PUA Forum :: Convincing myself that I do something wrong- when I don't.

The past happened, don't live in denial. I'll be honest, listening to you whine here, you're a needy, desperate, shell of a guy and I wouldn't want to hang out with you a second time either. You're ugly (not physically). Nobody likes that. The problem isn't these girls and it's not your competition. There will always be tons of competition and if a girl likes you, she'll start screwing up other parts of her life a little to spend time with you. Girls are always down to spend time with a quality man. The problem is definitely YOU.

You have a month. I suggest you find some things to like about yourself. And if you can't, then you're not a worthwhile person and this is why no-one gives you a follow up date. If you're really stuck, why don't you post a video on here that shows your personality and we can rip into you and point out the behaviors/language that make you negative/unlikeable.

Author:	Don Juan 89 [ Wed Jul 21, 2010 6:48 am ]
Post subject:	Convincing myself that I do something wrong- when I don't.
I have updated this post after analyzing myself for an entire day. My original post was about how I don't really get day 2's with girls. This did make me sound like a whiney little bitch, similar to what Minsok said. It was so hard to find the problem because a lot of people think that I am a pretty cool and likable guy. I even began to look externally for problems. The funny thing about the entire situation was when I reviewed every girl in my phonebook today. To my surprise, I have had a lot of day 2 meet ups within the past year. I just convinced myself that there was something wrong with my game so that no girls want to meet up with me again. The reason why I couldn't find a big problem was because there was never a problem to begin with. Honestly, I do have a problem though. I legitimately convinced myself that I do not get day 2's with girls, even when I have a pretty good success rate. I was looking for a problem with myself when there was nothing wrong. I have more of an internal problem where I am convincing myself that "I can't do [insert a verb]." I think this may have been the result of me not getting laid in about 2 years prior to my discovery of pickup. It stressed me out a lot. I am a confident guy, but I criticize myself when there is nothing wrong sometimes. I think I just trained myself to do that because I used to be socially awkward up until the age of 19. I think that I am so used to thinking that I did something wrong, that I will criticize myself (even when the problem is not rational). I just need some advice towards how I should eliminate this mindset that 'I am always doing something wrong.' Most of the time, I am not doing something wrong. I am just rationalizing that I did something wrong. This is really the last flaw terrible flaw in my confidence. If you have any advice please let me know. Thanks!

Author:	minsok [ Wed Jul 21, 2010 11:28 am ]
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The past happened, don't live in denial. I'll be honest, listening to you whine here, you're a needy, desperate, shell of a guy and I wouldn't want to hang out with you a second time either. You're ugly (not physically). Nobody likes that. The problem isn't these girls and it's not your competition. There will always be tons of competition and if a girl likes you, she'll start screwing up other parts of her life a little to spend time with you. Girls are always down to spend time with a quality man. The problem is definitely YOU. You have a month. I suggest you find some things to like about yourself. And if you can't, then you're not a worthwhile person and this is why no-one gives you a follow up date. If you're really stuck, why don't you post a video on here that shows your personality and we can rip into you and point out the behaviors/language that make you negative/unlikeable.

Author:	Don Juan 89 [ Wed Jul 21, 2010 6:47 pm ]
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Quote: The past happened, don't live in denial. I'll be honest, listening to you whine here, you're a needy, desperate, shell of a guy and I wouldn't want to hang out with you a second time either. You're ugly (not physically). Nobody likes that. The problem isn't these girls and it's not your competition. There will always be tons of competition and if a girl likes you, she'll start screwing up other parts of her life a little to spend time with you. Girls are always down to spend time with a quality man. The problem is definitely YOU. You have a month. I suggest you find some things to like about yourself. And if you can't, then you're not a worthwhile person and this is why no-one gives you a follow up date. If you're really stuck, why don't you post a video on here that shows your personality and we can rip into you and point out the behaviors/language that make you negative/unlikeable. Hey I updated the post... kind of odd, but I was actually getting more meetups than I thought. I definitely agree though that there is a bit of a problem with me. Honestly, I don't think that there is anything wrong with me, considering that I was having a lot of second meet-ups (just not a 100% success rate with sex). Sadly, I don't like myself sometimes, even when people think that I am a pretty cool guy. I even have several HB10 friends, back from when I was an AFC (yeah I used to get friend-zoned most of the time in high school). Fortunately, they still love to hang out with me. They always tell me that there is nothing wrong with me and that I think about things/worry too much. Funny, because these are some bitchy HB10s that are not afraid to tell me about when I embarrass them or do something stupid. My bad if I confused you... I was pretty confused myself.

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