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| Author: | chigurh [ Sat Feb 18, 2012 8:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Memoirs of a college student with regained freedom |
Okay, so I was in college for 3 years, and now I'm in university in my second year (one more year after this one). I've been in a long-term relationship which I just got out of, so I'm getting back in the game now. I used to try this stuff out when still in the relationship, of course never going any further than flirting with girls. My 'game' has gotten a little rusty, although I have some natural game to a certain extent. I don't have AA whatsoever and I can hold my end in a conversation. So this week, I decide to dip my toes in the metaphorical water, and went up to some girls. Mind you, this wasn't anything serious, just getting back into the habit of approaching and flirting on a consistent basis. I'll share the experiences I had this week here, but I intend to get deeper into the game quickly. Hopefully, by next weekend, I will have some decent stories to tell. Okay so the first girl I talked to was quite an easy one in retrospect. I was at this party a friend of mine organised, and there was a set of three girls. None of them was particularly hot, there was one HB7 I'd say. The reason I mention this set is because they came and talked to my friend at the party, turns out they live in the same 'dorm' as him, and they came to the party for him. One of them has a thing for him, and all three of them seemed in the mood. The HB7 had a boyfriend, so I learned from my friend. Didn't really pay much attention to the set at first, because I had some catching up to do with my friends. Later in the evening, when we were at a bar after the party, those three girls came in and joined our group. The HB7 was ignoring me, so I gave her a little subtle neg: I just turned her around by putting my hand on her shoulder, and I told her that she was being rude. Clearly, her interest was sparked because she was trying to get involved in the conversation I was having with some friends. I don't really remember how it came about, but I told her that I wasn't interested in her because I was gay. She didn't buy it, but I kept persisting. It got a little playful and the gay-thing became like a sort of running gag. After a while, I told her: "Okay you win, I'm not gay. But why do you care so much, you have a boyfriend anyway." To which she responded: "Says who?" With a big grin. Anyway, I didn't really get any further into it (I didn't go out with the idea of sarging that night, just wanted to hang out with the bro's because it had been too long ago, exams and stuff.) My friends wanted to go to a different bar, so I just joined them without saying goodbye to her or #closing. I didn't really feel the vibe, she felt kind of desperate, so I wasn't really attracted to her all that much. Two days later, I talked to that friend again, and he said that she couldn't stop talking about me, she called me "mega hot". I have this feeling that I'll be seeing her again, I'll see if I act on it. My friend told me she had been disappointed by her boyfriend on Valentine's Day and she was looking for some reassurance. Guess I was the right guy in the right place. I talked to some more girls later that week, nothing too interesting to share, just some basic flirting. Untill Wednesday. I went to see a football match at a bar with a friend, again not with the idea of sarging. It's a pretty cool bar with a nice decoration and such, and there are always some girls there. There was this one set with 4 beautiful girls. I had noticed them, but I was watching the game so I didn't really pay a lot of attention to them. I went to the bathroom half way through, and when coming down the stairs, I noticed this one blonde girl sitting at that table who was absolutely gorgeous. She made very intense eye contact for a long time (relatively long, since I was passing by) and I was blown away by her vibe. She was facing me with her back from where I was sitting to watch the game, so I hadn't noticed her before. Of course, I was paying attention to that table now. That girl really blew my mind. I told my friend about the eye contact, and he told me that he had noticed her turning around to watch me several times. (I was facing their table sideways, so I didn't see her every move.) That was the perfect cue of course, I decided to use the techniques I remembered from Mystery, Style etc... Game time. At the end of the game, another friend joined us and the table next to theirs became available so went to sit there of course. I gave my friend a heads up about my move and went to the bathroom again. When coming back, I made eye contact with her again and walked straight over. I used the jealous girlfriend opener (you know, the box under his bed with pictures of his ex, his new gf thinks he should get rid of them etc...) and told them I needed some female opinions. I didn't face her and really asked her friends, but she was obviously trying to get my attention by giving me her opinion passionately, despite me ignoring her. At a certain point, she asked: but what does he use the box for? I had to bite my lip not to make the obvious joke of course, and turned to my friend and said: yeah, what DO you use that box for? And he looked at the girls and said: "To jerk off, duh." And turned around again Anyway, I was a little to keen on gaming the blonde, since I was so enchanted by her looks and her charisma, her vibe. I was kinding feeling like the discussion was running to an end, so I used Mystery's linking question to mid-game: "So how do you guys know each other?" And one of them said: we know each other from high school. I kind of started panicking (that rarely happens to me) because I didn't really feel like I was in the zone. I was just too anxious about talking to this girl, it felt like the stakes were too high because I didn't want to screw up. Anyway, it kind of ended in small talk with the blonde, but I completely forgot to be C&F, neg her and all those other basics. Normally when the conversation is starting to turn to small talk, I say something like "wow, really? Small talk already? You must have something more interesting to say." Or something to that effect. I simply didn't think about it this time. To sum up, this wasn't successful at all, I completely screwed up by being boring, straightforward and too keen. That's why this was more interesting to me in retrospect. I have thought about this 'play' over and over again, thinking where it went wrong. 1) I used a canned opener but didn't really have any follow-up game. The opener did its work, all of the girls were engaged in the conversation, but asking them how they know each other kind of turned the interest down. I felt like I came across predictable, boring, bringing a lower energy than when they were talking to each other. 2) I wasn't cocky funny at all, I completely forgot to because I was so impressed by this girl. I should keep my cool next time, because it's inevitable to come across as too keen when you're that attracted to a girl. I should have focussed on her friends for longer, then neg her for trying to interrupt the conversation etc... 3) My body language. When the conversation kind of died out, I was standing there at their table too needy and weak. I completely forgot to get into a comfortable, strong position. In the end I was kind of leaning in to her, and it was too easy for them to block me out. Not that she was rude to me, but it I just didn't feel strong standing there. Any other thoughts? |
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