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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Thu Feb 14, 2013 5:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Help! I am full of myself |
So, I have been getting feedback from people that I am full of myself. I asked them because I genuinely wanted to know. I am open to criticism. I just want to be humble and love people but I don't come across that way. I didn't think I would be come one of those kinds of people. But I am getting there. Any tips on being humble? |
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| Author: | Bruce-Wayne [ Thu Feb 28, 2013 6:44 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Help! I am full of myself |
Stop being self-absorbed. Start thinking about other people. Start helping people who need help. Consider other's feelings. Don't try to gain others' approval, but give them your approval. Accept them for who they are, no matter how much they might annoy you or piss you off. Start smiling at people, all people. Maybe try approaching the fat and not so attractive girls who probably never get approached. (You don't have to take their numbers, just do it to make them feel good and to stop being such an arrogant, self-absorbed mother f**ker who only cares about his own happiness) This is a start. I used to be full of my self, selfish, and egotistic as hell. Then I realized...no one gives a shit about you if you don't give a shit about them. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Thu Feb 28, 2013 7:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Help! I am full of myself |
Quote: Stop being self-absorbed. Start thinking about other people. Start helping people who need help. Consider other's feelings. Don't try to gain others' approval, but give them your approval. Accept them for who they are, no matter how much they might annoy you or piss you off.
Start smiling at people, all people. Maybe try approaching the fat and not so attractive girls who probably never get approached. (You don't have to take their numbers, just do it to make them feel good and to stop being such an arrogant, self-absorbed mother f**ker who only cares about his own happiness) This is a start. I used to be full of my self, selfish, and egotistic as hell. Then I realized...no one gives a shit about you if you don't give a shit about them. Thank you for the post. It's been 13 days and I this is no longer a huge problem for me. I do appreciate the feedback and it helps to internalize and adds to my character. Mr. A |
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| Author: | grizzler [ Sun Mar 03, 2013 4:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Help! I am full of myself |
One trick to becoming less self-absorbed is when you're talking to people, ask about them. Being curious about everyone you're talking to, shine the spotlight on them. Most people usually just talk about themselves and people, especially women, find it refreshing when someone instead asks about them and shows a genuine interest. |
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| Author: | LeeEvansFan41 [ Sat Mar 23, 2013 2:20 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Help! I am full of myself |
I think I might be full of myself too, spend most of my time alone as if people don't want to be around me, even though I look good and dress well. I do noticed though, the few times I actually do make an effort to open up and listen to people (Even though I don't really care) im always rewarded for it somehow, girls will always hug me before the night is over when I remember their names, share stories and tell the ocassional joke. It's hard when all you care about is yourself and even harder if you've been through shit for being open and honest and now afraid to open up (I had my heart shattered by a girl years back and since then I didn't want to fall in love in case it happens again, but we only live once and lifes too short to be afraid) Well, don't be too defenseful, avoid being too quiet (I leard people can't stand quiet people the hard way), if you can't find anything to talk about simply ask them a question, be friendly and most of all, relax, try to avoid looking for positive feedback and acceptance from people by trying too hard and forgetting about/ignoring them, what people usually want is a listener, eye contact, some feedback ect |
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