not see that you are totally creepy?'
...and a few more that I blissfully forgot.
The fact that I listened to this without putting up much of a fight I considered (while it was occurring) a sign of strength but I now wish I had high-tailed it out of there right away.

The only small triumph of the night was that I left with the words "I don't quite get what you are getting at, are you saying you don't want to date me?" but this didn't even get a giggle and I could not conceal the fact that I was on a wounded retreat. I guess here is where I would try to qualify myself and talk about the 80-90 women I have had sex with but the fact is I have been a basket case for several years now (would require a long explanation) and have no business hitting on women at this point in my life.

Not sure what kind of feedback I could possibly get here but I would be curious to hear some general responses. The debacle has lead me to reach several (obvious) conclusions and general rules I plan to follow.

1)Need to work on myself
2)Absolutely positively need a wing. I am committed to never going out again at night without one. These girls telling me I have no friends was essentially true.
3)Will never go out in my town again (and its 5 crappy bars) just to avoid having to meet these women face to face. I have actually somehow forgotten to admit to the most cringe-inducing detail...by the end of this set from hell there were actually a dozen or so people leaning in to listen to all this. I was largely oblivious but a crowd had formed. I am truly embarrassed to go out right now

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Author:  BingoBerry [ Sun Sep 23, 2012 5:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Inner Game
Sounds like you need to work on yourself before you work on getting better with girls bro

I suggest hitting the gym, that would be the first
theres styles inner game challenge(Basically just get comfortable socially, talk to 1 stranger every week, then 3, then 15 a month etc)
Build respect for yourself...Take up a sport/do something you love-get your mind off girls for abit

Kudos for posting that, took lots of courage

Also forget about that girl, no one girl is worth that amount of trouble! Especially if her girlfriends arent for you
Author:  TazzUno [ Sun Sep 23, 2012 11:09 pm ]
Post subject: 
thx.
Author:  ApplesNoranges [ Mon Sep 24, 2012 2:22 am ]
Post subject: 
Dude. Are you really going to let a couple of bitches get to your inner core? Some bitches having zero respect for you, insulting you infront of your entire town and spitting on your face like you're a dog?

If you decide not to go out anymore without a wing, and never again in your own town, they win. And you will NEVER become the man you can be. Be a man, get over her, get over yourself and step out in YOUR town and forget this ever happened.

Are you going to let someone else, some cunt with THE lowest self esteem in history of mankind, control your life, and make u into a pussy?
Author:  ChaosRifle [ Mon Sep 24, 2012 2:58 am ]
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Three words: False time constraints.

MAKE SURE groups you approach know you have friends to get back to. Even if it's not true.

Also, don't let them get to you. It's natural to be interested in women. If anything, they're the ones that are completely in the wrong.

This past weekend, I was at a friend's birthday party, and someone that absolutely hates my guts over something really stupid showed up. I ignored his obvious hatred and had a blast. It really got to him, but I didn't care. If you just don't let it get to you, you win. You can still go out and have a good time. They'll be wondering "Why is this not getting to him?"

It's their loss.

You just have to know that what you're doing isn't wrong...and don't obsess over that wretched girl any more. Move on ;)
Author:  TazzUno [ Mon Sep 24, 2012 11:05 am ]
Post subject: 
Good feedback all around. Right now I am not only going out alone but am going out only to meet women and for no other purpose and that just isn't the way to go. I had an earlier post about small town sarging and I do think it is a legitimate concern to not want to go to local bars; these gals could be run into at any time. If I were on a date they would be the sort to grab my date as she was going to the bathroom and tell her nonsense. I had a date Saturday with a Lord and Taylor makeup girl I met day gaming and we went to a place 30 minutes away. I'd like to say I bounced back Saturday but I was still reeling from the previous night and I was just not in the right frame of mind to entertain a woman.

The only good news is I do not need any encouragement to forget this woman: the spell was broken for sure.
Author:  TazzUno [ Mon Sep 24, 2012 11:26 am ]
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Also...curious if anyone can provide a link to the best post about dealing with a hot girl's unattractive friend. I know you are supposed to win her over first but it seems I am running into women whose only purpose is to find a conduit for their contempt. Could just be me though :shock:
Author:  ApplesNoranges [ Mon Sep 24, 2012 1:34 pm ]
Post subject: 
" I had an earlier post about small town sarging and I do think it is a legitimate concern to not want to go to local bars; these gals could be run into at any time."

Please man, listen to yourself. You gonne die if u run into them? Go out, when u run into them, smile at them and embrace their dirty looks. If you run now, you'll be running forever, no matter how slick u try to act, bro.
Author:  pyuya [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 2:31 am ]
Post subject: 
the women were criticizing PUA in general, not you. it is creepy and stuff to go hit on women at bars using the Game. we've all tried it and got rejected/embarassed by it often. thats why i hate bars for meeting women. good to go to a bar with female friends or a gf, but women are so unapproachable at bars. nothing wrong with trying PUA, its better to work on yourself though in other ways that are more productive. take a dance class. go to a mall and try new styles of clothing. earn more money so you can buy nicer clothes. find venues and events to go to. the women are also wrong in ways you will realize only if you do a lot of work and get more life experience and i dont mean the PUA crap. do improve your life and do approach women and talk and flirt with them. stay away from bars. you probably wont find a gf at a bar anyway. why would you want to get to know women who are so hostile in the first place?
Author:  Magnet (Yarry) [ Wed Sep 26, 2012 9:45 pm ]
Post subject: 
@TazzUno thanks for sharing this! I appreciate that.

I had my worse experience in the game 2 weeks ago...
I've been gaming for 1,5 years. Worked really hard and eventually I became pretty good. Had different MLTR's, SML's...but last 2 months since a breakup, my game
wasn't as good anymore...
well, thats fine, but this experience 2 weeks ago was
unexpected. I'm still depressed from it.

It's totally a different story then yours and it depressed me for very different reasons,
but in the end we need to share the bad things and pull each other out. Thats one thing I love from this community.
I promise I'll post it somewhere when I got time.

I hope you can fix your problems. What do you mean you don't have friends?
Are you talking about wings ? are there no guy's in your social circle who would be interested in sarging?
Author:  TazzUno [ Thu Sep 27, 2012 1:09 am ]
Post subject: 
Yeah Magnet, pretty much wing-free at this point. my couple close friends in the area are married and basically hostile to the idea of sarging and consider gaming a joke.
Author:  Magnet (Yarry) [ Thu Sep 27, 2012 2:28 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
hostile to the idea of sarging and consider gaming a joke
I know what you mean....Some of my best friends still don't seem to
get it...exhausting

maybe you should indeed checkout a close city
instead of your town...maybe even move.
city people are different then town people, you
could meet new friends/wings and sarging is
nicer in bigger clubs. could also do some good
things with you personally. A friend of my just
moved to another country and his game was
suddenly much better. He was stuck with
things here.

but I have of course no idea what your personal situation is.


checked this btw?
wingman-pua . com /Meetings

(sorry can't post links yet)
Author:  mother_fucker_2000 [ Thu Sep 27, 2012 1:20 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
@TazzUno thanks for sharing this! I appreciate that.

I had my worse experience in the game 2 weeks ago...
I've been gaming for 1,5 years. Worked really hard and eventually I became pretty good. Had different MLTR's, SML's...but last 2 months since a breakup, my game
wasn't as good anymore...
well, thats fine, but this experience 2 weeks ago was
unexpected. I'm still depressed from it.

It's totally a different story then yours and it depressed me for very different reasons,
but in the end we need to share the bad things and pull each other out. Thats one thing I love from this community.
I promise I'll post it somewhere when I got time.

I hope you can fix your problems. What do you mean you don't have friends?
Are you talking about wings ? are there no guy's in your social circle who would be interested in sarging?
Breakup? Watch this:[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-pzefexjQ8[/youtube]
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