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Author:  leonardo6008 [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 2:09 pm ]
Post subject:  anyone read Conquer Your Campus?
Hi,i'm a sophomore and one question about college game:
Has anybody read the book Conquer Your Campus?
What do you think of it?
Author:  Nova Casanova [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:34 pm ]
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No I haven't. Send it to me and I will. :)
Author:  leonardo6008 [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 3:20 am ]
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Quote:
No I haven't. Send it to me and I will. :)
oh actually, I am looking for someone to send it to me. LOL
Author:  Nova Casanova [ Sun Dec 12, 2010 9:41 pm ]
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http://thepiratebay.org/torrent/4453839 ... our_Campus
There it is.

I suggest we both start reading it and share our thoughts some days later?

Chès
Author:  tooothpick [ Tue Dec 14, 2010 2:43 pm ]
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Actually, I just read it... I'm going to start taking notes with every book I go through, have only done CyC so far. I'll share them below. :)

• University is a MASSIVE SOCIAL SCENE. The higher you are in the hierarchy (more social value), the more likely it is you will have success. The best way to accomplish this is by being a bridge (knowing everyone and connecting people). Hence, you need to meet a lot of people! Be as social as possible.

• This is because while guys are all about lifestyle value, girls are all about social value. If you are of higher social value, they will gain social value being around you, hence they want to be around you.

• Maintain your priorities. Have somewhere you’re going and working towards. This means you have to spend TIME pursuing your dream, improving your body, studying, and growing personally as well as pursuing a social life. This will ground you and give you a strong identity which is very attractive.

• If you do not like women, they will not like you. Stop being so misogynistic! Accept and love them for their quirks and differences. Don’t look at the bad shit, love them for their energy and cuteness and whatnot. It will change the way you act, and you will be more attractive for it.

• You have to add value. Pickup is typically about ‘taking’. Validating your ego, getting the girls you want, regardless of anything else. STOP IT. Start ‘giving’. Go out with the intention of having fun, and letting other people have fun, and sharing your energy around. The next point deserves its own dot point:

• LOVE EVERYONE. Don’t say a single negative word about people, don’t insult people, don’t avoid the ‘uncool’ kids at parties. Be nice to em, spread the love! You can still neg, but don’t do it to lower their value or anything, do it to tease them!

• The four traits you simply HAVE TO HAVE:
o Be fun (get involved in fun activities, and act fun)
o Be dominant (be clear about what you want and expect from others)
o Be a leader (take the initiative of organising events)
o Be easygoing (everything will be okay, so act like it!)

• Be fun. Do not try to get laid, kissed, etc. Just go out and focus on having and maximising the fun you have. Do not engage in approval seeking behaviour. No matter how subtle you think it is! Make a conscious effort to detect when you are saying something to seek approval. Instead, just focus on doing whatever makes YOU happy. Just SMILE AND LAUGH AND ENJOY.


• Be dominant. Don’t be afraid of expressing attraction towards women or your masculinity. Also don’t be afraid of touching everyone. Even the guys! Light punches, taps on the shoulder and elbow, hugs, whatever. Kino everyone. Don’t always offer, either! Be comfortable being physical.

• In relation to dominance, expect others to contribute to your reality. Don’t be afraid of telling someone to come help you do something! The catch is... you can’t just take. Reward them for contributing! A kiss on the cheek, a pat on the back, doing a favour for them later when they don’t ask for it... that is true dominance, because you’re choosing both for them to help you and to help them.

• Be a leader. You need to start planning nights out and social events in particular. That way you’re the hub of social activity and your social value skyrockets. Additionally, take initiative. If everyone is bored, either be the first to suggest going elsewhere, or starting a new and more fun activity. If your mate wants to meet a girl across the room, go start talking to her and bring him into the conversation. Always lead.

• And finally, be easy going. Basically, stop giving so much of a fuck about things. Rock up to a party expecting to make out with a certain girl, see her making out with another guy? Stop. Don’t rationalise, don’t fight it, don’t resist it. Accept it, don’t give a fuck, find something else to do and focus on having a good time anyway. Whenever you are confronted with an unfamiliar situation, step back, look at it, accept it, then re-engage.

• To achieve a state of being easy going, try to just slow down! Speak slower, pause somewhat, just act as though this were the most comfortable and relaxing situation in the world. And if all else fails... disassociate yourself from any negative emotions. Realise that those emotions are temporary, and that you are separate from them. Close your eyes. You are in a shell with that emotion. But outside of that shell, the whole world is mingling around you. Open your eyes, break through that shell, and choose to reengage without your negative emotions.

• Bonus trait – Be adventurous. This means being willing to try new things, new ideas and be spontaneous. This will go a long way towards proving you are comfortable with yourself, and fun. You want to emulate people who aren’t afraid to explore new avenues or lifestyles. The author emulated Tyler Durden, for instance.

• Bro’s before hoes. Always. Cover for them, but make sure they take responsibility if they need to. Live up to your own standards, and DEMAND they do the same, but in a loyal manner. Always act in a manner that demonstrates this loyalty and commitment, and expect the same back. If not, find better friends.

• Only hang out with people who contribute to your reality. If they only ever bring you down, continue to be fun and easy going with them (still show them love) but don’t let them break your frame. Hold the frame. Remember, if you’re spending more effort on her than she is spending on you, you’re chasing her, and that’s counterproductive and tiring.

• Always be happy to see your girls. When you see them, show enthusiasm. Remember spreading the love? If you are genuinely happy to see them and curious about what they’ve been up to, they will return the love.

• Be social, for the sake of being social, not for the sake of getting laid. When you cold approach, don’t think about ‘cold approaching’. Instead, just think about sharing good vibes and meeting new people for the hell of it.

• The best opener is: “Hey, what’s your name?”

• Get involved in your class, actively contribute to discussions and ask insightful questions. It draws attention to you so when you do strike up a conversation, you’re no longer a stranger, just another classmate. And for God’s sake, don’t wait until the end of semester to introduce yourself! Say hi to people immediately. But don’t pretend to be interested in the coursework! When you spoke to your friends in high school, did you come out of class talking about it? No. Just spread the love!

• If you’re going to a party, you have to add value. Provide alcohol, women, music, friends, poker set, magic tricks, your camera, friendly competition, anything that will make the party better. But above all, bring energy.

• Present a unified front. Wherever you go, whenever it is, don’t stop making new connections and friends. This means, whenever you’re not studying or working or in the gym, you should be out being social. Organise lunches, group study, chilling out after class, “hey, let’s all go out for pancakes tomorrow morning!”, whatever. Try to get to know everyone and you will be rewarded with massive social value.

• Get to know the area! If you know the absolute best bar or pizza joint nearby, an awesome spot under a bridge to chill out, a great beach, a spot with cheap movies, whatever, you have far more potential to contribute. When you’re out with mates, and you are stuck for ideas, you’ll have something to contribute.

• When organising an event, select two or three people to help you co-host it, with at least one girl (preferably two). They’ll bring their friends (guaranteed presence at the party) and you’ll meet far more people!

• Get to know some great drinking games. Suggestions include Never Have I Ever, Either/Or, Beer Pong, Flip Cup, Drinking Jenga, Quarters... Most importantly? Be the one to suggest these games start! Teach them to others!



• Don’t get bogged down in logic when you’re out. Sure, some women will want a discussion on world affairs (and hold on to them if they do!) but not when they’re out. When they’re out, logic and reaction seeking will only prevent attraction. They’re after fun. BUT you shouldn’t be trying to make them have fun – you should be having fun yourself, and sharing that with them.

• Stop worrying about routines. When you follow routines, you communicate with logic not emotion, and girls operate on emotion. Worry instead about projecting fun and masculinity. You can have routines, as long as they are used subconsciously and do not occupy your mind.

• The following are great techniques to create attraction. Use them even while building rapport.
o Playful misinterpretation
o Drawing conclusions or implications
o Push/Pull
For instance, if you opened by asking, “What are you studying here?” and she replies “Computer Science”, the following opportunities are open to you (in respective order):
• “What, like seeing which brand of computers are most flammable or something?”
• “So are you planning to work in tech support then?”
• “Nerd. Haha, just kidding, that’s awesome, takes a lot of smarts and patience to work in IT. You know, I should put a random comma in your programming sometime, it’d take you a week to find out what was going wrong.”

• The following are great things to talk about, but remember to be playful and attractive during this rapport building stage. Talk about things you want to talk about too, and find common interests (eg if she says she loves dubstep, your response would be “hey, awesome! Have you heard any of Nero’s stuff?”- that doesn’t build attraction, but it builds so much rapport it’s worth it for now... just remember to keep building attraction later)
o What they are studying (but don’t linger)
o How’d you spend your summer/winter/holidays/weekend?
o Favourite party games (if you can bring it in)
o What they aspire to be
o Music and concerts
o Their friends and relationships
o Travel and gap years

• You don’t need ‘game’ openers. Openers are designed to break down social barriers, but in university, they’re already broken down. Thus, they come off as trying too hard. Just use direct or situational openers instead.


• When building rapport, you should be doing the following:
o Qualifying her – is this someone you want to spend time with? Don’t think that just because she’s responding well you have to like her, that will be picked up as you lacking standards and lower your social value. See if her values, standards, ambition and lifestyle match up to your expectations.
o Flirting and building attraction – as noted above.
o Collecting information – Does she have a boyfriend? New to uni or been there for a while? Party girl or bookworm? Keep a mental note.

• On qualifying: Ask them questions on why they do certain things. If they give you a bad answer, lose interest slightly. If they give you a good answer, reward them (“Hey, that’s awesome!” “I respect that”. Remember that she needs to work to win you over, as you are the prize. You should express very high standards. Feel free to work in qualification games (“You lose props” etc), those are great.

• On gathering information: Just ASK. If you’re ten minutes into a conversation, and you’ve built attraction and rapport, it is fine to ask “so hey, are you single”? If she questions it, don’t apologise or back down. Go cocky funny instead. You’re a man and not going to hide from that.

• Remember venue change and escalation. Lead the girl around. Think about it; you’re essentially offering yourself as a prize. If she had to chase you around to get you, she will appreciate you so much more once she catches you. Here’s a very simple process for you to follow: Kino, lead, isolate. Kino all the way through.

• When attempting to close: Let things progress comfortably. If she’s resisting and it’s no longer fun for you, you’re doing it wrong. Remember, you should be focusing on maximising your fun and sharing it with her. If she’s not finding it fun, and you’re finding it a chore or treating it as a task and not something that’s just coming naturally, stop and do something else.

• Quick note about texting: Not too much, it’s especially important to be playful, and break up your texts (eg if you have three sentences you were going to put in one text, break that text up into two or three – it doesn’t matter if you don’t get to say exactly what you wanted to say, just go with it)

• Quick note about phone calls: Tell a fun story, make your plans, impart some love and energy, then get off the phone. If it’s more than ten minutes, you’re boring her and taking up too much time. Plus, obviously you’re not busy... hence lower social value.

• About dates: Avoid a proper date as much as you can. Study dates are great, going out for lunch is fine as long as she pays. No movie dates (unless you’re with a tonne of people) or dinner dates (even if she pays). Try to sit next to her, not across from her.

• Make your dorm room awesome. Posters of nature are awesome, and in particular beaches. Some artwork that interests you is good. If you can, keep red wine in your dorm with some glasses. If you have a stereo or speakers for your laptop (get them if you don’t), make sure to have some good music to play on them. Jack Johnson, Pete Murray, Cafe Del Mar, all that sorta shit. Girls love it. Have comfortable sheets, and keep your room clean as a whistle.

• In terms of fashion: Dark jeans, well fitting shirts (colours that suit you) and some decent sneakers will serve you well. The best dressers dress like everyone else but just a little nicer. Make sure it all ties together. You don’t have to spend a fortune or go around wearing dress shirts! Pay attention to how others are dressing and dress similarly, just better.

• All this shit will only work if... You put the effort in. Being social takes a lot of effort and energy. If you want to succeed, you have to be willing to put that energy in.
Author:  Silentman [ Fri Dec 17, 2010 5:22 pm ]
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Amazing Book
Author:  leonardo6008 [ Sat Dec 18, 2010 1:05 am ]
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yeah it really is a insightful and helpful book!
Thanks Mark the author
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