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Author:  Shadowboxer [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 6:03 am ]
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Take A look at this picture

[img=left] http://imgur.com/P3KbF [/img]

This is me at my most basic piece of clothing ( I have better clothing than this )

Now what can I do, overall looks, not just clothing, to make myself look better?

(hair, shirt, pants, legs, Facial expression, posture, etc...)
Author:  Serj [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 6:57 pm ]
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Lose the necklace. It looks like a sixth grader would wear that.
New haircut.
Not a fan of the watch. Try a bracelet or something different.
Wear more fitting pants.
Author:  Shadowboxer [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 1:59 am ]
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Ok thanks.
Author:  smackdat [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 3:34 am ]
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Ok thanks.
looks good from here. nice skin tone you have son

nice black hair

A haircut with 2 blade at side and long on top would suit you face

with cloths tight tees as you have a good body

V necks and u necks will suit you face
Author:  getwit [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 4:03 am ]
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-Hit the gym
-Try more fitted clothes. Jeans instead of those shorts, and a nicely fitted tee or dress shirt
-Invest in a nice watch. Women always notice nice watches
-Haircut

Naturally, you're not a bad looking guy. Make some adjustments and you could be a force to be reckoned with.
Author:  Shadowboxer [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 4:44 am ]
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Ok...So what can you guys tell me about body posture?
Author:  JF [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 10:26 am ]
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Ok...So what can you guys tell me about body posture?
What I would think if I saw this picture is that; you look like a nice, but the way you posture seems like a lack of confidence a bit insecure. Like nice guy, friend zone type of posture. How to change that, hmm. I do think building a bit more confidence. Nice clothes, that you are comfortable to wear, but that are dashing.

Not sure if I can give better advice, since I have a pretty confident body posture (almost arrogant sometimes), always had, maybe someone who had the same problem. But I do think it's mental. Even tough you might not be it, you can look confident. Approaching a women is a different step then, but first I guess you need the feeling like your, well basically, the man. There are other good looking guys, but your one of them, ya know. Just don't downgrade yourself. Chin up, etc. Cliché, but as with the most cliché things, a truth is to be found in it.
Author:  O2 [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 5:28 pm ]
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Studying bodylanguage/psychology at college; would say based on the fact you weren't looking straight at the camera practise some eye contact exercises and walk around as if you just won the lottery. I've been doing that for the past week, you actually notice the increased girl attention.

Also, style/groom yourself every morning this will make you feel 100 bucks and make your posture sooo much better.

And I'd say you had good skin/general looks so go for some more stylish clothes, fitted shirts and trousers etc. Nothing too much, casual but stylish; stylish not cool. It's cooler to look good.


Fitted clothes, your hair was okay but make sure you always style it. Anyway, I'm just a learning AFC and you look better than me so good for you son haha.
Author:  MadTown Mayhem [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 10:39 pm ]
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In terms of posture, you should have your neck straighter, shoulders back, down, and chest out more...just not cartoonishly so, like some guys do when walking into or out of the gym. Think of a laid-back version of the Alexander Technique.

The clothes looks like what every single other guy your age wears. A well dressed man can dress causally and still look like a well dressed man. Instead of simply dressing according to what is comfortable, think of every item of clothes telling a story, and by getting dressed you are writing a novel for that day. Also consider dressing in layers (which gives you more stories to tell).

Here's a casual look of mine from a couple of weeks ago, featuring an American Eagle t-shirt, short sleeved shirt, two necklaces, two bracelets, a belt, and sandles.

http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/213/dscn2538v.jpg/
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 10:47 pm ]
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Ok...So what can you guys tell me about body posture?
You have a stiff torso. Your body is full of rigidity. A rigid body is a sign of stress, a beta trait. A loose relaxed body is a sign of low stress and alpha trait.

You are doing a asymmetrical shoulder shrug, this could be because your hand is up but you look uncomfortable. The left shoulder in the pic is pulled back showing confidence while the other is lowered showing a lack of confidence.

Your arm while at it's side doesn't appear relaxed some how. There is a stiffness to your hand(why isn't it just open loosely?). You should hold your arm out further to take up more space and simply because it is more relaxing and looks more alpha.

Your shoulders don't seem relaxed. They don't seem to be comfortable at all, the shoulder shrug is part of it but it's that you are trying to look like somebody but don't feel as though you are. You need to have wide and RELAXED shoulders to take up space and be recognized as a confident attractive male.

Your chest is NOT pushed out. A sign of alpha is to push out your chest, this is also a sign of masculinity. You should push out your chest. It shows confidence and that you have pride in who you are.

Your stance width is good but it is asymmetrical making it incongruent, your behavior is faked confidence basically. One foot points out further than the other. In order for you to look confident you need a symmetrical wide stance so it looks agreeable with who you are and how you feel.

You don't have any personality in the picture, you could have used your free hand to do something, no smile, you aren't relaxed enough or having a good time, both are signs of alpha. You need to have more zest.

Your head and chin are held high but your head isn't held as high as possible because it looks like it's leaning.

You have good concepts but you lack congruency. You need to be proud of who you are. It should shine in your body language. Both sides of your body should show confidence. Put a piece of paper down half of your picture so you can only see the right or left side at a time and then pull it away, this will let you see what I mean.

Wide shoulders, wide stance, symmetrical, relaxed behavior, personality, pushed out chest, head held high, chin high, it shouldn't be forced or rigid.

Just what I see for body language. If you like you can go check out my concepts on alpha. It has sample pics and video clips. A free 30 minutes or so worth of video on confident(alpha) body language. http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL ... ature=plcp
Author:  Shadowboxer [ Fri Jun 08, 2012 6:36 am ]
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Correct. I do go through a lot of stress and that's because I am really busy (tae-kwon do and tennis) and my family members are composed of Nice Guys and manipulative women. Seriously there's like 2 manly guys in my family (there will be 3 soon)

I watched your videos and they are very informative. I realized exactly how stressful I usually am.

Also my back is kind of hunched from using the laptop so much. And my head is quite large so I guess that adds some extra weight on my neck.

Clothing for me is EXTREMELY CONFUSING AS FUCK.

I can't determine what's cool or not because when I walk in a store I see metrosexual clothing EVERYWHERE. I can't find the good stuff

So can you post a few more examples of good looking clothes?
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Fri Jun 08, 2012 2:31 pm ]
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Correct. I do go through a lot of stress and that's because I am really busy (tae-kwon do and tennis) and my family members are composed of Nice Guys and manipulative women. Seriously there's like 2 manly guys in my family (there will be 3 soon)

I watched your videos and they are very informative. I realized exactly how stressful I usually am.

Also my back is kind of hunched from using the laptop so much. And my head is quite large so I guess that adds some extra weight on my neck.

Clothing for me is EXTREMELY CONFUSING AS FUCK.

I can't determine what's cool or not because when I walk in a store I see metrosexual clothing EVERYWHERE. I can't find the good stuff

So can you post a few more examples of good looking clothes?
Yeah, it's hard to gain the habits you need, our body language is year and years of habits but you need to change them, this means consciously changing things until they become natural.


As far as clothes goes, fashion is not my specialty. I choose to go with a stay that nobody else will sport. Aztec calendar, sideways popped up hat, bracelet, funny shirts or music shirts, matching kicks. I wear a lot of purple and green, but blue and black is in there as well. A lot of people don't realize one of the easiest ways to peacock is simply by modifying the colors you normally wear.

I am looking to formalize, I'm all about suits. Suits let you be the man, they represent power and class. You look important and feel important, it gives you a little more confidence. However, I don't live in PR where it's warm and by the ocean, shorts and t-shirts are regular and suits may be overkill in your situation.

The point of your style should be some individuality, you need something that shows your individuality and represents your character. You don't have color, a necklace that means something to you(or does it), your watch looks kind of cheap. You need to stand out and be different(have personality) with your clothes.
Author:  NoPlease [ Thu Jul 19, 2012 4:21 pm ]
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I think you could pull off the beach boy style.
Author:  InstantClassic [ Mon Aug 06, 2012 6:00 pm ]
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in all honesty try asking some girls to help you find a style thats all your own, one you can pull off, one that makes you look and feel good, use it as an excuse to approach :)

hope that helps

Carl
Author:  GODOFBLACK [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 3:26 am ]
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I could help you with style, but IDk if your still with us.
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