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Author:  prutton [ Mon Mar 12, 2012 8:24 pm ]
Post subject:  i am struggling to leave my comfort zone
basicly me and a friend went to the mall last week and we saw girls he wanted me to aproach but i got to shy, he tried to force but i couldnt. we're gonna go to the mall again next week but this time he wants me to either walk wearing my pants outside my jeans or shout out an embarrising sentence in public the idea is if i do something that takes alot of balls to do then talking to girls will become childs play, i would consider doing this but for now its abit extreme, what more mild way is there to leav my comfort zone
Author:  Nova Casanova [ Mon Mar 12, 2012 8:53 pm ]
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It's either (something like) your friend suggested, or months, possibly years of building genuine confidence. Both ways work, but stepping out of your comfortzone a few times takes comparatively less effort that the other solution, and you will feel proud and relieved after you've done it as well :) You choose..
Author:  JACKAL RONIN J000 [ Mon Mar 12, 2012 10:01 pm ]
Post subject:  HI
I have already done the pants shit. One outside and one on the head, most people do not give a shit. It actually adds attraction.

Go to a nudist beach.

Ask yourself do u wants to be extinct.
Author:  OliverKing [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 2:14 pm ]
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Hey prutton,

I totally understand what you are going through. You don't need to embarrass yourself. Your approaches should be genuine. When you see a girl you want to talk to, come over to her and give her a compliment (notice something unique about her). Then simply just leave the set.

Why you should do this? Most of the guys are focusing on outcome. When you are giving a compliment to a girl and leaving her, you are breaking your limitations. You should expect nothing in return, don't wait till she is gonna say "thank you". Just say it to her and leave immediately. In other words, spread the love and be genuine, don't try to fake anything!

Keep pushing yourself,
OliverKing.
Author:  Nova Casanova [ Sun Mar 18, 2012 2:39 pm ]
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Thumbs up for the king above me :)
Author:  Leo-Jed [ Tue Mar 20, 2012 2:31 pm ]
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When you look at women from afar you will see a snake, approach them and you will see it is just a piece of rope.

Fear is an illusion :D
Author:  Black Phantom [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 11:20 am ]
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Hey man,

after studying this "fear" thing for years, especially approach anxiety, and
trying all sorts of different techniques for eliminating approach anxiety - getting
no results with those by the way - if discovered, that approach anxiety and fear
of women comes down to this one simple thing.

View of women.

If you look at women as somebody above you, higher then you, as somebody
who can "give" you pleasure - and you see yourself as lover then her, as someone
who is out there to "take" something from her, then you are going to feel
nervous, anxious and freaked out about approaching.

But, if, on the other hand, you flip the script and start viewing them as lover, as
somebody who is out there to take something from you, who is at your mercy of being chosen - and even if you don't believe this if you just pretend that when
you talk to her, your anxiety is going to disapear.

Here's what you can do.

This is a technique called The Flip™ and it's the most powerful technique for
eliminating your approach anxiety.

Go here and get a full technique from the guy here www.volcanoconfidence.com

And here's what basically is in this technique.

You draw two circles, and you put names above each one. Above the first one, you put your name, above the second one you put the name of a girl that is hot.

Then you write who you are compared to her in your cirlce, and in her circle you
write who is she compared to you.

It's difficult to explain like this, but in the full technique there is graphic demonstration and everything.

You then read the qualites of each - and then - you Flip it. You scramble the names
and you put your name above her circle, and her name above your circle.

You read it outloud, and you just notice how you feel.

Your approach anxiety is going to be significiantly lower.

I recommend you take a look at the full technique, it has all the graphic demonstration and everything in it.

You can get it here www.volcanoconfidence.com

If you want me to guide you through the whole excercise personally, just send me a message on private and I will help you.

Free of charge man, I like helping guys with this.

Fantom
Author:  loveorlust [ Fri May 04, 2012 5:00 am ]
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Yea totally extreme and stupid.. you'll look like an idiot shouting out, better to take off your pants and take a poop in public. That takes balls, I'm sure.

Instead try something less embarrassing and more practical like talking to "hire guns" (as they call it).. girls who are hired to be nice to you. Next, visit an art gallery and talk to someone looking at a panting. In other words gradually start talking to people and your shyness will disappear.

You can also try doing some of that NLP stuff (never really tried it but why not?) , like visually yourself talking to girls. Maybe you'll lose some of your shyness that way.


Good luck and all the best to you with women.
Author:  Black Phantom [ Fri May 04, 2012 12:11 pm ]
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The most important thing to exit your comfort zone is to LEARN the exact process of exiting your comfort zone - and then apply the same process to approaching a girl.

One of the best exercises I discovered for learning how to exit my comfort zone is called "The Shower Exercise"

What you do is basically this:

Take off your clothes and get into the shower. Turn on the warm water, and start showering.

After a minute or two, you do this:

1. Revert the water from hot to cold and while you do it, notice what your thoughts tell you. Notice how your mind will try to talk you out of it. Notice how your body will want to get out of it. Notice how you will struggle to go against it.

2. Push yourself through it. Discard whatever reason your mind might tell you, whatever exuse it might give you. Push yourself through it

3. Once you do it, hold the cold water untill you count to 10

4. After you count to 10, revert the water back to hot and keep showering for a couple of minutes.

5. Repeat the process 2 more times and each time, notice how your mind trys to talk you out of it.

6. In the third attempt, notice how your body adjusted to the cold, and notice that it is not so bad in the third attempt.

After you do it, you will get experience on how your mind works when you want to do something that feels uncomfortable - you than just simply apply this to approaching women.

If you want to learn how to do this in detail, then go here www.volcanoconfidence.com and get a technique that can eliminate your anxiety in under 3 minutes.

Talk to you soon,

Fantom
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