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Author:  Veritas1991 [ Fri Jun 14, 2013 1:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Revelations of Inner Game (Long Post)
I joined this forum a days ago as an absolute mess. My mind was in complete pieces, my self confidence pretty much shattered, and I felt myself spiraling downwards in a state of negative thoughts and sentiment. In a desperate (and pretty pathetic) attempt to regain a vestige of my old self, I quickly picked up the PUA books I had and read. And read and read. Pretty soon, the words I saw were simply that; words. Nothing was registering in my head, and I was getting a bit frustrated over everything. I saw no way out of my personal situation, and I basically resigned myself to whatever fate was to come of me.

And then something amazing happened.

Out of nowhere, my eyes began to open. I came upon a few realizations that have literally changed my mind and my life. I feel as if I am seeing things for the first time, and I'd like to share these epiphanies with you so that I may potentially help you as well. If you have any thoughts to add, please feel free to contribute!

1. Inner game is best when unleashed, not created

Everything you desire, the life you want, and all the successes you yearn for are already there inside you, encoded in your genes and waiting to be unlocked. Many times when we go through difficulties, we tend to completely enslave our minds and potential because things aren't going our way. We then regress into a vicious cycle of thinking, where we yield to our circumstances instead of making our circumstances yield to us. I thought I had "inner game" prior to my recent experience; I figured, hey, I've overcome XYZ, and therefore I have every reason to be confident in myself. And with that being said, I'd put my headphones in, turn up some J. Cole, and walk down the street with my posture in check etc. It's amazing how quickly life will test your thinking; as I've previously described, my "inner game" was completely shattered based off of my previous post. I realize now that I had simply been deluding myself; I was trying to justify why I had inner game instead of embracing it. Don't justify why you need to be confident, or why you're going to be successful. Live life knowing that you are confident, and that you will be successful. You already have the tools to accomplish whatever you want to accomplish. Just utilize them.

2. Attachment destroys the mind

We grow up as attached individuals. Whether it is attachment to our favorite baseball cards or our favorite pet, as human beings we tend to gravitate (and fixate) on certain things that we bring us happiness. And then when we lose those baseball cards, or our favorite pet dies, we experience a substantial sense of loss. Not only loss of the thing in question, but a loss of self and hence a loss of inner game. What we fail to realize, however, is that the Universe works in its own ways. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, and that things fall apart so that better things can fall into place. Realize that when a relationship ends, or your interaction with a person ceases, this is NOT the end. Life is cyclical in itself; we were born one day and we will die one day. Being cognizant of this fact, we must also appreciate that the going ons of life will also function in a similar way. Things ending are simply life's way of telling you "Hey. You're still alive. Ready for your next chapter?"

3. Living life with a purpose

Too many people live life going through the motions, but not really living. And when I say "living", I don't mean going to a club and partying until 2AM. We fail to realize many times, that life is a truly miraculous thing. We take for granted everything that has been bestowed upon us, simply because we are so desensitized (and used to) everything. I would wager to say that not many individuals take the time out of their day to simply stop and take in everything around them (from the intensity of the sunlight to the breeze blowing across your body). We have one life to live, and I firmly believe that we need to make the most out of it in each and every moment. Don't get caught up in the minute details in the fabric. Play your guitar with a purpose, paint with a purpose, whatever you do, do it with a purpose. Put your entire soul into every moment you spend doing what you love. Forget about the world, and engage yourself in the present moment. Simply live, and live simply.

4. Acceptance

When something doesn't go our way, we tend to try to justify why this or that happened. However, it takes a much longer time for us to accept the reality of our situation. Sure, we can tell ourselves that she didn't call us because she has no self-esteem, she's a terrible judge in men, whatever. The reality of this, however, is that we are telling ourselves these things in order to create comfort within our minds. We are in fact trying to deflect from the fact that we did not accomplish what we wanted to accomplish, and we're attempting to hide the hurt that we feel as a result. At the end of the day, we must accept the outcome of the situations presented to us (good or bad). We cannot change the past, we cannot fight time, and we cannot force someone to change their thought methodologies. The only thing we can do is accept things for how they are, and proceed from that point forward into our lives. Don't dwell on the could haves, should haves, and would haves. Life functions in the "now", so you should too.

5. Happiness and Positive Thinking

Life will throw lemons at you and it will hurt. Sometimes you'll feel like you're struggling to make it through every day (I know I've been there). Other times, you'll be on your knees praying to god (if you believe in a higher power) tears streaming down your face (I know I've been here as well). The truth of the matter is that life is simply too good to be in a negative state of mind. Be happy regardless of your situation. There is ALWAYS a silver lining. It is up to you to identify it and embrace it. Always smile, treat others with respect, and show empathy whenever possible. Society dictates that we should be concerned with wealth and material acquisition, status, power, etc. This is all a load of shit. Of course we're human beings and we want things, but don't let these desires overpower your common nature. That homeless person on the street? Give him a bottle of a juice if you have a few extra dollars. Kiss your siblings and parents and let them know that you love and appreciate them. Life is sincerely too short to be forgetting all the little things. If you can make a positive impact on someone's life, don't even hesitate to do so for a second. You don't know if you're going to go tomorrow or the day after that, so live a happy and fulfilling life.

I'll post more insights as I stumble upon them. If you have any questions, comments, or different perspectives, let me know! In the meantime, I wish you happiness and the realization of all your potentials.

Veritas
Author:  Mr. Marville [ Sat Jun 15, 2013 10:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revelations of Inner Game (Long Post)
Much of this is well-articulated and well thought out, yet still has scent of the "the cosmos is fundamentally good" illusion to it, the Ayn Randian, Aristotelian assumption that given absense of strain, all things will drift to their natural and proper place within the cosmos.

I think you would benefit a lot, and more importantly, the philosophy you are developing, by reading the exchange of thoughts on excellence (what you call "do it with purpose") between myself and another, and then my posts in the "how to be alpha as fuck" thread - especially page 2 and 3. See below here:

post769100.html?hilit=Nietzsche#p769100

how-to-be-alpha-as-fuck-vt161032-15.html?hilit=badr hari
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