neediness and incongruence can be described as creepy, as long as you are needy and incongruent with what you are doing it will be creepy
there is no way to become less needy or more congruent without change, change will not happen in the future it can only happen within your daily habits, if you didn't go meet new girls today, you probably won't go meet new girls tomorrow, if you went out today and didn't approach, the next time you go out, you probably won't approach, if you went out today and approached but didn't project your intentions or escalate, chances are you won't do it tomorrow either
change the habits, change who you are, it takes discipline and effort, just take it one step at a time, one habit at a time
one of the staples of the community is non-reactivity and finding who you are, once you are aware of who you are you can remain centered, if you are reacting to those around you all the time, you do not have a clear idea of what your identity is
you have to fully challenge your normal comfort level and change, expecting different results while repeating the same process is insanity
change is one of the hardest things to do, it is why fat people don't go to the gym, it is why guys who are socially awkward at 20, seem to turn out socially awkward at 40
this is your life and it is ending day by day, what you choose to do with it will really only directly effect you
if you want to give up, that is fine, just know nothing will change by living in comfort, if you can just accept the pain and hardships and know who you are, truly know that you are who you are, when someone challenges your own inner idea of who you are, it won't effect you, because you can remain solid and certain in your belief of who you are
if you don't think you are cut out for this, then you won't be, but nothing will change, no one will make it easy for you, you either sink or swim, you absolutely can do this, just like any guy can absolutely do this, but if you choose to do it or not is only your decision in the end, if you have trouble meeting girls now and don't make an effort to set goals for yourself around improving, then you probably will have just as much trouble in the future, and you still will not be setting goals and trying to improve, it is easy to become complacent, and it is hard to change, but you know what... life is hard man, get over it, you will not make it out alive, and what you do when you are alive is up to you
of coarse you can't adopt a new habit and be proficient in that habit immediately, you will require practice to grow, think about professional skateboarders, how many times do you think tony hawk had to fall and smash his shit up before he was actually able to land his first kickflip?, how many times do you think he ate shit and went to the hospital just to learn something new and grow?
when you start out, yeah, of coarse doing some incongruent shit while you are all needy for approval and validation will turn out bad for you, for the start you will just be that ''creepy guy at the bar/mall'' hitting on chicks with absolutely no resolve or certainty, but eventually, that creep starts to make profound realizations through experience and practice, and one day instead of being the creep, he becomes the pimp (or more realistically achieves the goals he has set for himself)
GOOD LUCK
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