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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 5:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I wonder if the community makes us(me)weak. |
Apologies if my posts arent paragraphed correctly since Im poting from a mobile browser. Im currently going through a so-called break-up with my MILF gf. Im only human,so depite sarging,I feel shitty due to the looming break-up. Common sense would tell anyone in my situation to move on,freeze her out,F**k it! She doesnt value me,respects me;I admit it's my fault for allowing her too much control. But any sane guy would flee and would've fled from 1st round of direspects and being treated worthlessly. But some how,it seems hard for community guys to do the wise thing to move on. My uncle,an AFC/nice guy with a bit of natural game,but doesnt know shit about the community,his LTR of over 2 years ended 3 weeks ago. He had the balls to leave! He had the balls to kick out his ex- and sent her to live with her mother! Word is,she treats him like shit,and he dumps her and seems to mean it because he's been vibing with another girl. Word in the neighborhood is that she's hurting,regretful and shocked! An AFC like my uncle can be assertive enough to dump his gf of 2 years who treated him bad. My current gf,or so-called ex- treats me like shit,no respects-yet I never had the balls in 2 years to dump her. I took all of her BS for 2 years but was always afraid to bail. Despite I still sarged and had many girls on the back-burner,I still didnt have the balls to get out of an LTR which is killing me. Yet my uncle who knows nothing of game(community),he didnt have any girls on his back-burner,no options,yet her still dumped his gf and preferes to be alone rather than stay with her. I have many options!!! I have game,I sarge daily,I know the PU community... Despite having many options if I'd left my gf,I still was too pussy to bail! Funny how before I discovered the community,I was a nice guy with some natural game since a teen. I had the balls to bail and give up on a girl;even a relationship I was in as a nice guy,I broke up with my then gf. Since I've been in the community,I cant seem to let go easily as when I was a nice guy AFC. I love-inner game stuff;my favorite part of PU,so it's not that I lack knowledge of inner game. But when I knew nothing of inner game,I was secure enough to just walk and dont look back on any specific chicc. Perhaps it's maturity,the older I got(Im 28),the more I became diplomatic and reasoning and willing to "work it out" than bail. But my uncle's way older than I am,yet he still bailed on his gf. My point here isnt to "leave the community". I just dont understand the paradox here. I should be more secure now in breaking up,knowing that I have options. But years ago, I was secure as an AFC to break up knowing I had no option in women. The community helps me on being rational,reasonable & diplomatic in relations'. But guys who dont have the community's rationality on LTR,that ignorance makes them more wiilling to walk away and be irrational. It's like ignorance makes us bullet proof and have a detached mentality. If I believe tossing someone from a 50 floor-high building wont kill that person,then it wont be difficult to toss them off and walk away. But we in the community know that tossing s.o.out that building will kill them,so we become rational,try save that person and not toss them off the building. But what if that s.o. keeps messing with you,should the rational guy toss them eventually? Because just walking away isnt easy since we have knowledge & rationality down to a science. So walking away isnt as easy as it is for the ignorant person to do. Just brain storming. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 9:19 pm ] |
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@Hobbit-I get the concept of what you're saying. I love the community so Im not blaming it for my shortcomings-at least not consciously. I get the karate metaphor. It's a bit heavy but I'd have to break it down. I guess it's putting things(inner game)to practice and not just browsing an article and say,"wow,I know inner game(lol)". Im twenty eight years old so I was way too young to remember the 80's. Much props on the reply Hobbit & the kasabi quote. |
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