PUA Forum :: Am I intimidating to women

Thanks for the love lolaskate(over sold much?), you seem to get to all these questions before I do.

First I'd say that you are out there a little ways to think that girls staring at you and sending attraction clusters where ever you go is "annoying", a lot of folks who come on these forums would be happy to receive that type of attention.

You should be happy that where ever you go people feel comfortable enough to have a private conversation by sharing things they obviously normally don't.

When woman are attracted they are submissive. So a girl will naturally look down, or turn her head exposing her neck. We get nervous around people we are attracted to so we pacify, or preen(especially during attraction) to comfort ourselves. People who are anxious are submissive.

What is your exact question because what you described is normal courtship behavior.

Author:	RedBlackWhite [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 12:19 am ]
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Hello there, I've had this "problem" for quite a while now (years, actually). Every time I go out (shopping, to a bar, etc...) I keep getting stared at by women. It isn't like every member of the opposite sex stares at me, but a lot do. I know this makes me sound vain, but since I am a very private person (I don't like to be stared at), this is actually more annoying than it might sound. The really interesting part comes when I happen to make eye contact. Women almost instantly look away, and kinda smile, awkwardly. Furthermore, whenever I engage women in conversation they seem to lose their ability to formulate definitive sentences (they start speaking in what I call "insecureese", using words like "like", and "umm"). The "boldest" of these ladies simply smile demurely, which is (again) confusing for me, since I don't know what that smile is supposed to mean. Since I'm 24 you'd think that most of the women who do the staring are about my age, but I also get these half-smiling/"fond" looks from women old enough to be my mother. They're not "look at the cute kid" looks, but different...if that makes any sense. It's interesting to note that I get along just fine with guys. Without flattering myself, I can safely state that I'm not ugly, so I'm 90% sure that the stares aren't oh-my-god-here-comes-Frankenstein-kind of looks. As I've said above, I'm 24, 186cm (that's something like 6'2" isn't it?), dark haired (dark brown), and I have dark brown eyes that other people have called "intense" (again, I'm NOT bragging). Furthermore, I have been told that I dress "sharply", and "better than most people". Again, these are quotes, and not me bragging (although I can't help but feel good when I hear this). I'm trying (key word, "trying") to be a renaissance man, and can speak several anguages fluently. Someone once told me that I was too "intimidating" to women, and I was wondering if that might be the case. Could anyone give me some advice. Thanks P.S. I would like to stress the fact that I am not bragging in my description above. I'm simply contextualizing myself, so please keep that in mind.

Author:	detox75 [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 4:07 am ]
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i heard that comment about myself in my 20's a lot, Im 6'3', articulate, attractive, and smart. The bad news is that I rarely got laid in my 20's so none of that made up for my poor game. I dont think you need to worry about how intimidating you are, i think you need better game. And , as always, dont take game advice from girls.

Author:	CAVEMAN287 [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 5:59 am ]
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if this is the case you are noticed and therefore attracttive it is an invitation

Author:	Shyy [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 6:45 am ]
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GOD dude, we are two of one kind! This shit happened to me alot too! But i learned that it's your being attractive to them. They are inviting you to come over and talk to them by looking at you, then looking away smiling. I used to think i was weird or something but honestly, it's a good thing! Work on not being so insecure also ~Goodluck man!

Author:	lolaskate [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 12:29 pm ]
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I read this off a post from the forum's body language expert poeticallyskuac. And in general, if you think you are "intimidating" most likely it has to do with your body language being too "threatening". Try keeping your palms open, expose your wrists, raise your eyebrows more, have a warm smile, keep your "vibe" fun and happy something approachable. There's probably more. But that's all I got for now.

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Author:	RedBlackWhite [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 1:51 pm ]
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Thanks so much you guys, until now nobody had ever bothered to empathize, let alone explain my "problem" to me. It's funny actually, even female sales clerks act weird around me. After the usual "how are you?" shtick that all sales people do, if I happen to say "how are you" back to them (for example, a girl working at Guess, or some other store), oftentimes they actually start telling me about their day. So I find myself in a situation where I'm hearing about how her friend did something stupid earlier that day, and I'm forced to smile and nod, when I'd rather be shopping and spending. It's actually kinda funny. Thanks for the answers and the advice, if you think of anything else, please post.

Author:	poeticlyskuac [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 6:03 am ]
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Thanks for the love lolaskate(over sold much?), you seem to get to all these questions before I do. First I'd say that you are out there a little ways to think that girls staring at you and sending attraction clusters where ever you go is "annoying", a lot of folks who come on these forums would be happy to receive that type of attention. You should be happy that where ever you go people feel comfortable enough to have a private conversation by sharing things they obviously normally don't. When woman are attracted they are submissive. So a girl will naturally look down, or turn her head exposing her neck. We get nervous around people we are attracted to so we pacify, or preen(especially during attraction) to comfort ourselves. People who are anxious are submissive. What is your exact question because what you described is normal courtship behavior.

Author:	lolaskate [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 10:10 am ]
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Quote: Thanks for the love lolaskate(over sold much?), you seem to get to all these questions before I do. First I'd say that you are out there a little ways to think that girls staring at you and sending attraction clusters where ever you go is "annoying", a lot of folks who come on these forums would be happy to receive that type of attention. You should be happy that where ever you go people feel comfortable enough to have a private conversation by sharing things they obviously normally don't. When woman are attracted they are submissive. So a girl will naturally look down, or turn her head exposing her neck. We get nervous around people we are attracted to so we pacify, or preen(especially during attraction) to comfort ourselves. People who are anxious are submissive. What is your exact question because what you described is normal courtship behavior.

Author:	SLWY [ Sun Feb 12, 2012 11:49 am ]
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I am from Alabama. The only way you can be intimidating to a girl is if you have a shaved head and a spider tattoo on your forehead. Other than that, just keep an open posture and keep a flirting mentality.

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