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Author:  sheeshkabab [ Mon Nov 10, 2008 6:49 pm ]
Post subject:  being desperate? ...
i dont really have a life ...everything i do is ALONE .

at school. other than a few acquaintances. i find myself alone. i walk the hallways alone . i sit alone .

at work. i have friends whom i talk too but i dont or they dont invite me anywhere .. they make their own plans and go. dont even offer if i would like to come.

i have a few friends ... more like 2 whom i wouldnt even call friends ... one. whom i dont speak with anymore cause' he always came when he wanted something . the other is a scared depressed mommas boy ... who does whatever his moms asks him to do . .. he doesnt have a say on anything himself at all ... he goes with whoevers popular ...

my facebook account has a total of only 40 people most of whom i dont even speak with anymore ... not very commendable

what should i do? how do i get away from this mindset ... ? i am not very confident, insecure,
Author:  Psych_ [ Tue Nov 11, 2008 2:29 am ]
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First make the mental shift that you will now BE a different person, the one you want to be. Without having any of the things that ideal person has like women, friends, lifestyle whatever. You still must BE that person.

This means no more being negative and actively searching for the positive side of things.

This means accepting that you'll have to push your comfort zone and do things that "aren't you" as well as things "you don't feel like"

The next thing you need to start doing is simply allowing yourself to become more social. Begin to start conversations with EVERYONE and ANYONE and see if you can find ways to add value to their life. If you can make them feel good about themselves some way, help them out with something, be a good listener, or even give directions.

Then I want you to make a list of all your strengths and weaknesses. Hide your weaknesses from people as best as possible though if it shows don't make a big deal about it and actively try and fix those weaknesses and turn them into strengths. With your strengths figure out ways to best demonstrate them that don't come off as bragging and are socially acceptable. (This last bit I credit to Sinn by the way)

Hope this helps bro

Psych
Author:  lawls [ Tue Nov 11, 2008 2:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: being desperate? ...
Quote:
i dont really have a life ...everything i do is ALONE .

at school. other than a few acquaintances. i find myself alone. i walk the hallways alone . i sit alone .

at work. i have friends whom i talk too but i dont or they dont invite me anywhere .. they make their own plans and go. dont even offer if i would like to come.

i have a few friends ... more like 2 whom i wouldnt even call friends ... one. whom i dont speak with anymore cause' he always came when he wanted something . the other is a scared depressed mommas boy ... who does whatever his moms asks him to do . .. he doesnt have a say on anything himself at all ... he goes with whoevers popular ...

my facebook account has a total of only 40 people most of whom i dont even speak with anymore ... not very commendable

what should i do? how do i get away from this mindset ... ? i am not very confident, insecure,
Alright, start saying "hi" to people in the hall, school, outside, anywhere. That's your start. Make it a game- it should be fun being social ;). 2nd- is STOP being so self-dependent and become other-dependent while still being self-reliant

Why? We know your self-dependent and can take care of yourself...but where are you now? Are you happy? Ask others for the time if you want it, ask for directions, ask for someone's help with a question, ASK THOUGH.

We know you can depend on yourself...but @ the same time your closing off to others. Be self-reliant and other-dependent.

Those 2 things should keep you busy for a couple weeks :)

If you need clarification, just ASK :)
Author:  Gander [ Tue Nov 11, 2008 3:31 am ]
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A book called "As a man thinketh"..
A book called "The secret".. I recommend. They have to do with the power of intention

When you say stuff like that it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

I will promise you if you apply them to your life your abundance in absolutely EVERYTHING will multiply ten fold. This has nothing to do with PU it's just making yourself a better person. This is all personal experience as well so I'm not just making this up.

I'll use baseball as an example. If you go up to the plate saying I'm going to strike out.. nine times out of ten, you will. This can be applied to everything.

Also write down a list of goals if you haven't already. Once you have them down make a book/cologe of pictures.. It may sound weird but there's so many studies to back up writing down/and making visuals greatly increases success.

Everyone is great. They just need to discover it for themselves. Then everyone will know it as well.
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