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| Author: | IagoSydney [ Fri Oct 14, 2011 12:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | First field report from a noob getting into the game |
I went out to a club last night in North Sydney for my first serious sarging session. The experiences I had interacting with girls have caused me to make some fairly significant changes in the way I see the game. There are also some slightly less important points which are probably obvious to the rest of you. Ill start with the lesser points: 1. A direct approach such as when approaching a two set "I just wanted to come over and tell you two that you're both fucking hot" isn't something that should be used by someone who is just starting out in PU. The reason being that if I can't sustain that high sexual energy, it can get fucking awkward. If I tell a girl I'd like to fuck her and then run out of things to say, it makes for a really fucking awkward silence. I think in the future I'm going to start out with a more subtle opener and then build and escalate. I recon its more fun that way anyway. 2. I gathered from some of the material i've read that when I approach a set, I should initially ignore my target. I wasn't even really trying to do this last night, but this morning when i was thinking over my approaches, it struck me that this would be pretty difficult to do. I have a feeling it would be difficult to transition from ignoring your target to then making an emotional and then physical connection. Something I'll have to think about. Things I realised about the "bigger picture" 1. Last night my goal was to plain and simple get a kiss close. It struck me that if this is my goal, then I'm inherently going to come across as needy, because well, i need something from the girls. I think in the future, even if my goal is to kiss close, then I need to act as if it could go much further. If I go over to a girland in my head im thinking "All I want to do is ram my tongue down this chicks throat" then girls are probably going to pick up on that and reject me. I think I need to act as if there is no limit to where the encounter could go and not that I will just hook up with the girl and never talk to her again. If I can successfully create this frame, then a kiss close will just be a stepping stone in a much bigger picture and will seem like less of a big deal to both her and me (and therefore it will more likely happen). 2. I also realised that even though I ultimately want to get a fuck close, im not prepared to spend the time necessary to do this. In the book "The Game" I think I read somewhere that most women need to spend at least 6 hours with you before they are comfortable having sex (obviously there are exceptions to this rule). At the moment, I want things to happen too quickly, which probably stems from an irrational belief that if the girl actually gets to know me she won't like me and therefore would never be DTF. I recon I need to consider getting fuck closes as little projects where I work on them over an extended period of time. Delayed gratification i suppose. Anyway that's pretty much the insights that I gathered. I know I'm not a fluent writer but I think there might be some value in my ramblings. If anyone has any comments about what I said then feel free to post. Cheers, Iago |
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