This is an excellent topic, and I've read varying advice on standing, sitting at a bar, etc., but I believe the best "advice" has come from grabbing a pad and paper - thinking back to things I've done that got a favorable response, and those that have not - and writing them down.
Where was sitting when that hot girl - or any girl approached? What was I doing? How was I standing? Etc.
Looking at my past 10 negative experiences: I was looking around (on the prowl). And sitting or standing in one place.
Looking at the 10 most recent positive experiences: I was not (seemingly) paying attention to anyone. I appeared confident and not overly interested in any woman at all. I was sitting at the bar - confident with being alone - and she came up from behind and found a reason to speak. I was walking toward the door and she stopped me and said "Why are you leaving?"
The point here is that whether standing, moving, or whatever, if one looks as if they want something, they assentuate the fact that they do not have it, and if they do not have it, they probably don't get it. And if they don't get it, then they must not be worth having!
There is a qualification, however, YOU MUST OPEN THE DOOR. That's it. Do not invite her in, just open the door, and her curiousity will make her enter! You open the door by giving her either an excuse to approach...
In a French cafe/bar in Manhattan, a lady, who was with her "boyfriend," was pushed slightly into me as I stood. She looked at me, we exchanged smiles (wham, the door is open). Fortunately for me, because she had an apparent boyfriend, I did not dwell on her at all, but, rather, passed and sat at the bar. Her group was just behind me. Within two minutes, she tapped me on the shoulder and asked "Where are you from?" Within 3 minutes, the other lady in her group (apparently concerned that she was speaking with me and ignoring her boyfriend, pulled her away). I did not let it phase me. After a few minutes, she followed me to the restroom line. She gave me her number (while from a distance, her boyfriend watched!)
In another bar, where I was minding my own business, two women entered simply to ask directions from the bartender. Not knowing at first that they merely were to pop in and out quickly. I offered them space at the bar (wham, the door is open). The one nearest to me, a tall blonde, then said to her friend, "You know what, let's have a drink." Within two minutes, she turned to me and said "So what's your story?" She gave me her number after they finished, and said "You and I must do lunch!"
The point in both of these samples is that regardless of your position, it is usually best to look as though you are not looking. It is you who are special, it becomes you who are different than all those other guys standing around looking needy, and it is you who will get the ladies.
So do not stand around. Move through the room and open the door for as many ladies as you can: smile. Make a comment (but not conversation), make room at the bar, hold the door, etc, and then confidently enjoy yourself alone without looking around, without seemingly caring. They will come to you.
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