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| Author: | Clyde Smooth [ Mon Jul 29, 2013 8:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Intersting take on approach anxiety |
Here is an excerpt from a book called Buddha Brain by Rick Hanson. "So far, we’ve discussed carrots and sticks as if they were equals. But actually, sticks are usually more powerful, since your brain is built more for avoiding than for approaching. That’s because it’s the negative experiences, not the positive ones, that have generally had the most impact on survival. For example, imagine our mammalian ancestors dodging dinosaurs in a worldwide Jurassic Park 70 million years ago. Constantly looking over their shoulders, alert to the slightest crackle of brush, ready to freeze or bolt or attack depending on the situation. The quick and the dead. If they missed out on a carrot—a chance at food or mating, perhaps—they usually had other opportunities later. But if they failed to duck a stick—like a predator—then they’d probably be killed, with no chance at any carrots in the future. The ones that lived to pass on their genes paid a lot of attention to negative experiences. Let’s explore six ways your brain keeps you dodging sticks." This perhaps hints at why approach anxiety exists and is so hard to overcome. Anyway when I read this I thought it kind of made me be more at peace and accepting of the anxieties presence. |
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| Author: | PowerfulAlpha [ Sat Aug 03, 2013 8:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Intersting take on approach anxiety |
Yep, it is unfortunate that the negative things such as fear, doubt etc and wanting to avoid that overshadow the positives of wanting sex, connection, to meet new interesting people. Though if you can learn to let go of those emotions and then increase the positive emotions as much as possible then you will be further propelled towards doing what you want. |
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| Author: | Bruce-Wayne [ Fri Aug 30, 2013 9:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Intersting take on approach anxiety |
True. That's why most men have to come on forums like this to learn how to overcome this ancient outdated instinct. |
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