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| Author: | dannydawiz [ Sat Oct 25, 2014 6:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Social Life In Jeopardy | How To Enjoy Friends |
Hey guys I'm here because I feel like that I have a problem with my social life that I need to get handled. Some background information. I'm 17 and a senior in high school. A lot of my time during high school was spent alone in a depression but HUNDREDS of psychological/self-help books later I just recently overcame it completely sometime around August. I would consider myself to be socially competent in the sense that I am by no means an awkward person to talk to. I can converse at a decent level but somehow I have A LOT of trouble keeping friends. One thing that I often struggle with is finding the motivation to actually go out and talk to new people. I can approach new people just fine if they are alone but I seem to have more trouble approaching if there is an actual group and I don't know anyone in it. I'm by no means a social outcast. Although I am usually alone there are plenty of people who know who I am. Being alone you can say after awhile became some sort of a social preference. I could just sit there and think to myself all day about previous observations or insights that I've came across. I feel like having friends are important though even if I can't really feel motivated to create any. I'm the kid at school who is usually either hopping from group to group or walking alone by himself. I have jock acquaintances, art acquaintances, musician acquaintances, stoner acquaintances, and gamer acquaintances. The reason why I say acquaintances is because although I can talk to these people if I wanted to I just don't see the joy in doing so. It's almost as If I lack the identity necessary in order to feel that sense of "belonging" with anyone. I often find that trapping yourself into any sort of identity just holds you back from being able to learn, change, and experience new things. I don't have low self esteem or anything. I don't perceive anyone including myself as being better or worse than anyone because I already understand that in an objective reality these things don't really exist. My sense of self-worth isn't based off of money, cars, clothes, looks, or the amount of women who like me. I've come a long way but for now I would like to get to the main point. Here are my main questions. #1. What Is a friend? #2. How important is it to have a social life and a group of friends? #3. Where does the motivation come from to actually want to go out with other people? #4. How do you actually enjoy talking to other people? #5. Why is it that even when I'm talking with a group of people I still feel alone? #6. Is not having any friends or being alone a sign of low value? I know this is a lot to ask for but I'm in desperate need of answers and I don't know where else to go. |
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| Author: | Leent1992 [ Fri Apr 10, 2015 7:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Social Life In Jeopardy | How To Enjoy Friends |
Do what you like, if you like staying at home then do that, if you like going out then do that, it's important to do what you like doing. I have a lot of friends who are always asking me to go out but I only go maybe once every two months or so because I like staying home. Plenty of teenagers like to stay home and read, this is not weird |
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