My 2 cents on this situation:
Most girls (and people in general) do not have very good ears for music. You can be playing the hell out of your guitar, but most girls would probably be more impressed if you covered a very simple song they know.
Furthermore, most girls like guys in bands NOT because they are musically inclined, but because they hold so much power by being on stage, being the center of attention, and eliciting reactions from so many people.
I'm in the same situation as OP, since I've been playing guitar for years and am really good, but am not in a band. What I have found is that you cannot rely on your guitar playing skills (no matter how good) to attract girls. You must build up attraction first, and then use your guitar playing to seal the deal.
Like others have said, have your instruments in your house on display. After a night out with a girl, where you have been building attraction, kino, etc., get her back to your place. You might have mentioned to her that you play, but don't talk about it too much because you don't want to overhype yourself. Chances are that as soon as she sees your guitar she'll ask you to play her something.
As cliche as it is, and as much as it won't showcase your full talents, acoustic songs are probably the way to go. Most girls are gonna be more impressed if you play a lyrically soulful song than if you play something full of technically proficient musicality and depth. Remember, girls are about emotion, and most girls aren't going to feel much emotion without lyrics.
Again, I don't care if you're Jimi Hendrix, your guitar playing won't instantly attract most girls unless you're in a band. Instead, use it as something that will surprise a girl after you've been building up a rapport with her already. Girls love mysterious guys, and if towards the end of the night, you all of a sudden come out of nowhere with some songs for her on acoustic guitar, she'll be extremely impressed and will also wonder what else you have up your sleeve.
Use your guitar playing to surprise her with your talent after building up rapport, and focus more on songs that will make her feel emotional than on songs that will showcase your full technical proficiency of the instrument.
Also, DO NOT be one of those guys who carries guitars around hoping to pick up chicks. Most of the time these guys will sit behind their guitars all night, rarely having social interactions. They expect that eventually chicks will come up to them because of their playing, but in reality, most girls are going to find them as providing background noise at best (and as annoying at worst), and they're gonna end up going home with a guy working his game instead of the dude banging on his six string.
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