Introduction
Hey so I finally got in the field. Using this to try and realize how I can improve, Hope people can point out what was good and what was not so good.I am looking for some advice and I believe this is also good for self-reflection.
A quick about me :
I am a female and about a 7.5.
I am extroverted but I am on the inside an extremely shy person , who continuously pushes herself out of her shell. I come off confident .
I am a really dominant , I do not do this on purpose. Because of this I attract beta guys . I hate that. So I tried doing smt about it .
I made my eyebrows arch to show submission -
I painted my hair from black to light brown-
I look down regularly and tilt my head to the side to show submission-
On the outside its not difficult looking more beta so that I can finally attract more alpha males but its difficult for me to not act like a "boss" lol.
I fit the criteria of an alpha male -but I am a woman !
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DAYGAME
Ok so trying to keep the story short ,I was in Frankfurt for a school trip were different nationalities people where at. I immediately made friends with several men. I ended up sitting with 2 guys on my own for lunch. I run the convo with both of them.A third guy enters, we talk altogether. He asks me if I am taken , someone ask me another question the same time and I ignore his question. He then says :are you going to answer my question or is there a reason you ignored it ? I tell him I am single.
Boring talk continues. I come off really cool and confident-but I am actually really shy and nervous and I feel uncomfortable around the third guy. He is uglier from up close , I am not really into him ...
Next day , he is looking were to sit . I tell him he can sit here.
We start talking , I tell him I am difficult with food. He says if I where to get married with you what could I cook you then ? ,, I love how he formulates things, this guy is really intelligent and quite funny .Still dont feel comfortable around him and this ruins me being able to enjoy his company. I joke with him , asking where our honey moon will be and I call him husband. I can get away with this , because I joke a lot and am silly and he knows this. We go for a cigarette with a friend of mine and I laugh at my friend and I tell her haha babe your so funny your like staring into the void. He tells me he likes how I put it and we really are a matchmade in heaven. I tell him that is why we are married. I feel really uncomfortable around him and want him to leave- He invites me at his crib cuz he is giving a party- I give him my number - I dont go , but am polite enough to text him Im not going because he is a nice guy really.Question is
----Why do I feel so uncomfortable and nervous around him ? ----I dont even like him.
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GUY 2
I see this other guy at lunch he is wearing a blouse and holding a trey.
I dont know him but he smiles and I tell him I thought he was a waiter-
He smiles - I explain that the combo of his blouse and a trey made me think this
we then talk and I introduce myself.----We walk together and I introduce myself - my name is -- we shake hands and I instantly turn away from him with a quick bye and walk away with my friend because we had to go asap.
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Night Game
I am dressed really casually whilst I usually dress up. But I don't really care.
Everyone is really young there I am 18 they are 17-16-18.
I just want a few drinks and dance and have a laugh. I feel a bit out of place because I Feel old but after a few more drinks I totally dont give a fuck anymore.
I decide this is a good place to get practicing. I see this really really cute guy whom I kindof like . We had eyecontact a bit. I am at the bar getting a drink with my girlfriend she is next to me . I turn to him and tell him excuse me , can I ask you like a really important question ? he is like yes.
I ask him what he ate today ? he looks confused and answers a pretzel etc..
I introduce myself - I handshake -tell him I couldnt hear his name still am shaking hands with him for kino- then I let loose and I decide to leave without telling him nothing with my friend- reason I did this was because as I am a women I think- I have now showed him intrest but not too much because I just leave- now if he is interested he can approach me and we can continue our convo--
is this a good thought ? he never approached me and I saw him talking to a blonde.
What did I do wrong here ?what can I improve ?
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I meet guy 2 from day game
I go to him and I am like hey how are you - we chit chat --
he says he cant hear me so we go outside for a smoke.
He keeps saying hi to everyone and leaves me alone for quite a while--
I dont give a fuck cuz I start talking to other people - whilst he says hi to a million people -- We finally proceed to talking - turns out he organised the party we go to the bar he asks me if I want a drink - I say no .We talk more and he tells me he has a girlfriend , so to put myself in the same situation as his so we have something in common I tell him I have boyfriend - but I dont love him.
I ask him if he loves his girlfriend .. he says he likes her.
I tell him I want to hang out with and become best friends because I think he is fun to hang out with - he says he does not want to be best friends. We talk more - and I am getting bored I just want to kiss and go.
He asks me if I understand German and I say no so he purposely starts talking to the barman in German and he is like too bad you cant understand it. I understood parts of the conversation. Usually guys will macho talk to eachother but these guys said really nice things about me.
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I had spoken to the cute older barman before-
I told him to close his eyes and give me his hand and I put a 1 cent coin in it.
I told him this coin would bring him luck . I said so which one are you lucky in love or game - its impossible to be lucky in both . He said both . I said Im lucky in the game ( with this I mean casino etc lol ) He said yes but you dont have to look for love it will come to you .. I answer I am not looking for love , nothingwith a smile.
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The barman and guy 2 from daygame said I was cute , hot, sexy, and really cool.
The rest I didnt get. I ask the guys where I can go out when the thing closes.
The guy 2 tells me to wait so he can close the club so that we can go out .
Before the club closes the guy buys 2 buckets of beer and hands beer out to everyone ---all his "friends" I decide to take a beer . But I am thinking one thing - what is he trying to compensate for throwing all this money around ?
I wait outside talking to people and stuff he comes outside and tells me he has to leave but wants to hang out tomorrow night -im like yeah cool and tell him I want to several times.he asks me for a hug , I ask him for another one I feel he has a boner -lol--- I ask him for a kiss on the cheek I turn my face and kiss him on the mouth - we both laugh--
He leaves with this blonde girl and we meet him on the train station , coincidence much --
he is now ignoring me and makes out with the blonde girl - his girlfriend I guess.
I move one - figure if he wants to hang out with me he will approach me tomorrow afternoon . I will now not do anything anymore no effort whatsoever.
He doesnt approach me - he sees me the last day in the afternoon- he looks like he wants to approach me but he doesnt come up to me so I leave without saying bye or anything. This guy has now added me on facebook - asking me why I didnt say bye to him - and apologising - to what I reply for what ? -- I am short in our facebook convo I tell him I am off - he asks me if I am back later - I tell him I am cooking - we talk shortly after which I leave again. Not going to waste my time no more he lives hella far but I Want to learn from this case.
What does this guy want from me --- ? he is 18 , I made it obvious I would have kissed him he didnt want that - he didnt want to be best friends ? what did he want from me ?
Proper Night- out Sarging with Wingwomen
My girlfriend and me followed these random guys to a night club, because we had no clue where to go. These guys where totally not talking to us and not interesting .I didnt understand why because I am hot and they are not lol. Maybe that was why ?
So we had some predrinks and we soon got there. We set up a goal, we wanted to kiss with 3 guys. I am about a 7.5/8 and my friend is a 7/7.5. I am in the mood to have fun , I am talking to unattractive guys for a laugh , I am dancing and laughing a lot. We walk around to scan the building. Seeing as I am hell of scared of approaching people I like Idecide to approach guys for my friend that feels less scary.
. I have a bit of AA but the alcohol has lessened it .The first guy I approach I ask what time the club closes ? he seems to not totally understand - I ask him if he speaks english ? he calls his friend - Lameee
He seems uninterested because he starts talking to his other friend whilst another friend speaks with us- they walk off. We just got dissed- this ruins the energy - first start and immediately dissed- the insecurity hits in - my AA worsens- I drink more.
We go outside for a smoke and when we leave it seems like the guy says smt in German - I am now too insecure - and doubt he is talking to us - so I ignore .
We talk to some German girls - trying to understand German men.
They seem really shy and reserved. They tell me I have to dance with them first and stuff before hooking up . I am a good dancer but I feel like I am too old to rub anyones dick with my booty lol - used to do that when I was 16.
The girl tries to hook my friend up - the guy wants to but is acting weird- and my girlfriend has also been affected by our first rejection.
I approach more guys for her- they seem interested but my girlfriend is not too insecure to go for it .She blames me - You make things awkward by not making me talk to them - I tell her if you start talking to these German guys theyll talk to you all night for and you might not even kiss - and I want to also have a blast with you. So please a little less conversation a little more action
Thing is if you are in a club and start talking with a guy about school and whatever it is hard to make the transit from that to making out and being crazy.- It requires more time .
I am having more drinks and am now typsy- I dance on the bar , I am a good dancer. I feel like an attention seeker on the bar- but dont really care.
I approach this other guy he seems like he wants to talk I ask for a kiss on the cheek- I turn my face and kiss him on the mouth - I laugh - He looks confused and walks away -second rejection -
I am dancing on the bar again being stupid with this fat guy- I jump off.
There is this guy hanging out in this corner being hot with his other hot friends lets call him A-
there are also girls - he doesnt look around the club just at me .I introduce myself- we talk- I look him proper in the eyes --we talk - I make it obvious I want to kiss - we kiss. He is a good kisser. We sit down I sit on top of him
He is a good kisser- but I am bored now .
He wants to go outside and talk - He doesnt try and impress me - I like this
He doesnt talk much and I am doing my best to keep talking even if I am talking boring talk and rubbish. I start talking to an ugly guy for jokes and tell him I am married with A and we have two children --He doesnt seem to find it super funny but I do and I was getting bored so I continue and tell the guy ---we havent gone out in ages because we dont want to leave the children alone - they are always around - thats why we havent had sex in 6 months.
I make out with this guy again and we really look eachother in the eyes , we are really passionate with eachother - but I am getting so bored . We go on the dancefloor and I am still bored. He says he wants to come and visit me and it sucks we meet the last night. He asks me for my facebook. This guy seemed pretty alpha . But I am behaving again like the man - and I cant help it.
He asks me if I want a drink - I say no -Later I ask him if I can buy him a drink ?
When we walk outside I am in the front leading us through - several times when we move to places I am in the front - he tries to be in the front once- doesnt work out lol. I lead the convo -I decide when we kiss-I decide what we do. I decide to leave to look for my friend cuz I am getting bored- part of my boredom is because I dont totally feel comfortable because I find it annoying that I have to make an effort to talk - Even when I am dancing with him and his friend I am bored.
I finally meet my girlfriend again now feeling confident and we just fuck around a bit and I am finally having so much fun almost pissing my pants from laughter.There is nothing better then a girlmance. I can tell her everything and I dont have to feel awkward when I go to the bathroom or whatever.
I am standing on my own looking for my friend- we have to leave in 5 minutes.
And that is when a hotty approaches me . I talk to this guy - I ask him cutely if he wants to kiss me in German . He says No- he wants to talk to me and get to know me . Im thinking WTF is wrong with these German guys , they want to talk to you all night first before kissing you - which I find a boring waste of time .He asks me why I want to kiss him ? he says he doesnt want to kiss me because he wants to feel the love. I tell him jokingly I love him since the moment I saw him. I ask him if he is tired ? he says he is not - I tell him that is weird because he was running around my mind all night.- we laugh and he gives me a box ( like we are bros ). He says I am good.I look him in the eye and say I spotted him before liked him but was too shy to approach him.
This guy is 21 - he asks me if he can buy me a drink ? We have now missed our train so we choose to take the next one .
I dont know why and now that Im typing this its quite embarassing but I kept insisting I wanted to buy the drink - so he accepted this.WHY? like wtf is wrong with me . I do this more often , I like feel awkward letting a guy buy me a drink but still I also feel awkward buying a guy one ...
Then I took him outside leading him to the outside. We talked and his sense of humour was totally lame like I am so hot this that- I figured they where jokes disguising his insecurity.
I am bored and all I want to do is kiss him -he wants to talk - and tells me 5 times he really wants to come and visit me and he wants mynumber and facebook.
Im like yes yes blabla... I wonder what the hell I have to do to get a kiss these days. Now he does something goofy, he puts his hand under my armpit and smells it --- I am really embaressed and tell him smiling . He apologises . I dont know what to say anymore I am bored. So I tell him I want to marry him blabla...
I have to go and hurry up if he wants my number he is forced to walk with me .
Its cold outside he has no jacket on and walks with me . I give him my number and miscall -he cant find me on facebook -thats why I give my number.
The guy mentions again he really wants to visit me - it seems like he likes me - I look him in the eye a lot and want to kiss him- he acts hard to get Im getting bored. --the train gets there we have a short kiss - it sucksssss- his mouth is like really wet - what the hell ahahahah- he leaves and gestures a heart shape with his hand . I am thinking LOSEEER hahaha your going to be sick tomorrow .. but I quite like him.I leave to holland All the guys have added me on facebook - except this one and he seemed most interested. He has my number to text me for my facebook - but hasnt yet.
Whatever really, Never going to see these guys again, I quite liked A but I got bored-- but yeah I always get bored . what can I do to change my behaviour for the guy to take control - because I think that is hot.?
Am I finally attracting alpha man or where these beta? they showed some alpha and beta characteristics but perhaps they where a bit beta because of me ..?
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Also thought id add that I have never been in love and never had a relationship -because First I like someone and then I get bored and like when I get to know him I end up not liking him for the stupidest of reasons. What can I do to actually give someone a chance for once? I usually get really bored and stressed - Im great at pushing men away so I would like to get advice how to give men a chance so that I can have some boyfriends to better my bedroom skills with.
I am new to sex and dont enjoy it - It hurts like a bitch because I am so tight-my girlfriends tell me I need to sleep regularly with guys and I am not the type of girl that sleeps with random guys - because its awkward.So I need to start feeling utterly comfortable around hot men and actually and not stop liking them after I have gotten to know them.
Advice Needed really badly -
thanks to anyone whom takes the time - cheers.