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| Author: | GetmetheGirl [ Thu Sep 23, 2010 4:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Don’t judge a ‘set’ too quickly! |
Don’t judge a ‘set’ too quickly! Often it can be easy to attempt to be a body language expert and to judge who plays what role in the group of girls and anticipate their reasons for having that position within the group. Its quite easy for those desiring to become master pick up artists to make assumptions about a set before they approach it, often not really giving their judgements real testing For example when conversing with a 4 set you might come across, one girl to be acting ‘bitchy’ and the assumption is that she’s playing ‘mother hen’ i.e. cock blocking you from the group, another girl could be said to be quiet therefore assumed uninterested, you may be hitting on one girl thinking that she’s really loving your content, but really she’s just enjoying the conversation and has a boyfriend, and another girl might be completely delivering you indications that she is attracted to you, but really she’s got a booty call lined up and is just in that frame of mind. People are unique, varied and random, and cannot be easily typed. Of course when we approach a set we make snap judgements as to quickly work out which girl we are trying to ‘target’ to engage in some kind of sexual-esque relationship with. But suppose this was to all change and your target suddenly seems ‘bitchy’ or ‘ quiet’ or something else, what exactly are you going to do? It’s worth keeping an open mind and to not judge girls and place them into any box as its likely that the bitch, perhaps is just creating ‘banter’ (i.e. light-hearted jokes and jabs for fun & entertainment) or that the ‘quiet’ girl who we judged to be ‘uninterested’ is really just shy and is really warming to you but is just taking her time getting the conversation flowing. It has been said by many a PUA author that creating comfort to lead to full close takes roughly seven hours, that means that the relationship needs to build, OK you might have your qualms about the type of girls your talking to because you think they are not particularly your type of blowing you out of the set, but I wouldn’t be so sure, a lot can happen in seven hours, there will be plenty of highs, plenty of lows, dull moments, blow out moments, anything could and probably will happen! To get really good at this game, you need to ‘love’ people, for who they are, literally I mean actual platonic love, and be prepared to ‘pause’ and wait to find the true person behind the actions, without judging the actions. This all sounds rather wishy washy, but when you really have passion for someone for who they are, they can feel it. Attraction is a two way process; There’s two types of mistakes guys make when trying to get good with girls (1) They are attracted to the girls but don’t get the girls interested in them, or (2) the guy is interested in himself and attracts people, but those people don’t feel ‘attractive’ because the PUA hasn’t took the time to really understand the nature of them or their group dynamic to establish which them is actually a ‘realistic’ target. The recommendation is, to go in and ‘flare’ (i.e. do stuff that makes the whole venue watch you, speak loudly, loud clothing etc) to demonstrate your values and build comfort into the set by establishing a dynamic while not giving anyone too much interest until you realise exactly who’s game. Then deliver some more stories that represent your bold impact on the world, and authority not only in the content but the delivery of them, then build comfort with target. Be careful what you wish for, you might miss a good opportunity. Vince Lynch GetmetheGirl |
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