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When I'm around people I am comfortable with, I act like the Alpha in a group. I can be cocky, funny, happy and lead interactions, make jokes, generally have a good time.
When I'm with people who I view as 'better' than me or people that actually knock my confidence with 'banter' that I take to heart, I crawl into a fucking shell and just hide. I feel like I don't fit in and don't want to be around them (although my circumstances mean I have to spend an awful lot of time with them).
What do you guys suggest is the problem ?
/Prophet
Situational Confidence. http://lmgtfy.com/?q=situational+confidence That's the core issue. Being in your comfort zone and all that.When I'm around people I am comfortable with, I act like the Alpha in a group. I can be cocky, funny, happy and lead interactions, make jokes, generally have a good time.
When I'm with people who I view as 'better' than me or people that actually knock my confidence with 'banter' that I take to heart, I crawl into a fucking shell and just hide. I feel like I don't fit in and don't want to be around them (although my circumstances mean I have to spend an awful lot of time with them).
What do you guys suggest is the problem ?
/Prophet
I just briefly and quickly glanced at the links, but it did look like most of them have some helpful information.
I'd get more into it but it's really late and I need to get some sleep but I'll tell you that you're really well on the right track. Being able to confidently interact with people in at least one situation is a really good thing. You can easily and confidently expand that to all situations because you can clearly see the issue and communicate it well here.
Oh, and stop looking at things as "problems", it's a negative mindset. Instead, look at them as "things to progress at" or "situations". Consistently swapping out a word like "problem" with a more neutral or positive word inside your mind will always improve your results regarding becoming more confident. For example a mindset that produces "What do you all suggest might be some factors I can focus on" is a million light years from thinking that produces "What do you guys suggest is the problem".
I need to really get some sleep...I'll mark this as a "watch" thread and am sure you'll be able to get a more clear perspective by looking up Situation Confidence as well as others who will reply with helpful information.