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Here's some, and they seem simple but they work.
Taken from the book "Confidence".
-Write "I am good at..." and come up with 10 things
-Write "I enjoy..." and come up with 10 things
Think of bad negative thoughts that enter your head? What are they? Are they like "I can't do it" or "I'll never change"? The next exercise is to write the opposite in situations that occur where you find thinking bad things. So instead you write down "Nobody gets it right the first time" and "nobody's laughing at you" etc etc.
I'm actually going to stop there and tell you to buy the book "Confidence" by Rob Yeung. Best thing I've ever done. Talks about inner and outer confidence, self beliefs, body language, voice tone and then focuses on how to set up networking, social circles, getting promoted and he touches on dating.
Buy this book, do what he says and come back in a few months and tell me how fucking confident you are.
Thats oldschool autsuggestion sort of? Taken from the book "Confidence".
-Write "I am good at..." and come up with 10 things
-Write "I enjoy..." and come up with 10 things
Think of bad negative thoughts that enter your head? What are they? Are they like "I can't do it" or "I'll never change"? The next exercise is to write the opposite in situations that occur where you find thinking bad things. So instead you write down "Nobody gets it right the first time" and "nobody's laughing at you" etc etc.
I'm actually going to stop there and tell you to buy the book "Confidence" by Rob Yeung. Best thing I've ever done. Talks about inner and outer confidence, self beliefs, body language, voice tone and then focuses on how to set up networking, social circles, getting promoted and he touches on dating.
Buy this book, do what he says and come back in a few months and tell me how fucking confident you are.
I thing that realisations are important. Same way i quitted smoking by realising that is something that i dont need in my life i changed my perspective to the smoking addiction and i quitted smoking very fast. Everytime i wanned a smoke that realisation hitted me in the hed like "man what you need that for " but not like question more like a conclusion.
Same way i think you need to realise your abilities. Like im better then that guy. But! Not like im hotter then that guy and hi is gym poster boy and you are fat(thats delusion) but im better then that guy cuz im on the other fields stronger then him and i can make myself gym poster boy too! Cuz there is probably a lot of ways to dominate him, like he is piece of cr*p.
So write down realisations about yourself and how you feal about yourself and examine those stuff they by day, what is your strong part and what is your weak part. Then help yourself beat your weak part, and keep making strong parts eaven stronger.
And remember nobody is perfect! Neither are you or other guys. They have flaws.
Sol i suggest write down flaws and good traits of sort of guys who you think they are better then you.
And exemine thouse, pick up goods and use flaws to your advantige.
Ex: IF he is hitting the gym he propably have some frustration. Moust of the guys who are in the gym ware frustrated before. But remmeber that frustration is allso motivational tool!
So take motivation, and use frustration to your advantige, he has never probably lost that frustration.
I have a lot of touts of innergame stuff cuz i survived big transformation myself, i was in a bottom of food chain in sort of getto here in serbia surrounded by criminal minds, so i have a lot of expiriance getting trought bullshit of fear, low self esteem and stuff.