Someone asked me before:"If there were no woman in the world, what else can make you happy?" My answer (to myself) is "If there were no woman, that's fine. It's fair because every male doesn't have a woman, we don't have to compete with each other. But if some people have gf/wife, whereas I don't, I'll feel really awkward."

Here is the point, I don't really want a gf in essence(at least for the time being), but I hate to be an under-achiever in the aspect of getting a gf. Especially when I "lose" to some other males, I really feel frustrated. How could I get rid of these negative thoughts?