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| Author: | lor0001 [ Sat Sep 01, 2012 8:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Have fun! |
I'm confused by the constant posts I see from people who are focused on an outcome. When I go out it doesn't matter if I meet a hot girl, I know plenty of them. I go out to have fun. If you just focus on being social and enjoying yourself the rest flows. Some of my best nights out haven't involved talking to a single hot girl. Sometimes their aren't any. That doesn't mean I'm going to go home and stay in or give up. I'm going to talk to whoever IS there and have a great conversation. Why? It's fun. It helps put me in the frame of mind that I enjoy meeting new people. It helps build confidence. For me this mindset change broke the mold of sarging, picking targets and running mechanical sets. Don't get me wrong, that works but is it really as satisfying? Not for me. Here is an example. I was traveling for work last week. And after checking out of the hotel I went to grab some food at a cool french place up the street. The hired guns weren't girls I would want to fuck, but I engaged them and had fun. I got to try this really crazy fried stuffed olive dish that the chef was trying out. I had fun. Then I went back to the hotel and decided to stop in this really nice wine bar that was attached. I ordered a glass of Malbec and just stood at the bar enjoying it. Within five minutes an woman in her 60s and a guy in his late 30s walked in and ordered beside me. I started talking to them, it turns out they're the editors of two local newspapers on the eastern shore of Maryland. They were interesting, we had a great conversation, they thought I was interesting. They even tried to convince me to bring my boat down to Cambridge so they could show me some places I might like. THIS is how you build social proof. Experiences like this are exponentially boosting. I feel great about myself AND anytime I want to go back there I have an insider status. My new focus is to have fun. 'The Most Interesting Man In the World' doesn't worry about how many #s he gets. Why should he? They come on their own. |
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| Author: | octopus [ Sat Sep 01, 2012 8:39 pm ] |
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I agree with everything you say! There is so much empathesis to get out there and pick up girl. In 30 years I've realised that having 1 nighters don't do anything for me anymore - ive been there, done that and worn the t shirt. Meeting girls for a 1 night stand will increase your ego temporarily but thats it! I would prefer to get out there and have fun because we dont much time and when we're dead we're dead! |
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