I've seen a lot of positive notes on this subject here, and I am in no way trying to spark a huge, blasphemous debate on the "correct" attitude/outlook as I feel it's a matter of opinion. Here is mine, because what has been said in a lot of other posts on the subject is simply not how I view things. My experiences with women are as follows:
When I was 15 I met a girl (also 15) who basically pushed me into sex. This aggression would become a recurring theme with the girls I dated/slept with. Met my second girlfriend when I was 17. She was 16 and after sleeping with her she told me I was the 14th guy she had slept with... at 16. They say mulitply that times 3 to get the real number? I'd rather not lol. Next girlfriend I stole from a guy I knew, not because I liked her but because I hated the guy and it felt good because I knew how bad it pissed him off. She promptly left after 2 weeks of me not calling/being interested in her, but would never forget me. She tried to hook back up with me years later when I admitted the real reason I had dated her back in high school. The next 2 girls I slept with coincidentally had fiances at the time, whom they would both end up marrying after I had gotten tired of sleeping with them. After all, their men were family-oriented, I was not. Apparently that is what turns women on, but they also need to hang on to their AFC guy because he takes care of them in other departments. Next was a friend's wife who decided to get drunk and come and visit me while my friend was away in boot camp (Bad, bad form, I know. But he divorced her later, punched me in the face, and we're even closer friends now.) After that mess, 2 more women, one 22 and one 32, both in committed relationships they would go right back into when I was done with them... and as a side note, both of these women were nearly psychotically freaky in bed, and I have a hunch that neither of them were ever as adventurous with their boyfriends. There were a few others not worth mentioning, but all equally devious/deceptive. And as I would learn when I was 25, my mother (who divorced my father when I was younger) admitted to me she had cheated on my father, who had always been faithful and supportive.
Chock it up to karma that I would meet a girl I would truly fall in love with, begin to regret my past transgressions, and become a romantic "hero of a guy" for. Casting aside my former, darker estimations concerning the morality/nature of women in general, I went all in, got a tattoo of her name, and decided I was going to propose to her. In general it was just how incredibly loving and romantic she was by words and disposition that made me relax all of my preconceptions. Long story short, we were together for four years, and in that time she cheated on me with a guy she worked with numerous times, and upon finding out I promplty broke up with her. That was a little over 2 weeks ago now, and I have confirmed she is now in a relationship with him and stripping at a local trashy trucker establishment.
So if you were to ask me... am I bitter? Definitely. Am I now Ted Bundy? Of course not... but I would be a liar if I said that I didn't understand. To summarize and make my point, I don't feel that I have somehow consistently had bad luck when rolling the dice (as I had read one poster label it), I simply do not believe modern women possess any such capacity of decency, though to their credit i will say that perhaps some of them may wish that they did. My philosophy - adore the beauty of women, know how to be attractive to them, give them exactly what it is that makes you and them happy, and then give them back to the chump that is willing to buy the bullshit they're selling. I sleep with attractive women, but I am married to digital photography, creating music, and video games.
I forgot to mention that if you think I'm a bad guy it's important to know that I have never cheated on or lied to anyone I have been involved with, as I am partial to both my integrity and my self-respect. Thank you for reading my story I know it was lengthy but I felt it necessary to offer a somewhat alternate view.
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