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| Author: | n1kgqh [ Thu Jan 15, 2009 9:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Bringing awareness to responsibility and relationships |
As I spend more time with people who are my true friends, I begin to realize a little more who I really am, and who I really want to be, rather than the person who I think I want to be, and how others want me to be. I'm beginning to realize that the whole point of being the asshole who goes around fucking random chicks, putting up a persona that allows people to feel attracted towards me, is to just get other people to like me. But is that something that's really gonna bring meaning for me? basically living a life that brings about constant instant gratification? Have I been doing things that I do just to please other people and get them to like me more, so I can live a life of partying and fuckining around on weekends? Is that something that's really all that important to me? Its not, these people don't really care about me, they don't give a shit whether I succeed or not,they're not in it for the friendship nor to get to know me better, they're in it for their own selfish instant gratifying needs, they could give a shit less about me if I didn't bring some sort of value to their lives. One of my friends really opened my eyes last night when he explained how he is starting to realize that the people he hangs out with don't care about him, they're just in it to use him. He goes to college and he lives the "party" life meeting new people daily, adding people by the dozens to his contact list on his phone by the week. And yet none of these people care about him, when they call him what do they have to say? They say things like, "where's the party at?" or "aye dude you have a bong that I can borrow?" or "what was last nights homework?"... (friend) "uh I don't know", "no", "I forgot".... (people calling)"oh ok I'll call you some other time then." Finding a life that really means something to myself is something that is way more important than constant fun, having a life that involves tough, hardwork and pain, to attain a certain goal that has much value to myself, is something that I not only want, but is something that truly reflects who I am as a person. Living a life of constant instant gratification should not, but has been my ultimate goal. And I'm starting to realize the people I try to surround myself with live by that instant gratification, but does it get you any where? Maybe some of you guys out there maybe can't relate to this, some of you guys may have discovered this idea a long time ago, but I think many of us younger ones out there are trying to live the life of instant gratification, or trying what ever it takes to get props from other people, at the expense of our own values. It takes hard work to find what brings meaning to you, but its all part of the process. I originally wrote this for another forum, but in relation to PUA's inner game talks a lot about getting your life together, and IMO Pick up should only be a part of that life you are living. Also, I'm not saying that you should totally disconnect from people that are all about instant gratification, sometimes we need that, and all I'm saying is that your main friends shouldn't be the type of people who are mainly concerned with that, they should be on a mission in life just like you are. |
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