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| Author: | GETINTHERENETO [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 7:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Afraid of success! |
Here's the thing I'm a person who knows where I want to be in game. I want to be able to get any girl I'm attracted to and be able to get them in bed. The thing is I'm not sure if I want to be at that level because if I do I have a high possibility I'm not going to want them because I can get them. Because I don't want to get to that point I place things in front of my goal and procrastinate so that I don't get to that point. I'm tired of not achieving my goal, how can I get over this? |
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| Author: | suavaye` [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 8:01 am ] |
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this is like saying im hungry, but i don't want to eat because the food sucks... if a girl is TOO easy you will lose interest(at least i do), but i think a challenge is really what your after. |
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| Author: | Chelios [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 8:08 am ] |
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I find this an extremely weird situation, especially if gaming is what you want to do.. If you really feel the way you said, I'd say don't set yourself and targets or a benchmark, just go with the flow, and don't look for a relationship, just for fun, that's what it seems you want anyway? Enjoy gaming, maybe experiment on the girls you see as targets, try something new. |
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| Author: | DonPua [ Fri Apr 23, 2010 8:44 pm ] |
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If you think you can have any girl that you look at as easy as possible, you are wrong. There are quit some girls that are very difficult to score because they really play hard to get. So don't worry about that problem. You will find girls that give you the challenge you need. |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Sat May 08, 2010 1:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Afraid of success! |
Quote: Here's the thing I'm a person who knows where I want to be in game. I want to be able to get any girl I'm attracted to and be able to get them in bed. The thing is I'm not sure if I want to be at that level because if I do I have a high possibility I'm not going to want them because I can get them. Because I don't want to get to that point I place things in front of my goal and procrastinate so that I don't get to that point. I'm tired of not achieving my goal, how can I get over this?
Yea that will happen. I had the exact same problem when I started as a PUA. I use to be the guy from behing who would look at women but not talked to them, but dreamed about having wild sex with them. See, what I found is, that I wanted women because I craved acceptance and approaval from them. I wanted them to love me and like me. That was all subconcious offcourse. I really had to go deep in me to find this. As I got better with women, my desire to have sex with every hot woman went down. I didnt found them as desirable as before. But what happened for me was, I realized that I was messed up before so bad, that I didnt even know the world that I was missing. When I started to not like every girl so much, I started looking for other qualities in a woman that I didnt see before. Like, does she have goals, does she work out, what kind of a person is she in reality- a drama queen or a strong woman? I started to date women of a quality and enjoyed their company more. The flip side of this is, women found me much more attractive and enjoyed my company more because they could see, that I was the one who was choosing. For real.. not fake. At this point, as a result of handling this area of my life, I get probably 2 or 3 text messages a day from women wanting to go out with me. Where as before, I couldnt even get one date-in six months. You will never be able to have success in life, if you dont get this area handled, called approaching not only women, but people in general. You gotta become a social person. Talkative and friendly. Than you will be attractive. Because you mentioned, that you are affraid of not going after your goals and procrastination if you dont want them.. listnen man.. I dont know which goals you set for yourself, but if you have a goal to fuck all the women you want because you want acceptance, you probably wount. The way you handle this is go deep in this. Ask yourself why do I want women at all? Is it because I want to give and show them life in better ways or is it because I want to be that cool guy who gets all the ladies? When you find the answer, there is a process you can take. Its callled grieving. I read a book from robert bly, called wild man. Great book. In it he says, that samurai warriors, as a part of their training had the grieving process in it. They had to grieve about something in their life. Why? Because when you grieve about your insecurity with women, you are washing your emotions and emotional blocks out. You start to feel like a man, powerfull and centered. So try it, let us know how it worked. You will be among the few if you do. Take care. |
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