Yes i completely see your point, and you are correct. A woman is not to be objectified. I use this type of language when explaining it to some of my most, most, most AFC buddies, the ones that get treated like dirt over and over again for being the nice guys, who have been taught all their lives by their mother's and society that the attention and sex they get from a woman is something they don't deserve and must therefore work really, really hard for.
But please don't misunderstand. Every woman I've ever met is a beautiful, tender person inside (well, most... haha). You just have to be man enough to cut through the bullshit. And when she knows "Look, you're not doing me any favors. You enjoy this as much as I do," then and only then is it possible to make a deep connection with her. Adult to Adult.
The real point I'm trying to make is that in the past, I felt I was supposed to work really, really hard to earn the "privilege" of doing with a woman the things that she enjoyed just as much as I did (dates, sex, etc...). As if she was "giving" me something. Think of those couples you see on a date, he's trying SO hard, and she's sitting there with her arms crossed, looking down on him. That was me.
Fast forward to now and women are viewing me as something THEY work for. She knows a manly guy like me will show her a good time, and so she will be attentive and work for my attention, and I reward her with a fun date, good sex, etc! And this is the mindset that got me here.
Mind you I'm no PUA, but I do get the women I want now, and in the "women department" life is good
I was told months ago that after I get past the whole literal "try this on a girl" and "try that on a girl," and I see a plateau in my success, I'd naturally get more interested in inner game and social concepts than specific tools and routines themselves. And that is 100% correct! Now that I've sortof brain-dumped what has helped me get my self-esteem up to normal levels (haha) do you have any inner game thoughts that I might benefit from?