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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Mon Nov 30, 2009 3:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | THIS IS HOW YOU DEAL WITH NEGATIVE EMOTIONS |
Yes, yes and again yes. Negative emotions do exist and are a part of us. They are a critical part in our development and frequently emerge when we are trying to achieve something that is ussually "not us". Like when we are trying to succed at pick-up, but are strugling. What are negative emotions and how do they come up? We all look at negative emotions like something bad. But actually, they are just the oposite. Negative emotions are natures way of saying.. something isnt working right or Im not getting what I want. Negative emotions are a sign, that you need to do something differently than you do now. For example, you sit at home, watching internet porn and feel bad because you cant go out and meet girls to fuck. Sad. And than you may feel depressed and you start turning into a loop of depression. But the negative emotion is just a sign that something isnt working right and that you need to do something about it. I work as an insurance agent. And after a long week of work, I become stressed out because of all the objections that I get while I try to sell insurance. I become fed up with their childish behaviour and not taking responsibility for their family. So I come home, and sometimes Im still charged. And after a week, Im not able to go out and meet clients anymore..because I start to react emotionally. So what did I do? First thing, I learned not to take it personally, so I changed my attitude. But after a while, week becomes hard no matter what, and negative emotions start to emerge. And they build up. And then I react. And no ka-ching at the end of the month. So what is the solution? I can tell you its meditation, exercise, punching a bag, hitting the gym.. but they are all true, but dont help completely. What I found that works is, I find a good rock album, I like the song from billie idol Scream.. Make me SCREEEAM WOOOMAN.. good shit. So the point is, to let all of the emotions out of your system. And here is the beauty part. Once I get all the emotions out, I never get charged emotionally with the same thing again. So when a client gives me the same objection as he did last time, This time I handle it calmly without any emotional charge. When I greet people in the streets, I say hello in a positive emotion. When I buy groceries, I do it in a positive way. Being present in the moment is all about how good you can deal with your negative emotions. Because if you dont know how to, you are going to be emotionally charged all the time. And you wount be succesfull at anything. But here is a basic system of how you deal with negative emotions. 1. Take a piece of paper and write down everything that bothers you in the world. 2. Mark the things that you can controll with a star, the ones that you cant with a cross. 3. ACCEPT. Start with what bothers you in this way... I accept the fact that this and this is like that in this world. This is how it is. 4. Go out and run for a couple of miles, so you get the physical stress out. 5. Get a good energic song and turn up the volume. Now, shout, dance, kick, punch anything to get it out of your system. 6. Get a calm song and rock in your bed or on the floor. 7. Rest. Be quiet for 20 minutes and just look at the wall. Is the stress gone? |
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| Author: | Jlax [ Thu Dec 03, 2009 4:01 am ] |
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Damnnnn. Im definitely trying this shit out. Sounds like a real good stress reliever. Btw you get this from David Deangelo? |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Thu Dec 03, 2009 9:51 am ] |
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No actually thats my stuff, I figured this one out cus I live a pretty stresfull life. Try it, let us know if it helps you. |
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| Author: | TONY_GORDON [ Thu Dec 03, 2009 6:36 pm ] |
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this sounds pretty good, think I will give it a go! How do you ACCEPT the negative things that are in your control though? |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Thu Dec 03, 2009 8:27 pm ] |
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Well, there are so many things you can controll in your life. And if you want to change them, you are going to have to accept them first. Lets say you are over-weight.. and you want to lose weight. First, you need to accept the fact that you are over-weight. Than, you can set a goal of being slim in 6 months, weighing so and so, with a cholesterol level at so and so. So, if you want to change a part of your life, you need first to accept it. Than you can start working at them. Both Carl Young and Carl Rogers said, in order to change something, you must first accept it. Thats Carl Young. And Carl Rogers. Both. I think most people think that if I accept something, Im gonna be stuck with it. But its not the case. When you accept something, than new possibilities open for you, because now you have a starting point. Its kind of like you are in chicago but you want to be in new york. If you want to come to new york, you must have a starting point, thats chicago. Than you can work your way up. So when you accept your negative emotion, you can than integrate and transend it into a new positive emotion. Dont try to repress it, folow it. Acknowledge that it is there and follow it. You will come out reborn. |
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| Author: | Jlax [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 4:23 am ] |
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Dude, I just got DD'S man transformation and have to say its the greatest program I have ever gotten! Im on the 6th DVD and can see huge improvements in myself already. Fucking, the part on your emotional imprints and how to actually feel your emotions was mind blowing! For anyone reading this post, if you really want to see huge changes in your life get this fucking program. End of story. Period. |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 11:47 pm ] |
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Yea, as I said, that program really is transformational.. And david d. has really changed a lot over the past years. So do me a favour, go through this program, complete it and than post a thread on what were the greatest lessons of what you have learned. |
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