PUA Forum :: Porn or no porn? Reprogramming my mind for better sex

Like a lot of guys out there, all throughout my teen years I watched porn regularly. Now(I'm a Uni student) I feel like I have a bit of ED. During sex, I last anywhere between 1 minute to 3 hours. It's always a roll of the dice, I never know how I'm going to perform. Generally, when I first have sex with a girl I don't last as long, but as I get used to her I last longer and longer. The problem is, a lot of girls aren't willing to give guys a second chance.

Anyways, I've read up on different methods of lasting longer in bed. Some of these methods include: Breathing correctly, thinking about nasty things, Kegals, changing positions, going slow, masturbating beforehand and more.

I've also heard that you can reprogram your mind to last longer by bringing yourself close to orgasm but not going all the way, and then repeating this over and over again. In addition to this, you can use a lotion and make sure to focus on squeezing the head.

My main question is: While I'm doing this, should I watch porn or no? I feel like my minor ED has come from my years of porn addiction and I'm not sure whether I should continue watching it while I masturbate. It could be reinforcing the problem instead of helping it.

Author:	Gamer37 [ Wed Mar 20, 2013 11:40 am ]
Post subject:	Porn or no porn? Reprogramming my mind for better sex
Like a lot of guys out there, all throughout my teen years I watched porn regularly. Now(I'm a Uni student) I feel like I have a bit of ED. During sex, I last anywhere between 1 minute to 3 hours. It's always a roll of the dice, I never know how I'm going to perform. Generally, when I first have sex with a girl I don't last as long, but as I get used to her I last longer and longer. The problem is, a lot of girls aren't willing to give guys a second chance. Anyways, I've read up on different methods of lasting longer in bed. Some of these methods include: Breathing correctly, thinking about nasty things, Kegals, changing positions, going slow, masturbating beforehand and more. I've also heard that you can reprogram your mind to last longer by bringing yourself close to orgasm but not going all the way, and then repeating this over and over again. In addition to this, you can use a lotion and make sure to focus on squeezing the head. My main question is: While I'm doing this, should I watch porn or no? I feel like my minor ED has come from my years of porn addiction and I'm not sure whether I should continue watching it while I masturbate. It could be reinforcing the problem instead of helping it.

Author:	vhou812 [ Wed Mar 20, 2013 6:56 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Porn or no porn? Reprogramming my mind for better sex
All of the things to last longer in bed are worth considering. You sound pretty normal in that how long you last is related to how turned on you are. It's also about self control. When you have control and are doing the work, you can control whether you come or not. When she's doing the work, she's typically doing what pleases HER, so she may be moving too fast, too slow, too hard, etc for you to get off in seconds. If you watched a lot of porn and the like, it's possible you've seen a lot, gotten bored with a lot, etc, and that's where the ED comes in. At your age, its probably more of a mental thing or emotional thing than anything. For instance, if you're hooking up with a chick, and you know deep down she doesn't mean shit to you and that she wants more than just sex, it could be killing your sex drive in the moment. Any number of things could do this. I think your ED is probably just some inner things you need to work out, and when you do, problem will be solved. Because of that, I would say porn isn't going to help you figure out what's bugging you, so I'd probably stay away until you think you've got it figured out.

Author:	User13247 [ Wed Mar 20, 2013 10:35 pm ]
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Quote: Like a lot of guys out there, all throughout my teen years I watched porn regularly. Now(I'm a Uni student) I feel like I have a bit of ED. During sex, I last anywhere between 1 minute to 3 hours. It's always a roll of the dice, I never know how I'm going to perform. Generally, when I first have sex with a girl I don't last as long, but as I get used to her I last longer and longer. The problem is, a lot of girls aren't willing to give guys a second chance. Anyways, I've read up on different methods of lasting longer in bed. Some of these methods include: Breathing correctly, thinking about nasty things, Kegals, changing positions, going slow, masturbating beforehand and more. I've also heard that you can reprogram your mind to last longer by bringing yourself close to orgasm but not going all the way, and then repeating this over and over again. In addition to this, you can use a lotion and make sure to focus on squeezing the head. My main question is: While I'm doing this, should I watch porn or no? I feel like my minor ED has come from my years of porn addiction and I'm not sure whether I should continue watching it while I masturbate. It could be reinforcing the problem instead of helping it. To me, all the things you plan to do seem like they would reinforce your problems. Then again, I'm a no porn convert: http://yourbrainonporn.com/

Author:	Hunter_Foxe [ Wed Mar 20, 2013 10:44 pm ]
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Always use thick "last longer" condoms the first time you fuck a girl. Avoid positions you know will make you cum quickly (eg. doggie style makes me cum quick if I don't use protection) and try to get really deep into the vagina (avoid thrusting in and out too hard) and go real slow, girls like it slow anyway. When you have a hard-on, push downwards on your cock with your hand (as if you want to get rid of your erection) so that it's slightly uncomfortable and re-create this action during sex. I like to get high up with a downward motion in the doggie or missionary position, so that there is that downward pressure on my dick.

Author:	Volter130 [ Thu Mar 21, 2013 12:12 pm ]
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Iv always had the opposite problem to you. When im first with a girl, it takes me long to even get an erection, and when im fucking her, i can come whenever i want to. But when im inlove with a girl, i get it up within seconds, and find it way easier to cum. Some of my friends have had a lot of help with kegels, give them a try. Read up on Pegym how to and how often to do them properly. Like hunter said, use thick condoms for the first time if you afraid of cumming to quickly. You can even get desensitising gel or even condoms that do the same job. In regards to not watching porn, could be, i have been trying to cut down myself, watch it about once a week now, eventually want to cut it out altogether.

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Author:	Gamer37 [ Tue Mar 26, 2013 1:23 am ]
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After reading the responses, I think I'm gonna try the no fap challenge out.

Author:	Wh1rlpool [ Wed Mar 27, 2013 4:41 am ]
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I'll do it with you.

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