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| Author: | chikin pickle [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 9:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | FR #1 Much progress made last night. |
Well Seddit here I am sitting typing up my first field report. I've been taking baby steps for the last month of so after my breakup, working on going out, conversating with random people and re-calibrating. Last night my game took a monumental leap forward. I was supposed to go hang out with this HB 8 that I had had a thing with a couple weeks ago. I was jonesin for a rebound though and was beginning to revert to AFC behavior so I axed it for a couple of weeks. Supposedly her brother disappeared with her car last night so she couldn't make it. As I was sitting on my couch about to fall asleep like a loser, wearing my blazer and cologned up I had what alcoholics call a moment of clarity. "What the fuck am I, an attractive, 21 year old man who is supposed to be working on his game and social skills doing falling asleep on my couch at 9:30 on a Saturday night?" Fuck this shit, I'm going out alone. So I did. I drove out from East Mesa and caught the light rail into Tempe. As I was on the light rail, a 4 of three girls gets on the train, and sits down right next to me. As I'm sitting there, making occasional eyes with the girl sitting across from me, I had another moment of clarity. Why the fuck aren't I talking to these women. One month ago I probably would have sat there and pretended to text people. Last night I knew that I needed to open these girls and provide them with entertaining conversation. Forget thinking up something super smooth to say. So I just took the first thing that popped into my head and went with it. I turned to the blonde sitting next to me, looked her dead in the face with a "life or death" expression, spoke confidently and said "I need to ask you a very serious question" She replies ok, "So I said, Are you sure you can handle this, it's very serious." She says yes, OK and I begin to sense that I need to transition. Excellent, my calibration is coming to me. So I just said, What's better? Pancakes of Waffles? She says Waffles, I go really? Waffles? Bam her friend across from me chimes in "No way, pancakes are much better" I lean back and reply, well what if the waffles have blueberry's and the pancakes had chocolate chips in them? That just adds a whole 'nother level of difficulty to this decision." Kept things going like it was a huge deal. So I said "Ok you two, fight about it right here. Throw Down!" Giggles, they start arguing about who would win in a fight and decide the blonde was the winner. Started to lose the set, and remembered that I need to engage everybody. I switch from the blonde to eyes girl and with enthusiasm say "Go get some of those inflatable boxing gloves, go to the mall, and just start punching each other in the face." At that point I was in with the set. Talked with them about Meth heads, bums, giving homeless people money. Transitions to eyes girl and started Isolating her conversationally from her set. But here is where I fucked up. I got stuck in a minor conversational rut. Which I most likely could have recovered from. but then I really fucked up. I had been so busy enjoying my random conversation that I stopped paying attention to where the train was. They got off, at what I thought was the stop before the one I wanted. I realized it, too late they had gotten off at my stop. Oh well, no worries I was in a great state and had successfully opened and held a 4 set (3 girls, 1 guy), and conversationally Isolated a girl I like from that set. This is progress, on the phoenix light rail. (notorious for sketchy business) A random guy came up and talked to me about my shirt (It's a band shirt, with a no-smoking thing that has a heart in the middle of it). Apparently he has the same tattoo, unrelated. Got off at my stop. Walked a Mile back to mill Avenue feeling great about myself. I went out to get some pizza. Eating my pizza and mobbin' on some soda and this random guy sitting at the place next to me starts telling me all about his problems. I am the kind of person that will talk to everybody so I just had a random conversation with him. Sketchy dude but harmless. Rolled out to downtown Phoenix. Got mildly AMOG'd on my way into the train. Complimented on my blazer, touched on the shoulder. Passing by so I wasn't worried. Got to DTP, and it was pretty empty. Gave a cracked out homeless guy five bucks cause I was just in a good mood. Coke for the day for him. Got hit on by a group of HBs in their 30's on my way to the bar one just says' "Ghost Busters!" commenting on my shirt. I told her that she had the wrong logo. Angle was bad so I kept going. Made it to Lost Leaf (an old house turned bar). Eyes from several HBs on the way in. I felt the need to talk to the girl next to me at the bar. Unfortunately I had lost my earlier state, blanked on an opener. This is only the second time I have been in a bar so I got my beer and went to watch the guitarist play. Met up with my friend L and his friend I at the bar. Had beers, got kind of loud. Sat around and shot the shit. They went to get more beers, and an HB7 came up and started stealing our chairs. I told her "don't steal those chairs!" I've got people sitting here. She asks how many, and lingered for a minute, but I wasn't quick enough on the draw so I missed the opportunity. Shot the shit until last call, and a 5 and a 6 opened our group. It was the 5's birthday, she was wasted, and clearly looking to take someone home. The 5 commented on my shirt. I wasn't feeling it so i ignored them. Made plans with I to go Sarging, and got invited to a kickback with I and a party with I and L in a couple of weeks. Bounced to the light rail and went home. I had a fantastic night, and took a huge leap forward in my journey by opening the 4 set on the train. I've got my body language in a good spot, and my voice, improv, and tonality are excellent. I need to continue working to eliminate conversational ruts, and I still occasionally fall back to them, and AFC behavior. Open the first HB who makes eye contact! Bars are a new venue for me, I need to push myself to be much quicker on the draw with conversation than house parties and day game. TL;DR: Made a huge leap forward. Learned not to over think the open, just hit it and transition. Enjoyed myself regardless of the nights outcome. |
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| Author: | Da Vinci 22 [ Tue Jun 05, 2012 11:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Well done |
Well done mate!!! Believe it or not, I'm kind of in the same boat as you. I've come out of a relationship aswell months back and now I'm back in the game, approaching and sarging whenever I can, so I know where your coming from. I've got some posts on and I'm posting yesterday's field report later on in the day, your going to love it  Keep in touch mate  Da Vinci 22 |
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