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So, after starting off with PUA less than a week ago, I have had some self-revelations and realized a few things. One of which is my inner game issue. I see a lot of people that talk about AA, and how they psyche themselves out before they even take one step towards the HB - my roommate/wing/sarging buddy has this. I don't. I have no problem opening up, and I'm more than willing to do so. That part of my inner game is solid.
The problem is, afterwards, I don't take rejection well. This is something my roommate has no problem with. If I fuck up, or something goes wrong, I blast myself afterwards for it. I analyze everything after the fact, and then think of what I should have done better. While this sort of sounds helpful, it's not constructive criticism. I'm very harsh afterwards. Everyone says to treat it like "A game," but I have the hardest time taking failure. I always strive for success, and I can't accept any mistakes. Any advice on how to better my inner game in the aftermath (other than practice and repeated rejections - that part is assured)?

Author:	Crossfired [ Thu May 03, 2012 3:43 am ]
Post subject:	Inner Game Issues - Before vs. After
So, after starting off with PUA less than a week ago, I have had some self-revelations and realized a few things. One of which is my inner game issue. I see a lot of people that talk about AA, and how they psyche themselves out before they even take one step towards the HB - my roommate/wing/sarging buddy has this. I don't. I have no problem opening up, and I'm more than willing to do so. That part of my inner game is solid. The problem is, afterwards, I don't take rejection well. This is something my roommate has no problem with. If I fuck up, or something goes wrong, I blast myself afterwards for it. I analyze everything after the fact, and then think of what I should have done better. While this sort of sounds helpful, it's not constructive criticism. I'm very harsh afterwards. Everyone says to treat it like "A game," but I have the hardest time taking failure. I always strive for success, and I can't accept any mistakes. Any advice on how to better my inner game in the aftermath (other than practice and repeated rejections - that part is assured)?

Author:	Gurren [ Tue May 08, 2012 3:53 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Inner Game Issues - Before vs. After
Quote: So, after starting off with PUA less than a week ago, I have had some self-revelations and realized a few things. One of which is my inner game issue. I see a lot of people that talk about AA, and how they psyche themselves out before they even take one step towards the HB - my roommate/wing/sarging buddy has this. I don't. I have no problem opening up, and I'm more than willing to do so. That part of my inner game is solid. The problem is, afterwards, I don't take rejection well. This is something my roommate has no problem with. If I fuck up, or something goes wrong, I blast myself afterwards for it. I analyze everything after the fact, and then think of what I should have done better. While this sort of sounds helpful, it's not constructive criticism. I'm very harsh afterwards. Everyone says to treat it like "A game," but I have the hardest time taking failure. I always strive for success, and I can't accept any mistakes. Any advice on how to better my inner game in the aftermath (other than practice and repeated rejections - that part is assured)? I have same as your buddy , i really need to push myself to approach but i take rejection well. Im convinced of myself that i am a good person , and i wont let anyone else say otherwise because i know who i am. Your thing seems to be that you are a perfectionist who wants a 100% succesrate in all approaches. Well you see ,have an other mind set. be cool with the fact that even with the best game and all of that it is not possible to always be succesfull because too many factors come into play. The girl had a bad day.. has a boyfriend.. just doesnt like your appearance or characteristics you show. It can be so many reasons! Ofcourse its also possible that you might have done something wrong or whatever and thats why i think its good to look back on why you think it went wrong or even if you did anything wrong because theres a good chance there was no succes to get with her to begin with. As long as it is constructive and you make a concrete conclusion on what your going to do better

Author:	rakeal [ Tue May 08, 2012 8:52 pm ]
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The difference is the expectation. Your roommates expect to get rejected. Therefore they are afraid of approaching. They accept the rejection because it was expected. You however expect to get the girl, so your hopes get let down. Change your expectations. Try messing up on purpose. I do it all the time. I flatter them, chit chat. Make their day. Sometimes I don't ask for a number. I just walk away. If my goal was to make them laugh or smile then I never did get rejected. I accomplish my goals 100%

Author:	Crossfired [ Wed May 09, 2012 4:47 am ]
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@Gurren: I am a perfectionist... I knew that, unfortunately. I now know that I can't be 100% successful. I just hate not knowing whether or not it was my fault, or if it was already decided when I opened the set. I have been working on a stronger mindset where I don't criticize myself as often, but it's hard - something I knew going into this. But I appreciate the advice! @rakeal: This is an interesting idea - messing up on purpose? I might try that sometime. I'll definitely do some warmups where I can do this and not feel bad afterwards. Thanks!

Author:	ibhaZaa [ Wed May 09, 2012 9:00 am ]
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Failiure is part of the process. The more you fail, the more successful you ll get on the long run. And you do learn from them. How do you double your success? You double your failures!

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