Recently, at work, I had a client (a student of mine - I teach adult ed in college) hit on me. This would be fine, but it was a guy! He sent me an email and asked me out, and started with, "I assume you are gay..." I wasn't aware I was gay!!
I was shocked. On one hand, it is flattering to have a good looking gay guy show interest in me (it's more interest than women give me!) But on the other hand, his assumption got me really down... People said, don't let it get to you, but I can't stop thinking about it.I've wondered for a while, if the way I come across/look/dress/talk/act is somehow giving off the "gay vibe". Well, apparently this guy thinks so. Now my self esteem is shot to sh*t. I dress well, I'm very thin and I do use a lot of mannerisms when I speak. Maybe I do seem gay? My concern though, is if THIS is how I'm coming across to the outside world, no freaking wonder why I am still single at 31! God, at this rate, I'll never find a decent woman again (I have had LTRs before, years ago)... I'm f***ed.
Another thing that's got me down is, whenever you ask women what type of dude they go for, it's always, someone who looks like Dwayne Johnson or some other buff dude. That is NOT me, and never will be with my build. Even if I work out, I just build a little muscle and get veiny (not attractive). I'm always going to be skinny and women hate that.
How the hell am I supposed to feel confident, powerful and in charge when I'm too damn skinny, which all attractive women HATE?! And when I'm apparently giving off a "gay vibe" that I was not even aware of until two days ago?!!
Need input, thanks guys.