I dont know how many of you guys would be interested, but these points are really killing me and my game, and I'm wondering if any of you had the same problems:
1- I always expect people to be assholes. I'm not making any excuses, but I grew up around a fair bunch of jerks, and I always expect everyone to be like that.
2- I rarely get comfortable around someone, and girls pick that up right away. I act confident and relaxed, but it always shows through after a while, because they realize I dont trust them
3- I always over analyze things. It might go from "is she kinoing me on purpose or by mistake?" to "i cant have a relationship right now, I'm too busy with work/uni/etc" (that's a commom excuse I use when arguing with myself)
4- I just dont find myself that interesting. People (friends and strangers) often tell me I make great conversations, and I'm a good listener, but the idea is just stuck in there.
5- I get AFC spells. One day I walk and act like I own the world, and the next I'm a doormat. The 'good days' never last long.
6- I'm afraid of just going for it. I had some pretty catastrophic experiences, and I was totally devastated after each one, so I'm very careful because I definitely dont want to go through that again.
7- I just dont know how to move on. I'm not that interested in hookups and one night stands. I can get numbers quite easily, but i dont know what to do after the first date, so even if a girl is interested at first, they lose interest because they think i'm just playing them. And i'm afraid of telling them because I'd look pathetic.
What I've done so far to solve it:
1- I'm one of the toughest guys around. I'm very good in MMA, i've been in more fights than I can remember, and I know I can handle myself in almost any situations. It's funny how i'm more afraid of rejections than 200 pound muggers with knives...
2- I'm fashionable and take good care of my appearance. I know I look good, and I've gotten my fair share of winks and stares.
3- Sometimes I just go for it. Fuck everything, I just plunge. Rarely with good results though.
4- I've gotten a much better social life. Broader circle of friends, alot more acquaintances and sorties, but i'm still stuck.
5- I have two girl-friends who keep trying to fix my confidence issues, but it's not working. Maybe because they're the two girls who know me the most, and they weren't attracted. I keep thinking "well, if they know me that well, and they're not into me, that's what will happen with other girls i might meet."
6- I'm very funny, in a witty sarcastic sort of way. I'll always come back with a reply to crack almost anyone up.
If you're still reading this guys, give yourselves a pat on the back. Now I hope anyone can give me some advice or something, other than "buy this buy that." I've read more than a few self-help and dating material, and it's not working.
Thanks guys
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