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| Author: | Valdemar1 [ Fri May 02, 2014 12:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Confidence level = rollercoaster |
Okay, so to start off, i think that i had a pretty good confidence level for about a year ago. i got a girlfriend back then, went all afc. got out of it 4 month ago, i was a mess, tried to build it back up, but then when it seemed that i had good pretty moderate confidence again, then my progress stopped, which must have been around a month ago. ever since then my confidence have been variating A LOT. I remember the feeling of walking down the street with music in my ear, thinking I AM THE SHIT. But that feeling is completely gone SPAM. Some rare occasions i still feel able to accomplish a lot, thats when i am the most motivated. Like when a girl i have some sort of crush on is writing flirtatiously back, or when i talk to somebody about the future where i will be traveling. But whenever i am just by myself, or even with friends, it just feel blocked, like i am not capable of the things i used to be able to do. Like when I am at home and think of how it would be like, to be at the club and approaching a girl, I just can see myself making her attracted to me, and i used to believe that most girls would easily fall for me. I sometimes when talking to girls, forget about the feeling of weakness, and I get the feeling that my bodylanguage is still showing that i am loving life, happy, etc. But I also believe, that at the same time, the girls can feel, that i am depending on their interest in me. And i think that it makes them feel like i am trying to take value for them, rather than giving it. The only limiting belief that i have, is that i am very young looking. Now this has recently started to matter to me again. back when i was young, i would never consider going to the us. because the people i have seen from the us, is always looking so old for their age. But then for around 2 months ago maybe 3, i started wanting to take a trip all by myself to miami, i figured i would be 20 at the time, and be able to pull some hot babes, i would like to go by myself so i was forced to meet people. However recently i have felt like i would make a fool of my self, like the whole nation would laugh in my face, because i look so young compared to every guy over there, and that i would never pull a girl, and if i tried then they would laugh at me for thinking so highly of my self. This might have something to do with something that happened some weeks ago. I was at a club, and i wanting to gain social momentum. So i open a girl, not really good looking, so i thought highly of myself compared to her. She starts asking my age, and i try to remain confident. She tells me i look 16 year old, and i am 19 soon to be 20. I laughed it off, and surprisingly i could tell that she thought i was confident all though she hitted my weak spot. i actually kissed closed her, even though she was 21. But afterwards i just felt like my ego had taken damage. And i guess ever since, i have not been going out as much. i felt like after that set, then everybody in the club looked at me like "what is that kid doing in here".. now i dont feel like going out, and i want to get a girlfriend just so i can have some validation back... hope you guys can get through it all, i could really use some advice ... |
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| Author: | Pajo [ Fri May 02, 2014 9:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Confidence level = rollercoaster |
I know exactly what you mean, I have the same issue. Sometimes Ifeel fucking awesome but then sometimes i feel like shit. I guess It's nature, nobody can feel 24/7 fucking awesome. |
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| Author: | Valdemar1 [ Sun May 11, 2014 9:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Confidence level = rollercoaster |
Yeah it probably is pretty common, but i remember feeling more confident than i do now, and with far less "downs" than i am currently having... |
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| Author: | Pajo [ Sat Jun 07, 2014 2:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Confidence level = rollercoaster |
Quote: Yeah it probably is pretty common, but i remember feeling more confident than i do now, and with far less "downs" than i am currently having...
Are you maybe bussy with work/school? Because I think that's my main problem.I'm so much focused on my study right now that I just hardly have time for anything, and now when I suddenly have a party or whatever that means I have to be social and talk to people but that's very hard. I guess a that when you're bussy with other things than being social for a long time, that you will become "anti social" and when you're put with people you don't know you just feel not in your element. It's all okay, never overthink about things.. Ever.. |
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