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Author:  Jlax [ Thu Jan 14, 2010 4:39 pm ]
Post subject:  To all of the guys who care too much of what others think...
I am one of these guys but with alot of practice at what im about to tell you youll soon start realizing that you dont give a fuck what others think. In other words you really wont be affected by anyones opinions. Heres the exercise;

Whenever somebody tells you to do something you dont feel like doing but have a hard time saying "No" just say "No"!

Whenever somebody is disagreeing about some topic or idea and you disagree with it say "No" and state what YOU believe.

Seriously, this might not make any fucking sense but trust me it does. IT comes from Dr.Paul and ive been on a mission of saying "No" more than I ever have before. I realized that I dont nearly as much get affected by the opinions of others. Its crazy! You might be like "Wow, how is this gonna help me out?" Well try it out for yourself and see. Youll be amazed by the results.

Whenever a girl asks you to do something you dont feel like doing say "No"!
Whenever you have a different opinion of somebody elses opinion say "No"! and justify your opinion.

Go on a one week mission of just saying "No" to the things you find hard saying "No" too. Youll feel like a totally different and more confident masculine man.

Try it out you wont regret it.
Author:  Ezo [ Thu Jan 14, 2010 7:39 pm ]
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To all the people who care too LITTLE about what others think.

Other people are people too, their opinions matter. You should not be a pushover but you should not be an asshole either. Dont disagree just for the sake of disagreeing. If someone has a good opinion, tell them so. You are the bigger man for doing that.
Author:  Jlax [ Thu Jan 14, 2010 8:51 pm ]
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Im not saying to disagree with EVERYTHING anyone has to say. Just to the things YOU disagree with with what their saying. Look out in the real world and see all of the people who care too much what others think. They have ONE thing all in common. They have a hard time saying "No" to things they dont prefer. Then they get all down and bitch at themselves because tey did something they didnt want to do when they would have done something else more important.

When you start disagreing and saying "No" to other people on the things you dont prefer or have different opinions than them then address those opinions. When you do that you start developing a core identity for yourself and with enough practice it will become unshakable. The reason we have developed negative beliefs and identities for ourselves was of the inability to say "No". If we were truly great at saying "No" to any preference, idea, or opinion scientifically stress wouldnt even get into us!

Thats 100% science right there man. Also, when you start saying "No" more often people will start respecting you more rather than you saying "Yes" to everything. Yes, as a child it was cute to say "Yes" to everything but now your a fucking man and you have every right to say "No" to anything. Let me ask you this whou would you respect more a man who said "Yes" to everything or a man who said "No" to everything? Even though I wouldnt want too because the guy who says "No" to everything is an asshole but id choose him over the guy who says "Yes" to everything ANYDAY.

Once, you can say "No" to everything you dont prefer you are free from stress comig from the outside enviroment. Because, frankly you dont control anything from the outside enviroment. If your one of those guys myself included do this and see where it gets you.
Author:  Erison [ Fri Jan 15, 2010 3:04 am ]
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disagreeing with someone can how powerful effects, positive and negative.

In fact when I first meet someone I try to find one thing to disagree with. It creates a good type of tension. Especially with women I find it creates more interest and curiosity for them. Just be careful not to disagree too much.

But I'm guilty of thinking about what others think, so I will try to implement this into my daily life. Thanks for the great post msquared!
Author:  Jlax [ Fri Jan 15, 2010 3:44 am ]
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No problem bro! If you need more information on this topic download Dr.Pauls Ebook at 4shared.com. Its called MindOS. Really good read and the solution to any psychological problem in our lives! At first it might be a little confusing but if you stick with it more and more of it will make more sense. Youll start getting insights youve never had before. Check it out.

Peace!
Author:  Heisman113085 [ Fri Jan 15, 2010 3:52 am ]
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I am going to try and do this for a week. I care way too much about what others thing even though I am always trying to convince myself and others that I do not. Just like the 40 year old virgin, "I put pussy on a pedestal", and probably others in general. I purposely go after the girls that look as if they have a lower self esteem, and average in looks. I know that I am a good looking guy, but had struggled for years to just not care, and find that inner flame inside of me. I want so bad to be able to pick up beautiful women as if it is not a big deal like so many I know. I am willing to do the work, I just need someone to put me under their wing.
Author:  Jlax [ Fri Jan 15, 2010 9:32 pm ]
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Dude, dont just do it for a week do it for as long as it takes for you to get this area of your life handled. Do it for a month and see where it takes you. Just say "No" to all of the things you dont prefer. IF somebody asks you to do something and you have something else planned just say "No" but dont do it in a sorry attitude. Like "Sorry No, I cant". IF its a friend dont just be like "No" and thats it because you can risk a friend in doing that because youd come off as an asshole. If you do say "No" to a friend sy it in a respectful way like "No, bro I cant do that".

When doing tis remember you have to do it in a win/win way. Not in a win/lose way were you have to feel like a winner and the other person has to feel like a loser. Thats destructive. NEVER apologize for any of your decisions or preferences. Unless, you do something really horrible and risk losing a friend in the process. You have every right to do what you want to do. REMEMBER THAT. The reason why some people care so much of what others think and why others dont even give a damn is because of their abilityu to say "No" to the things they dont prefer.

Im gonna give you an example in real life. Look at fucking Brad Pitt. Why is he so attractive to women? Well 1. because he doest give a fuck and 2. Hes so masculine and so onfident in himself 3. He knows who he is. When you have an identity and build an identity with saying "No" to the things you dont prefer youll soon start developing those qualities. Do you think if someone said something to Brad Pitt like "Hey, Brad your a douche bag" Do you think hed care? FUCK NO. He knows who he is and he knows hes not a douche bag.

Simply put, when you gather up the courage and become a master of saying "No" to EVERYTHING you dont prefer you become a master of not giving a fuck! Stress just bouncves off of you and doesnt affect you at all. When you develop your boundary using the word "No" and do courage you start becoming more masculine and confident. When your masculine and confident a woman can pick that up right away and see if either your a fake or your real. Its IMPOSSIBLE to fake confidence.

Then once you start saying"No" to women and people that push your buttons you start building a stronger and more powerful identity every single time you say "No". IN order to get the best results you need to get out of your fucking comfort zone. Let me give you an example of how I got out of my comfort zone and said "No" in a ituation I was terrified in. Literally.

So, ive been planning to say "No" in a class I have where we have alot of arguments in. I realized that how much courage I put in the situation is how much confidence I will get back. What I did for me took alot of courage and I was terrified to do it because of my convern of what others think. So we were talking and the teacher stated her opinoin about a topic about self-image an plastic surgery. Luckily for me I know alot about the psychology of sel-image so I was like fuck it and stated my opinion.

I was like "I disagree with that because when a person gets plastic surgery his self-image doesnt always increase..." Then I went into why and how and from where I got that information. I did the right thing no matter how I felt. After doing that I felt terrified and scared but thats what always happens when you do soemthing that is completely out of your comfort zone and the norm for you. But after you get over that your over that. So, get out of your comfort zone and say "No"!

Peace
Author:  SummerNight [ Sat Jan 16, 2010 12:28 am ]
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Am..I have started to say no a few years ago and now.. I have no problem speaking MY opinion and to say NO.. but it does NOT take away the "I care what other people think" :(
Author:  Jlax [ Sat Jan 16, 2010 3:35 am ]
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The reason why thats still a problem for you is most likely 99.9% of the time that 1. You either have some very negative beliefs about yourself or 2. That youve had some traumas earlier in your lifetime. Dude, youve gone past half the battle. Do you know how many guys and little bitches are scared to say "No" and actually state what they think? ALOT. Id highly reccomend checking out Dr.Pauls MindOS to get a better idea of why your facing the problems your facing. If you can it would be even better getting your hands on David D's Deep Inner Game because its all Doctor Paul but the material is more in depth and actually has real life exapmles of how you could overcome the problems your facing.

In your case you still have a leaky personal boundary. You care too much what others think and that affects your ame. But let me ask you this what do you control in that situation? Is that in your control? Do you control others opinions of you? NO. So why suffer and get stressed over it? LEt go of the things you dont control and focus on the things you do control. Then magic will start to happen. But let me tell you this if your in for the quick fx then your going to the wrong program. Remember their is no quick fix to inner game. It takes time to develop and once you start being consistent then things WILL HAPPEN.

If you got some questions about this MindOS and Deep Inner Game stuff then go to www.doctorpaul.net and go to the forum and create an account. Its free and a bunch of great information. Sometimes even Dr.Paul answers your questions himself! Cool shit. Check it out &&.

Peace!
Author:  SummerNight [ Sat Jan 16, 2010 6:46 pm ]
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The reason why thats still a problem for you is most likely 99.9% of the time that 1. You either have some very negative beliefs about yourself or 2. That youve had some traumas earlier in your lifetime. Dude, youve gone past half the battle. Do you know how many guys and little bitches are scared to say "No" and actually state what they think? ALOT. Id highly reccomend checking out Dr.Pauls MindOS to get a better idea of why your facing the problems your facing. If you can it would be even better getting your hands on David D's Deep Inner Game because its all Doctor Paul but the material is more in depth and actually has real life exapmles of how you could overcome the problems your facing.

In your case you still have a leaky personal boundary. You care too much what others think and that affects your ame. But let me ask you this what do you control in that situation? Is that in your control? Do you control others opinions of you? NO. So why suffer and get stressed over it? LEt go of the things you dont control and focus on the things you do control. Then magic will start to happen. But let me tell you this if your in for the quick fx then your going to the wrong program. Remember their is no quick fix to inner game. It takes time to develop and once you start being consistent then things WILL HAPPEN.

If you got some questions about this MindOS and Deep Inner Game stuff then go to www.doctorpaul.net and go to the forum and create an account. Its free and a bunch of great information. Sometimes even Dr.Paul answers your questions himself! Cool shit. Check it out &&.

Peace!
Yea..you're right - I have had traumas in my early school years.. I was bullied about 4 years and My selfesteem was SO low that I thought that I don't even deserve to talkt to people..The worst thing was..the girls didn't want to do anything related to me.. like we had a sprint contest in running and I was in the team and one chik said that if I'm in the team then she doesn't want to be.. like.. girls run away if I wanted to touch them..( like shaking hands when people greet eachother) and they treated me like a dude with some kind of virus the can infesct them.. So yeah.. I have watched the Inner game and Mind OS.. I have just soo much to change, I have started to raise my self-esteeme and now I think that I deserve all that stuff.. but I guess there are some very deep core.. bad beliefes in my subcontious mind..
Author:  Jlax [ Sun Jan 17, 2010 3:04 am ]
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Bro, id highly suggest seeing an EMDR therapist. Actually, im seeing one already. We havent gone into the therapy itself for the first 2 sessions but we did discuss what my traumas were and everything from my life history that affected me. The therapist made it so clear why im the way I am that I started feeling different just because of that! Awareness of your problem can change the way you think, act, and behave. The next session for me is where all of the fun starts :P

If your finding this hard to believe then check out these clips;

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZ5MLn1Cc94
http://www.emdrmovie.com/video.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygFxD5yswo0
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