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| Author: | FaceAche [ Fri Mar 21, 2014 7:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Should I just start again? |
It is getting to me now, that I seem quite lost in where I am. I picked up a girl for the first time but now, that was MONTHS ago and lately I have fallen back into square-one; where I haven't motivation, I have more approach anxiety, my self-esteem seems to be dropping. So, should I just start from scratch or how do I get out of this state? Sometimes, I get the odd 2-3 days where I am really boosted to pick-up (but at that time, I rarely find a girl I like) and most times, I get really lazy and procrastinated - where I think picking-up is useless. |
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| Author: | Damien Cash [ Mon Mar 24, 2014 5:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I just start again? |
"Picking up," by itself, IS useless. It's not all about pickup. You have to work on your inner game as well. It sounds like you are using pickup as a social crutch instead of attacking your demons at the source. You can't put a band-aid on your self-esteem. Work on self-love and confidence. Learn why you are fucking awesome and use that to rebuild yourself. Find role-models in real life and in film. Study the behavior and manners of your favorite movie stars. Read a few books on lifestyle and start working towards your goals. When you've accomplished this, you won't even NEED pickup. You'll be unstoppable! |
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| Author: | FaceAche [ Mon Mar 24, 2014 6:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I just start again? |
Quote: "Picking up," by itself, IS useless.
Thanks. I appreciate the words. I was at the point where my confidence soared which eventually led me to pick-up a girl for the first time. Then after awhile of not doing another approach, I have since slowed down and I don't feel that euphoric confidence like I did. I guess it is time to work on that! But once I get back to a high self-esteem state, how do I keep it that way?
It's not all about pickup. You have to work on your inner game as well. It sounds like you are using pickup as a social crutch instead of attacking your demons at the source. You can't put a band-aid on your self-esteem. Work on self-love and confidence. Learn why you are fucking awesome and use that to rebuild yourself. Find role-models in real life and in film. Study the behavior and manners of your favorite movie stars. Read a few books on lifestyle and start working towards your goals. When you've accomplished this, you won't even NEED pickup. You'll be unstoppable! |
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| Author: | Damien Cash [ Mon Mar 24, 2014 6:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I just start again? |
I am a firm believer in lifestyle. If you are living a great life, you naturally have self-esteem. Self-esteem comes from a place of positivity. If you are upbeat and put out good vibes, you are likely to attract good vibes. Look up the "Law of Attraction." There is a lot of truth to it. Confidence can wain a little here and there, but in order to lose it completely, there has to be more than just your dating life having issues. Also, don't put your value or self-worth on your pickup or dating life. Your worth is measured by how many girls you slept with, but how cool you are and how happy you are. |
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