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Author:  clearspeak [ Thu Jun 28, 2012 3:30 am ]
Post subject:  Reducing Wasted Motion
I've talked to some speakers about nonverbal communication because it's very important in presentations. One of the things they have very commonly agreed on is that unnecessary motion is one of the worst things you can do. Motion should have a purpose.

So it is great to make congruent gestures when telling a story. It is great to walk somewhere with the intent of letting another part of the audience be closer to you. But you don't want to do any of these things just to fill the space. It makes things look awkward and distracts from your message.

So think about your movements and if they don't have a purpose, consider just being comfortable in your own skin, standing your ground and communicating.
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Thu Jun 28, 2012 4:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Reducing Wasted Motion
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I've talked to some speakers about nonverbal communication because it's very important in presentations. One of the things they have very commonly agreed on is that unnecessary motion is one of the worst things you can do. Motion should have a purpose.

So it is great to make congruent gestures when telling a story. It is great to walk somewhere with the intent of letting another part of the audience be closer to you. But you don't want to do any of these things just to fill the space. It makes things look awkward and distracts from your message.

So think about your movements and if they don't have a purpose, consider just being comfortable in your own skin, standing your ground and communicating.
I agree but everyone should learn to use illustrators(gestures to tell a story), everything from eye contact to illustrators to laughing and smiling have limitations. Everything should be done in correct doses, why would movement be any different? You move too much and you look like you are on something, same thing happens if you move too little.

Learning to tell a story with illustrators can be a huge asset when it comes to appearing more charismatic and more attractive. I highly recommend learning to use movements properly and in the right doses. Your energy level and the energy level of your environment help let you know the amount of illustrators you should or shouldn't use.
Author:  clearspeak [ Fri Jun 29, 2012 11:22 pm ]
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I've talked to some speakers about nonverbal communication because it's very important in presentations. One of the things they have very commonly agreed on is that unnecessary motion is one of the worst things you can do. Motion should have a purpose.

So it is great to make congruent gestures when telling a story. It is great to walk somewhere with the intent of letting another part of the audience be closer to you. But you don't want to do any of these things just to fill the space. It makes things look awkward and distracts from your message.

So think about your movements and if they don't have a purpose, consider just being comfortable in your own skin, standing your ground and communicating.
I agree but everyone should learn to use illustrators(gestures to tell a story), everything from eye contact to illustrators to laughing and smiling have limitations. Everything should be done in correct doses, why would movement be any different? You move too much and you look like you are on something, same thing happens if you move too little.

Learning to tell a story with illustrators can be a huge asset when it comes to appearing more charismatic and more attractive. I highly recommend learning to use movements properly and in the right doses. Your energy level and the energy level of your environment help let you know the amount of illustrators you should or shouldn't use.
Absolutely poetic. It's important to learn to use non-verbal communication properly, just as it is important to learn how to not use it improperly. The two work hand in hand.
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Mon Jul 02, 2012 6:52 am ]
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I just looked at your signature, that's cool public speaking award. I didn't even know it existed, I'd be interested to see how I'd do in something like that. How did you enter? I'm still finding my comfort on camera but I'm slowly but steadily becoming alright at it. Once I'm really comfortable my personality will be far more noticeable.

I've been chose to speak in front of a crowd multiple times because of my charisma, since then I've learned more tactics and now I actually can raise and lower a crowd. I've got better tone and body language. It would be very interesting to see how I could do if I actually planned and performed a speech.

I was at an event earlier in tonight and I wanted to go up and give the announcer some tips on public speaking lol.

Congrats on winning that, it's really cool.
Author:  clearspeak [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 4:06 am ]
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Poetic,

I'm not the one who won it. I've just learned some from the guy who did. He won the world championship in public speaking out of 25,000 contestants and has gone on to create some programs to teach others.

I looked at your body language videos and enjoyed them.
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Tue Jul 03, 2012 6:32 pm ]
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Poetic,

I'm not the one who won it. I've just learned some from the guy who did. He won the world championship in public speaking out of 25,000 contestants and has gone on to create some programs to teach others.

I looked at your body language videos and enjoyed them.
Oh that's cool too, learning from the best always helps.

Thank you sir, which ones the "Does She like me?" or the Alpha body language series? Any feedback for me? I'd like to improve can't improve without feedback. Don't worry I'm not offended easily.
Author:  clearspeak [ Wed Jul 04, 2012 5:49 am ]
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Poetic,

I'm not the one who won it. I've just learned some from the guy who did. He won the world championship in public speaking out of 25,000 contestants and has gone on to create some programs to teach others.

I looked at your body language videos and enjoyed them.
Oh that's cool too, learning from the best always helps.

Thank you sir, which ones the "Does She like me?" or the Alpha body language series? Any feedback for me? I'd like to improve can't improve without feedback. Don't worry I'm not offended easily.
Saw the alpha body language ones. I thought you did very nicely. I especially liked that you distinguished between traditional alpha behaviors that actually can put people off vs. ones that show you in a confident light. I thought you come across yourself as comfortable with who you are and knowledgeable.
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Wed Jul 04, 2012 8:57 am ]
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Thank You for the compliment. I am very comfortable in who I am, I better be if I'm making videos about this stuff lol.

It's important to know what to do, but it's just as important to realize some behaviors may be perceived as alpha but don't help from an attraction standpoint.

I will be remaking this at some point with more sample clips, I'll be standing more, and be more animated. I just want to be able to improve on it. I'm getting more and more comfortable in front of the camera. You know make it better, I'm all about improvement.

If you could check out my other show as well I'd love the feedback. It's more about reading attraction than attractive body language. Sorry asking for favors but you should learn a thing or two.
Author:  clearspeak [ Wed Jul 04, 2012 11:25 pm ]
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I'll check it out.

One thing I would like to hear about in your videos is how you developed into the comfort you have now, your story. Were you like that as a kid? Or were you not like that and had to work at it? And so on?

I'm always interested to hear how people who are comfortable in their own skin got that way since it's a challenge so many people face.
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Sat Jul 07, 2012 9:27 am ]
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I'll check it out.

One thing I would like to hear about in your videos is how you developed into the comfort you have now, your story. Were you like that as a kid? Or were you not like that and had to work at it? And so on?

I'm always interested to hear how people who are comfortable in their own skin got that way since it's a challenge so many people face.
We all have comfort in our own skin in some part of our life, the trick is to learn to transfer that comfort to all aspects of your life. We all have confidence in something we do.

I had very little confidence from about middle school until 22 in which case I had some but not an impressive amount. I still had my moments of comfort with myself but not in the area of women. I had to realize my own brilliance and worth mentally, and though my body language was already decent I gained a lot of presence when I realized the behaviors I needed to dis-include and add in more with consistency.

I probably wasn't as anxious as most people and I've always had some charisma but I certainly worked on myself to get myself better. I had to change my body language and mindset, understand my brilliance and believe in it. We all have some it's up to you to witness and believe in your own brilliance.

It took a minute to gain my core confidence(which is even more recent) but I have gained a core confidence finally (knowing what you want and having the belief and action involved in getting it). My comfort in my own skin is a product of all of my assurance in myself, my words, my studies, and my experiences. It didn't happen over night, and I'm always happy to give people some tips on gaining confidence but by no means am I an inner game expert.

I've tried many things but the things I recommend the most: Consciously changing to positive thoughts. Meditation. Working out. Conscious body language change (if needed). Realizing your Self Love and Self Assurance. Defining and a daily reminding of your Life Purpose, life goals, and the steps you must follow to get there. A Nightly NLP exercise where you see the person you want to become and you walking into that person so you realize you are him now (more complicated but yeah).

Confidence takes discipline and commitment if you don't already have it. Just like many others I had it and it was gone and back again. Right now it's as strong as it has ever been but more importantly it's as stable as it's ever been(even when it was at a slight stupor I was getting numbers).

I'll figure something out and write something up, it could be a fun, a journey to confidence or something of that nature. Don't expect it up right away, going to brain storm it up but I think it will be fun.

I'm not sure exactly what you want to know though.
Author:  clearspeak [ Sat Jul 07, 2012 11:53 pm ]
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I wasn't just saying this only for myself. I meant I think it could make a good video for you. Changing body language is one part. But body language reflects something deeper. I think gaining self-esteem for people is a journey. So people might be interested to hear your journey.

Just an idea.
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