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Author:  PUA Kenny [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 8:21 pm ]
Post subject:  HB in field putting me on the spot about a flaw.
I dont know if this has happened to any other guy before[Im lucky-lol]:having the girl you're gaming point out your flaws.

About 4 years ago,I'd opened an HB8 outside of a club.

I was pretty nervous & fidgetty,butnever thought this would be subcommunicated to where she could see it.

Within 3 minutes of the chat,sh says to :me

HB8:"Why are you so nervous"?

Me:"Me,nervous?Hell no"!!

HB:"Yea you are.You're gritting your teeth and biting your lip every sentence".

Wow(lol)!!!

Long story short,I exited the set dejectedly after saying somthing lame.

It's so ironic how I tried denying the nervousness by saying "hell no"!

Ever since then,I'd corrected that part of my body language.

Though I felt like shit then,I thank that HB8 for putting me on the spot.
Author:  Keksman [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 9:33 pm ]
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Had a girl remark on my sweaty palms before, which she read as me being nervous. Truthfully, I denied it (maybe I should use deodorant instead of soap some day) and ignored the whole thing. So yes, I've had a girl point out flaws. And no, it has not made a difference. Two words: frame control.

I didn't eject and FCed her later that night, but it was a day 2 after only getting a KC the night before, so go figure.
Author:  NashLife [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 9:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HB in field putting me on the spot about a flaw.
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I dont know if this has happened to any other guy before[Im lucky-lol]:having the girl you're gaming point out your flaws.

About 4 years ago,I'd opened an HB8 outside of a club.

I was pretty nervous & fidgetty,butnever thought this would be subcommunicated to where she could see it.

Within 3 minutes of the chat,sh says to :me

HB8:"Why are you so nervous"?

Me:"Me,nervous?Hell no"!!

HB:"Yea you are.You're gritting your teeth and biting your lip every sentence".

Wow(lol)!!!

Long story short,I exited the set dejectedly after saying somthing lame.

It's so ironic how I tried denying the nervousness by saying "hell no"!

Ever since then,I'd corrected that part of my body language.

Though I felt like shit then,I thank that HB8 for putting me on the spot.
Hey buddy, it happens to everyone at all levels. I've had it happen to me, even after I thought I was a seasoned vet.

I was talking to a girl I liked after a certification course we were both taking. She was very attractive and really my kind of girl.

The problem is that there was another girl in the class who I befriended, sat next to, and with whom I consistently joked around--I basically heckled the teacher throughout the certification course because I resented having to take it and knowing more than the teacher. I was not attracted to this girl, but she was just really cool so we were friends pretty quickly.

With the girl I liked, I was very serious and just stuck to whatever consisted of our certification course. And she just outright asked me:

"Hey, is there something wrong? You don't act with me the same way you act with [name]?"

I did not have a good response. I said,

"Oh, well, I know her better than I know you."

Her response,

"Do you two work together or know each other before this program?"

Mine

"Ugh, no. It's just, you know, we study together and she is really smart and cool."

Which to a certain extent sounds kind of like an insult to the girl I liked. Needless to say, we did not share too many conversations after that.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:08 pm ]
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@Keksman-Lol,I never really had the sweaty palms incident.

Good to hear that you did f-close her(lol).

I made the mistake of leaving set and abandoning the PU.

@Nashlife-Lol,ok good to know that Im normal when it comes to girls calling you out on things.

You made a good point also about being a seaosned vet yet still having those minor issues.

Im a seasoned vet currently,yet I suffer from eye contact like pussy(lol)!!

Cannot look a random girl in the eye for more that 1 second.

Lol,wow,the girl at the course really stuck it to you.

That has happened to me also(recently).

Thanks for the reply guys.
Author:  Brometheus [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 6:34 am ]
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Yeah man, def been called out on it before, mostly because when I get nervous I tend to talk really fast and just fidget with shit. When I first started, I'd try to deny it but get ejected pretty fast. Nowadays I'll just give her an embarrassed look and say "honestly, I am nervous; you just seem really cool and I'm psyched to get to know you more."

Women almost always react well to this because it shows incredible vulnerability! You're so confident about yourself that you can straight up admit that she makes you nervous. And there's nothing wrong with being nervous, really hot babes should make us nervous, you just need to learn how to own your nervousness and project it in a confident manner. Thats sexy. Yatches be all up ons :D
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Thu Mar 24, 2011 6:29 pm ]
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@Brometheus-Lol,I had the same prob' also of talking really fast when nervous.

Never had a girl call me out on it though.

I like your stratergy of agreeing with her about being nervous.

Too many times we men want to come across as super alpha and all put together.

You must diplay some sought of vulnerability .

I do that by telling her a little story about me being scared to talk to girls through out my high school years[which was true].

So great insight Brometheus.
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