Hi,
New to the forum, been a passive browser for awhile gathering new skills after a LTR.
Registered recently because I feel I have something worthy to contribute.
After several years (13 to be exact) with a feisty redhead who turned out to be
an undermedicated basket case, I have some good insight into shit tests and being Alpha that I want to share with the community.
Yes I was a bad husband, yes I am a womanizer, yes I made mistakes ,but I cant help myself. I AM Alpha. The way I see it
(besides the undermedication bit) I did not direct my womans energy to compliment mine well enough to balance my drive and my core needs.
Although my situation was extreme, It feel I emerged with a view and skillset that many of you will benefit from, feel free to comment.
No im not promoing a book or system or selling out so bear with me.
Shit tests are inevitable, constant and will never go away regardless of the level or stage of a relationship !
You as a bona fide Alpha male just have to learn how to deal with them !
Forget about the common misconpception that shit tests only happen early in the female screening process at pick up.
Women do this subconciously and it is part of feminine nature and of feminine energy( I will dwelve on this in another post )
Guess what, Both women and men have both masculine and feminine qualities and energy. That which is expressed as man or woman
is the degree or balance of these two traits. The more Alpha male the more masculine traits than feminine, and vice versa.
The more Alpha you are the more you will be attracted to the more feminine and again vice versa. BUT you will never find someone who is 100 %
Still with me ?
Think of it as "being caveman" as an extreme of Alpha (insensitive to the feminine persona yet attractive at the instictive "limbic system primitive brain or hard wired as is commonly known" and being the nice guy who sucks up to every womens wims in a pathetic attempt to maybe get her to have sex with you. (what I like to call the "Omega" male)
At the beginning, shit tests can be a fun challenge and even a turn on. BUT they can become frustrating and make you resent her.
You might be asking yourself why is she still playing head games with me ? Have I not proved my Alphaness ?
She cant help it, If you are TRULY Alpha, and mysterious and a challenge and all the crap that makes you attractive to her she will still always be uncertain and will be always trying to Confirm, not gain
YOUR approval and your unyielding Alphaness unaffected by what life throws at you !! She will continually shit test you to make sure you are
not just faking it OR ARE AN OMEGA MALE IN DISGUISE ! Are you still trustable ?
Get it ?
Here is where many men !@## up . They resign, they give up and they tolerate her mood swings and her self destructive moods. They try to avoid the
conflict. What happens ? He loses his edge and becomes weak. He becomes one who seeks trying to escape her moods and in her eyes, your leadership .
You lose the Alphaness you have established and once you reach this level it is very difficult to get it back !
As Alpha YOU SHOULD NEVER, EVER, TOLERATE BITCHY COMPLAINING BEHAVIOR. PERIOD.
Shit tests come in many forms,
Like tests of your willingness to please her and to what depth you are willing to do so.
How you react when she changes her mind.
Testing your resolve ( do yo constantly flake on future plans?)
Sometimes only to see if you still have focus while trying to distract you. Yes she really is trying to undermine you ! Can you handle it? because if you cant, then in her eyes you are not a true leader and not a true Alpha !
Ok, I realise that this post is long and full of big words but I did warn you
So how should you handle it ?
Ask yourself, how should an Alpha male handle these tests ?
WTF is driving her to constantly drill me ? Is she really that much of a sadistic bitch ?
( I'm sorry but dont forget I just escaped from crazy bitch island)
WTF does she want ? ex ** you ** whats wrong ? *** her *** nothing