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Author:  devi4nt [ Thu Sep 08, 2011 11:59 am ]
Post subject:  Awkward around people I know. How to get over it?
Hope this is the right forum for this.

So the other weekend I went to a music festival and I realised something about myself. I feel as though I come across really awkward with people I know. Whether it be the male or female kind it happens with both, Mostly the female kind though.

Basically I find when I'm with people I know, Friends and such, I don't really have much to say to them making the situation awkward and I think that they think I am boring and they probably don't want to hang out with me.

What made me come to this conclusion. Well I went to this music festival on my own. It ws my second time Id done this. It's a big weekend festival with camping.
There is an unofficial camp set up where about 30-40 'loners' turn up each year and everyone who is coming on their own camps together.

I have so much fun. I love meeting new people and I get on with everyone having loads to say and conversations never run dry. To be honest I had a friend phone me the night before the festival this year to say he was going and we should meet up. I said yes but I knew deep down I had no intention of meeting him and his group there. I prefered to be with people I didnt know and actually didn't want him there.

So why is it when I am with girls I know I have nothing to say to them?

Is it some sort of self confidence thing where I can feel more myself when people don't know me or can judge me? It doesn't feel like that though. I don't really care what people think so what can it be?

I really don't know what's up with it all. I'm not that shy of a person. I mean, I can go in to a group of 30 strangers at a festival and have a great time. I prefer to meet NEW people. I go mountain biking on the weekends and always meet loads of new people on my way and have great conversations and usually end up riding with them. I know if I went with my friends I wouldnt have much to say and it would be boring.

Anyone know how to get over this? I just can't seem to hold a conversation well with girls I know. Maybe it's not me and all the girls I know are boring and we don't have anything in common. Who knows.

Thanks for any advice.
Author:  devi4nt [ Mon Sep 12, 2011 5:54 pm ]
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Bump. Anyone?
Author:  mef [ Tue Sep 13, 2011 7:29 am ]
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I gotta say this is pretty strange. Most people have the exact opposite problem. Usually when I'm with close friends I can say anything and joke around, while with new people I always seem to hold back.
My advice is simply do whatever your doing with the strangers with your old friends.
Author:  Royalty [ Thu Sep 15, 2011 5:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Awkward around people I know. How to get over it?
Quote:
Is it some sort of self confidence thing where I can feel more myself when people don't know me or can judge me?.
I don't know. Is it?

Are you comfortable interacting on a superficial level, but not as comfortable getting a little bit deeper with other people and letting them get to know you? Do you have friends that you enjoy hanging out with? Is there a feeling that 'more is at stake' when you interact with your friends, as opposed to strangers, in case they reject you? Just some questions you may want to answer for yourself.
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