On one hand it has made me more successful in my own career but also I have learned some things that make me somewhat more paranoid about the people I know and the people I work with.
For example, the good:
At work I am more successful because of the PUA techniques, such as knowing how to 'read' people to close the deal. How to pick up girls (obviously). And how to compose myself in a desperate situation (maintaining control of my feelings, etc.).
Now for the bad:
Since learning NLP, I almost instinctively look for indicators in people, such as if they are lying to me, etc. This has somewhat dehumanized me and I view woman more as objects now instead of a human being since I catch so many of them lying to me. My problem is that once I catch a person in a lie, I cannot over come that aspect about them and that causes me to lose interest in them, effectively not giving them a second chance. Not sure if others feel this way but then again maybe I shouldn't give a rat's ass if all I want to do is hook up. Either way, if I am looking for more of a relationship, then I am always trying to see where they might slip up somewhere. Not only do I do this when dating, I also do this at work and find that my own peers lie, and they lie alot. So my faith in them and their work is now tainted.
I guess sometimes you just can't have your cake and eat it to.
Best,
J-Dub
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