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Author:  Cruces [ Sat Dec 28, 2013 11:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Help with shallow, fun, conversations!
Hi guys!

So, I have two essential problems in my life, both revolving around the same topic - boredom. Mine and hers.
I hope you guys may help me.

1) I think my life is boring. I am rarely excited about what I do, except for my medical studies, and even if I have something, I suck terribly at telling those things, being able to say maybe two sentences to a topic that I perceived as absolutely amazing. I can get very active in discussions though, so it's not about being too shy to talk.
Studying medicine actually gives a great opener, yet I still don't know how to proceed:
Me: "So, what are you doing?
Her: "Well... [...]. what about you?"
Me: "I'm a student. [At that point I usually ask more about her, but that's problem #2]"
Her: "so, what DO you study?"
Me: "Medicine."
Her: "Oh wow! That's amazing, you have to be so smart, I'd be way to dumb for that!" [So, that a great DHV in theory, right?]
Me: "Well... yeah... it's lots of learning." [And that's pretty much where I don't know what to do, and uncomfortable silence commences. I change the topic, and again, problem #2 arises...]

2) The things that interest me are usually pretty specific, scientific and exotic. I can get fascinated about anything - but it makes other people apparently very uncomfortable. I REALLY want to know about something - e.g. the women talks about how she is into paintings. I start asking "What style? What paintings? Do you paint yourself? Which tools do you use? I really dig surrealism and abstract art, like Pollocks Action Painting..." and so on.
It's within my curious nature to want to know everything, in detail, and discuss about it.
Therefore most conversations go very deep within the shortest time, and very few people like that. And no women finds that sexy. I tend to discuss about philosophy with my friends, but I would like to learn to lead more "shallow" conversations, which add more non-intellectual fun and a sexiness instead of, what I mostly get - "you are a weird, interesting guy... yeah... well, see ya around."
It is much easier when I am in a social group, where I can show of my smartness without tiring a single person out.
Author:  RISOvonVODKA [ Sun Dec 29, 2013 9:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with shallow, fun, conversations!
Hi,

I don't think calling yourself dumb is a way to DHV. Try to work on that a little. Also. Don't try be a smart guy, you obviously are one, but girls want a fun person. They want to have fun. They will appreciate your intelect soon enough. Try to look on some infield pua videos to see how to go through conversation.

Keep rockin', friend.
Author:  Cruces [ Sun Dec 29, 2013 9:55 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with shallow, fun, conversations!
Nah, she called HERSELF dumb - I get that often, girls calling themselves stupid around me, I don't know how to respond to that. The only thing I do is say "nooo... I'm sure you have amazing talents, tell me about them!" but that's kinda patronizing and I end up being the therapist.
I'm not trying to be the smart guy, I am trying to be the fun guy, but don't know how to - that was the point of the post.

Could you recommend some specific videos / post a link to them?
Author:  oceanx [ Mon Dec 30, 2013 3:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with shallow, fun, conversations!
To easily avoid them replying with the "I'm dumb" remarks, be vague when they ask what your specific area of study is. If you have sex with a girl, then she can find out the specificity of it.
Author:  the_timepasser13 [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 5:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with shallow, fun, conversations!
Quote:
To easily avoid them replying with the "I'm dumb" remarks, be vague when they ask what your specific area of study is. If you have sex with a girl, then she can find out the specificity of it.
Thats really not gonna work, prolly make them think you're embarrassed by your course or something. In the UK courses are all specialized so there's no getting around it (if it were possible at all in the first place)

Anyone else? I can switch at a healthy level between fun and serious with friends or people who have a decent sense of humor, but find it difficult when people (usually girls) indulge in the whole chirpy casual small talk thing without them being interesting. I proceed to talk about it slightly deeply since I dont mind talking about the topic in general and otherwise I'm just going to offer a short sentence that brings the conversation to an awkward end. It ends up with them not really keen on talking, and suddenly I'm the boring one :roll:
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