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| Author: | lalu [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 5:51 pm ] |
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If it matters i live in israel and i'm 15 years old. So my story goes like this, i'm very confident i'm very comfortable around people, and i have a lot of friends and i'm social, what am i missing? what else should i get in order to become an alpha male? all my friends are very confident, maybe i'm a little bit more. From what i understood i have to show that i'm better than my friends in order to become their leader right? so how am i supposed to do so? i feel like i have the tools but not the way of doing so. I hope you could help me, and please don't post anything about my country situation, good or bad |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 6:20 pm ] |
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| Author: | lalu [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 6:58 pm ] |
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I don't get it, so being an alpha male is all about being the most attractive guy, and have a lot of girls around you? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 7:18 pm ] |
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No, being the alpha male is not that. An alpha male is a male of superior value. Superior to the ones around him. If you ask someone to point at the manliest man in the room, thats your alpha male. It there were a competition for a leader he would come up as one of the top choices. Now it isnt always true that the manliest man wins, it could be better to have a doctor in charge rather than a biker in a hospital but you get what Im saying. An alpha male is a leader, but not because he is an asshole to his friends. He is friendly to everyone but there is no doubt, he holds the power! May I ask how old you are? |
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| Author: | lalu [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 7:24 pm ] |
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I said i'm 15 You have some interesting points... For example i have a friend which is an asshole to everybody, in the start he acts nicely but later on he acts like an asshole, even to his best friends and people follow him, it confuses me. So what should a leader do? Tell everybody what to do and such things? I think one way to measure an alpha male is who will get the most help from his buddies when he is in trouble, no? So from what i udnerstood untill now, in order to become an alpha male im supposed to be leading my friends ? How does the higher value man is measured as a high value man? By having the biggest muscles or biggest brain, most social man? I'm one of the best friends of my friends alpha male, how could i use it as an advantage? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 9:56 pm ] |
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You are going too fast too soon. Becoming alpha is not something that happens over night. You need to work your inner game first. Like, not being an asshole, not leading. People trying to lead only push others around. When people follow you of their own free will, then you are the leader. The first step is to look at yourself and find who you are, if you wanna change and learn to respect yourself. I dont know iff you are ready to do this, because most people just say, hey I know who I am. But please, make me happy and take this in a good way. You can go far and you can get a lot of help here but not until you drop all defenses and truly embrace the will to change yourself. Go out of your normal way of thinking and get ready to face the fact that there is an incredible world out there that you have just started to discover. |
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| Author: | lalu [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 9:52 am ] |
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My inner game is pretty strong, as i said im very confident and i'm never scared to say what i have to say. I truely believe that i'm the smartest, the most beautiful and the strongest person in the room in any place around any person, my inner game is very strong, so what should i do now ? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 7:02 pm ] |
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Quote: My inner game is pretty strong, as i said im very confident and i'm never scared to say what i have to say.
This actually shows that your inner game is exceptionally weak. Get over it and I can help you.
I truely believe that i'm the smartest, the most beautiful and the strongest person in the room in any place around any person, my inner game is very strong, so what should i do now ? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 7:04 pm ] |
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| Author: | lalu [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 7:18 pm ] |
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Most of what you said there is true, but what else do we have ? The only thing that keeps us from getting hurt is this pride, if I know i'm not perfect how would it help me?I don't think it would... What I said is not what I feel, I know i'm not perfect but even my defects are minor because my good parts are strong, I'm doing what I can to make my defects even smaller but my good personallity parts are very strong and good. |
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| Author: | AFC Royal [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 8:33 pm ] |
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I don't know if you're listening to Ezo. You said that most of what he said was true, but now you're basically saying what you said before. I myself have a tough time on giving up on my pride... But here's the reason why you have to. You have to know where you want to get to. You have to imagine the kind of person you want to be, say, in your case, an alpha male. How is that person different from you? In about a million ways. But you can't see in what ways because of the pride. Why does "future awesome you" get results and you don't? You have to realize that until you get those results, you still have a long way to go. Once you give up on your pride, and look at things objectively, then you can see what you need to work on. Ignorance is bliss. We give up ignorance for power. If you want the power of change, you have to give up your ignorance. The only way to do that is to give up your pride. |
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| Author: | Darkst0rm [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 9:11 pm ] |
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Quote: In order to taste my cup of water you must first empty your cup. My friend, drop all your preconceived and fixed ideas and be neutral. Do you know why this cup is useful? Because it is empty.
-Bruce Lee on knowledge and learning |
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| Author: | lalu [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 9:18 pm ] |
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Quote: I don't know if you're listening to Ezo.
ok that really helped me understand this whole idea.You said that most of what he said was true, but now you're basically saying what you said before. I myself have a tough time on giving up on my pride... But here's the reason why you have to. You have to know where you want to get to. You have to imagine the kind of person you want to be, say, in your case, an alpha male. How is that person different from you? In about a million ways. But you can't see in what ways because of the pride. Why does "future awesome you" get results and you don't? You have to realize that until you get those results, you still have a long way to go. Once you give up on your pride, and look at things objectively, then you can see what you need to work on. Ignorance is bliss. We give up ignorance for power. If you want the power of change, you have to give up your ignorance. The only way to do that is to give up your pride. Thank you, I'll try it out. |
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