I disagree
But I understand why you have these views.
Here's a fallacy though:
People aren't all the same.
Some people can handle constructive criticism of their world-model, their deepest beliefs and such.
Others may react in a violent and anal way, especially if they feel you are attacking their Ego.
So, it's more to do with the certain person, and how you deliver the advice.
I learned last summer, listening to stuff by Kenrick Cleveland, that when people say stuff like "It's just that..." you're up against their model of the world, which means you have to be Really, really careful. Otherwise they may get emotional about the whole criticism, since they most likely will feel you are attacking them as a person and not their Beliefs.
I generally try to soften whatever it is I'm trying to get across, but, alas, I'm usually prone to being very Rational and such about it. Which may lead to conflict with Emotional people.
(Neither are "better" than the other, they seem to be just ways of understanding and processing information. Some people make judgment based on their Feelings, others on their Thinking, according to Jung)
Most women (two thirds) are Emotional, while most men (two thirds) are Rational.
But I digress,
Helping people with their inner game, can be done, but it's best to do it in a form of guiding them to information, rather than direct confrontation of their world-views and beliefs about themselves.
And always soften this sort of stuff.
rule of thumb.
This seems a little disorganized, but what the hell.
That seems to be the way I think,.. Disorganized Thinking
Cheers