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Author:	tom3208 [ Sun Jan 31, 2010 2:37 pm ]
Post subject:	My ego controls me bad - back at step1
For most of my time when i discovered this PUA-thing i got some small success by using pick-up lines, routines etc. But a few months ago i realized my inner game sucks so i started approaching people with an "empty head" and decided NOT to use ANYTHING. Mostly it was crash&burning and after about two weeks of that i went to a vacation where i got some crazy success by just being me! I think i found my core self a few times and got some nice pick-ups without really even trying. So when I came back home from the vacation i was full of confidence for a while and felt like the shit. There was only one problem though. When i got back and went out with some friends i pretty much bought into their frame, which was very passive so i did no approachs for about two weeks. I started to feel like im deceiving myself - my ego controlled me. I feel that i can go and open sets but i dont. My ego thinks im good with girls so it stops me from approaching so that i dont jeopardize that reality. I have had maybe two good nights since when ive been with friends who have a more active frame so i also become active myself because of that and then most of things go well (except that even on those nights i dont open as much as id like). But this is not where i want to be. I dont have core confidence at all, only situational confidence. Right now im totally dependant on my friends and i feel like i have no identity since im only following the frames of my friends. I cant push myself to open chicks when im alone or when my friends arent in the right mood. And because ive been a follower for the last few weeks (except for the good nights) i dont even feel good with all of my friends anymore. Its like im paranoid to be the leader but then i am not. So my goals are to be able to open girls freely again being myself and to be able to act through my own intentions and having fun! Whats the situation now? I can open if im in good state but if im not then i cant. And most of the time i find myself doing things in a club i dont enjoy since i buy in to the frames of my friends. And btw when i open girls in that good state of mine i mostly open on dancefloor or situationally so i havent actually done cold approaches for like a month! Im just wondering that should i once again start using pre-determined openers and shit because i just cant push myself into opening by being just myself now if im alone. I know there are some guys in this community who have experienced this and id like to know in what way you can push yourself through this? I know that i will get some help with this at daygame in two weeks or so since i have a friend whom i have taught some pua-stuff so when he has the time we start sarging together. We have a good vibe but deep inside me i know that the reason i feel so free and myself around him is because im naturally the leader when we're together. Situational confidence once again. Also this friend of mine is scared of clubs so i necessarily cant get him to go nightgaming with me so nevertheless i WILL BE alone with my ego in the clubs. My friends wont help there and maybe they would but my ego makes it hard. Would be nice to hear some ways you guys would handle the situation. Should i take the easy route again through openers&routines and then later try to leave them or take it the hard way and start being myself right away? How to push through the ego if i decide to take the latter route? Should i start going out alone since i buy into the my friends' frames too easily at the clubs? How to strive for core confidence? Hmmm.... Sick of being a chode once again

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