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| Author: | Andre TTI [ Fri Jul 13, 2012 9:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | My Journey on Attaining Inner Game |
I've read a lot of posts and field reports as I'm guessing many of you have. This is my journey of attaining this so-called inner game by applying these inner game concepts. Before Inner Game can be achieved, you must have some sort of self-concept you are striving for. I made a list of characteristics and tried to envision this type of person - credit to 870. Some of these characteristics included strong self-belief, confident, interested in others, flirty/sexual, deep conviction to go after what he desires, grounded in reality, abundance mindset, interested in bettering himself, humble, stylish, playful. After you have some sort of self-concept you can sort of visualize, you have to start acting in accordance with that self-concept. What actions would further enforce this self-concept and ultimately give me more confidence? These are some of the ideas I found inspiring that I will implement first. Genuine desire and genuine interest - credit to Chief. This is important, because I've gotten so used to using the same openers that I have a hard time becoming interested in the person speaking. This is also something that my "confident self" would do. Whoever he talks to, he is interested in them, and is good at leading conversations with them. If it is an attractive girl, he will be expressive in his desire for her. If it is some girl he is not sexually attracted to, he will keep it purely conversational. If you get attached to the outcome it will fuck you up - credit to Stormy. Goals must be set within yourself. Not "get a girl's number" but "ask for a girl's number". Not "get the girl to like me" but "displaying my best self". My "confident self" is not attached to people's reactions. He has the eyes of conviction that are locked onto nothing but his goals and the process of outdoing himself. Goals: Speak to 10 strangers and become genuinely interested in the conversation. |
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| Author: | Andre TTI [ Sat Jul 14, 2012 10:53 am ] |
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After my decision to take action I felt a surge of negative thoughts and feelings. These must have been forced into awareness by going directly against my negative self-concept. For the most part, they were thoughts about my lack of self-worth. However, there was this sort of feeling that I didn't want to do this. We have all heard about the necessity to take action. But I think the real reason why action is necessary is because it eliminates all the bullshit. You can no longer delude yourself with thoughts. How you feel about yourself, your fears, your insecurities, are all brought to light by doing the very thing you fear the most. And this is probably the only time you can change those things. It feels like a dark cloud has been cast over my head. I must gain control of this dark cloud by being aware. I need to expose myself so I can give myself the opportunity to gain awareness. I drove to the mall and got cut off. Was semi-pissed off due to being cut off and I let it affect my state. I am more reactive than usual. I walked around the mall for about two hours. All the while, I went from "not a girl who's cute, I don't want to start conversation" to "she's cute, I'm scared of starting a conversation". I don't normally find it this difficult to approach. Normally I'm an approach machine who ejects really early. Something is different today. Going out with a wing at noon tmmrw with the same goal. |
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