Confidence is simply about knowing you can do something. When you start a new job you're probably at least a little bit nervous. What if you can't do the new job? What if you don't like your new colleagues? What if you can't work the new computer systems? etc. etc.
Fast forward 6 months and you're wondering why you were ever nervous in the first place. Why? Because you've been doing the same thing every day for the past 6 months. It's all second nature to you now.
That's what confidence is, knowing you can do something. The better you can do it, the more confident you are.
Like with most things though, people try to do it the wrong way round. They want the confidence before they try the new thing, because they don't want to look stupid and admit they can't do it. We don't like admitting that we can't do something. We really don't like looking stupid.
But this is the wrong way around. If there was a shortcut to becoming confident - or good - at something before we had practiced it, then everyone would be brilliant at everything and extremely confident from the moment we were born.
There isn't a shortcut with women. You can't become confident with women and only then start speaking to them or approaching them. Regardless of how much you read on here, you aren't going to be confident until you've done it numerous times and it feels almost natural.
So how can you become confident with women? Step one is to admit that you're no good with them now. Step two is to accept that you're going to have to show weakness and might risk looking stupid. Step three is to go out and practice despite step two. Step 4 - practice more.
After you've approached 5 girls, the 6th will feel much easier, even if you've been laughed at by three of them. After you've approached 50 girls, the 51st will seem very easy, even if you've not had huge success yet. After a year, you'll be able to go up to any girl you feel like and open them. You won't feel anxious, because it will be almost natural to you.
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