Anxiety.
Couple years ago, when I was kind-of-starting-out with
getting better in this area of women and meeting them,
there was this one feeling that predominated my life.
That feeling was anxiety.
I use to live in this constant state of mild anxiety.
I would stay in doors, not go out much and avoid most
of the uneccessary contact with people.
I felt better just staying home, doing my stuff...
Sound familiar?
This later became my life. I was trapped in this anxious
feeling all the time.
Whatever I through of doing, I just stopped and felt
PARALYZED about doing it.
That included approaching and meeting women.
The mere thought of going out and meeting women was
terrifying to me.
I just couldn't do it.
So today I want to share with you what I believe is the
fastest way to FREE yourself out of this "Paralyzing feeling".
This one thing helped me get out, get around people
and eventually, getting ma ass LAID LIKE A RABBIT .
You feelin' me right
Ok so enough with the failed slang imitation, let me tell you
about this one thing you can do to "Save" yourself.
This one thing is the first part of my Six Colors Of Confidence
system, and it belongs under the color Dark Blue.
It's CONFRONTING.
You see, what I figured out that ALL confident people have
is this one quality, this common ability to confront the things
that made them feel uncomfortable.
Most of us, HATE confronting things. It makes us feel uncomfortable,
so we AVOID it like a plague.
AVOIDING is the opposite of CONFRONTING.
And I'm going to suggest that if you lock yourself at home, hang on
the computer and "touch" yourself too much...then you're quilty of
this terrible thing called AVOIDING LIFE.
When you avoid life and you don't confront it face on, your confidence
get's hurt.
It's like a snowball effect. First you avoid talking to one person that kind
of makes you uncomfortable (Yep, did that myself a LOT), next you're
avoiding talking to people that previously didn't make you feel
uncomfortable, next you're avoiding everybody.
BUT, your desires and needs for sex and love stay in you.
And then guess what happens when you see a cute girl you would
WANT to talk to, but you've been avoiding everybody even your
shaddow in the mirror?
That's right: Tha Approach Anxiety!
You feel anxious, and of course you do! You've been avoiding
all living creature on the planet and now you're faced with
her REJECTING you.
A very good example of this is to go check out the movie
called "Yes Man" starring Jim Carey, where he plays the
character of a guy who started to avoid life.
SO STOP DOING THAT!
Stop doing the "avoiding" things, and start confronting things
that make you uncomfortable.
Start with something small, you don't have to go and approach
women immediately after reading this stuff, but make a habbit
of confronting things more and more.
Start with something like talking out the trash from your house,
this probably makes you feel a bit uncomfortable, and then
escalate to more "challenging" stuff, like talking to people
that make you uncomfortable.
And over time, you will feel your confidence raising. You'll feel
strong, powerful, like you're in controll of your life, like you
can do what you WANT to do.
You won't feel a victim anymore, you won't feel depressed and
anxious anymore.
So do these 3 things right now:
1. Take a sheet of paper and list 3 things that you currently avoid
on a regular basis. Ask yourself: "What makes me uncomfortable
right now that I am avoiding?"
2. Ask yourself: "How can I confront this right now?"
3. Open the doors of your house, and go CONFRONT the thing
that makes you uncomfortable.
Here's my promisse: If you start confronting things in your life,
this will work as a snowball effect where one small thing
is going to build onto the other and in couple of weeks
you'll wake up as a COMPLETELY different person.
Hate to say this, but MEDITATION won't help you, crying in your
room won't help you, "touching yourself" and porn won't help you...
What will help you is CONFRONT your life. Face to face.
Develop this eye of the tiger within yourself.
-removed
See you soon,
Phantom