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7 APPROACHING RULES THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BREAK!
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Author:  Black Phantom [ Sun Mar 14, 2010 7:26 pm ]
Post subject:  7 APPROACHING RULES THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BREAK!
So ur in a club, watching this total hot chick. U like her soo much. But ur affraid to go over to talk to her. why?

A- u dont know what to say
B- u dont know who u are suppost to be arround her
C- u are affraid she might get a strange look and humiliate u infront others
D- if she wanted to talk to you, you dont know what do do next


all this implies on you not having a map in your head of what would you do with a girl except fucking her in the ass.

Approach rule no. 1
HAVE AN OUTCOME

The most important thing to have is an outcome. All women say they want a man that knows what he wants. So know it. Most guys dont. Most guys just wing it and go: "gees I hope this is going to turn out fine." Before you go into a set, have your outcome in mind. What do you want to do with a girl or a set? Do you want to say something to them, ask them a question or just say hi and tell them they have a great energy
Plan how you are going to end the interaction. "oK girls, i gotta go back to my friends, take care "

Approach rule no. 2
PLAN YOUR RESPONSE TO THE WORST CASE SCENARIO

One of the reasons why we are affraid to go there is because we have not planed how will we respond, if the things dont go our way.
If you want to apprach fearlessly and with total confidence, you need to think what is the worst thing that can happen if I approach a girl. Than, after you`ve done this, scale it on a 0 to 10 scale of how painful that might be.
Now, make a decision if you accept this worst case scenario. If you dont accept it, stop approaching girls.
If you do, plan how you are going to respond to this scenario. Phisicly, Mentally, Emotionally. Plan it in detail. Rehearse it.


My personal example is one time i saw this girl and she was so cute, i approached her and she blew me off.. i totaly lost my composure and didnt want to do that anymore.
Now that ive planned what am i going to do and how am i going to feel if she blews me off and what am i going to think made my approaching a lot more enjoyable.

Even if she turns me down, I say ok to myself, you did good, you are the man, the feeling that i trigger inside of me is pride cus i approached her, masculine feeling cus i have the balls to go to her,
and i just smile, amplify my feelings and talk to another girl.

So plan how you are going to respond if she blews you off.

Approach rule no. 3
BE IN A STATE

If you are going to talk to a girl, make sure you are in a good mood. How do you do that? Do you remember a time, when you felt absolutely unstoppable? When you felt sexy and bad?
Self talk or the way you talk to yourself is key for your good mood. Learn to direct your mind on opportunities and learn to create meaning out of every situation that will empower you.
Some easy ways to get into state: Listen to your favor music and dance, think about 10 things why you like yourself and why you are most proud of yourself.

Approach rule no. 4
OBSERVE THE SITUATION

A really common mistake guys make when approaching girls is they go in not knowing what the fuck is going on arround them. They are so in their heads that they trip even before talking to that girl.
Before you go to approach a girl, observe the surroundings a little bit. Look at where you are going to stand, look at her and see if you can pick a comment out of a situation. Lets say she has a green drink in her hand. you can walk up and go: "I heard only evil people drink green drinks. Are you one of them"... or whatever..

Approach rule no.5
PLAN

Lets say you approached a girl, and she turnes arround and says: "Oh my god, ur like soo cool. I want to hang arround you soo much!!"
What now?

Aha.. I tricked you. No. one fear of approaching is we dont have a plan what to do next after a girl likes us. What, are you gonna take her to the bush and "do your thang "
NO. Plan what would you do, if a girl liked you. Where would you go, how would you feel, what would be on your mind instead of just "fuck her fuck her fuck her fuck her.. in the ass"



Approach rule no. 6
NEVER APPROACH IN A NEED

Jim rohn said it best: "Don't bring your need to the marketplace, bring your skill. If you don't feel well, tell your doctor, but not the marketplace. If you need money, go to the bank, but not the marketplace."
So im going to say a similiar thing. "Dont bring your need to women. If you need pussy, pay a prostitute, dont approach women"

Why? Women have radar for these things. If you need pussy and you are horny as shit, ur not going to be effective at approaching.. because you want something from her not to give something to her.
Women want you to give them that sense of security and masculinity and power, not needines and weakness. So be strong, feel strong. And fuck a prostitute if you dont have any other option. Because as
long as you are not strong and needy women will not want to be arround you.

Approach rule no. 7
KNOW WHO YOU ARE

Most guys when they approach a girl, they get so anxious that they literally forget who they are. They dont have any boundaries and they forget what they are good at. So right before you go into a set, think about
a thing that you are the best at. And feel proud at it. Remember who you are!
Thats it for now. Keep tuned for some new rules of approaching.

Black Fantom
Author:  highflyin [ Mon Mar 15, 2010 10:12 pm ]
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haha the go fuck a prostitute thing is pretty sketch man. i would def not give that advice that is a sleazeball thing to do. worst case scenario fuck a fat chick
Author:  Black Phantom [ Tue Mar 16, 2010 1:30 am ]
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actually its not a sleezebal thing at all. Prostitution is the oldest profession in the world. You fuck, you pay, you leave.. happy customer.

A sleezebal thing for me is to find a fat ugly chick that u r not attracted to and manipulate her into fucking u. Wich will by the way hard thing to do if you are horny as fuck.

i dont know, do what ever u need to do to not be needy.
Author:  McMurray [ Tue Mar 16, 2010 9:07 pm ]
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Good stuff. I think having an outcome is key but I've found it useful to be flexible. I've thought I'm getting blown out so I'd scale back my outcome. Maybe at the time I came on a bit too strong.
Author:  Black Phantom [ Tue Mar 16, 2010 10:34 pm ]
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yea listen, maybe you put your outcome on her. That means that you say: my outcome is shes gonna laugh and love me, im taking her with me.

if thats the case than thats the first step to failure.

you gotta have an outcome, but you shouldnt be attached to it. That is why you need to practice and accept the worst case scenario. You gotta be happy with girls not liking you. Thats when youll become good and attractive.
Author:  callister [ Tue Mar 23, 2010 12:22 am ]
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Very good advice, I'm gonna start doing this.
Author:  noiss [ Fri Mar 26, 2010 10:42 am ]
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Good post for beginners I suppose... although 90% of what you wrote was regurgitated David D. One thing I strongly disagree with is your point about a prostitute though. Not only is it degrading to women, it is also degrading to yourself. I also don't necessarily think that being horny is bad when you approach. My personal best approaches have been when I've acted upon hormonal instinct rather than a linear game. Imo the best way to get to girls is to relate to them on their own level. The emotional one. Don't be afraid to be honest and intuned to your emotional side guys.
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